So Much To Do - Exhausting

So, the other day I was working, my normal 9-5 job, well actually 7-4, and as I was working I noticed how extremely exhausted I was. I was actually starting to make minor mistakes, you know like spelling errors not normally made. Of course I have spell check, but it starts become a nuisance and time consuming, so I steps out of my desk to go for a walk but I really only walked for about three minutes, when I usually walk all around our huge buildings. And that’s when I noticed I was exhausted.

Besides working a full-time job, I also, as you know, run several on-line businesses, not for the most part I don’t really do anything, except make sure my ads are running and working. I also, do Real Estate and I am a notary, the real estate business is slow, I do have two clients I am working with right now showing houses and most of the time one of the clients I show a few houses during the week after my 7-4 job. As for the other clients I usually show houses on Saturdays and mostly early morning between the hours of 9-12. So working these businesses has actually become tiring….now the funny thing is I started a new business, well actually not new, but is the other side of one of my online business. I worked now directly with real live people, training, support and encouragement. That business has really taken up any left over time I had, now please realize that I have a family, wife and 2 kids and well let me say, they require a lot of attention as well, so I need to be care on how I prioritize my time, so most of the time I find myself working late on the computer or phone. All this activity allows only for, say, 3-4 hours of sleep if I am lucky…sometimes I don’t sleep and just lay there. Now take all that into account plus the fact that I am getting older, not younger, and my body is feeling the pain. I know people that know me say I need to take it easy, but how I see it is, the way the economy is if  don’t generate enough income to put something away, I never know what would the future bring. I mean I could loose my job and then where would I be. So, as long as I can and while I am still young and able, then I work extra hard. I am pretty certain that eventually the online business(es) will bring in enough money to where I can stop working a full-time job and concentrate on the businesses, my own, that are generating income. Of course like many, I would like to build some money so I can start making it work for me…I know it can it’s the fact that we need to build a large enough amount in order for it to make any dents on our finances.

The thing is, that’s is why I have not been able to dedicate more time to my blog and Pod Casts, I actually really enjoy doing them both, but my time has been taken over with all of these things…take it, they are not bad, but you know…my body is seriously getting tired. There are times I really feel like just shutting out the world for a whole weekend…have someone to pamper with food, drink and all I have to do is sit watch TV, sleep  and well just relax and let me recharge…and I think a whole weekend is required…maybe three days.  Anyhow, so why am I writing this…sounds sort of negative…but maybe because I wanted to share what I am feeling and why it is happening, also…maybe it’s good to share…in case there are other’s like me out there doing what I am doing…it’s a wake up call, a reality check…to take a step back and take some time to relax…seriously. I should take my own advice and see if this is possible…I know I have kids and wife…so it could be tough, but if we or I don’t do something quick I will simply flop over dead or run rabid screaming like a mad man when I loose a screw in my head…geez.

Well, thanks for reading and I hope everyone out there is doing great, I hope to post again soon, till next time this is Latino Man signing off.

Communication – My Favorite Topic

Ok, this one is classic, I was at work the other day and I joked with someone to close out a maintenance ticket, he laughed and said he doesn’t do anything unless he gets an email…I laughed and said what’s that…no one uses email anymore…it’s all about the texting. Well, several people were in the room and starting laughing, one actually said that was funny because that is how she usually talks to her boyfriend. I was totally taken by that comment and then I began to think…you know, that’s were our society is going to…no more human interaction.

Now, I thought about that and I look back at my previous relationship and when I think about the actual times we talked…I released that most, if not all, were done over the phone. We actually never talked while we were next to each other. Yah, of course like I said before, the whole dating thing and courtship is always wonderful and memorable, but what happens once you become a couple or even married…why does the communication stop and either completely no communication or you end either talking on the phone most of the time, he’s at work, she’s at work or like now-a-days texting.

Texting has become the main stream of how we now communicate. I mean there is even position within companies with the actually title of Social Network manager or even CEO…crazy, these people get hire don to Tweet, and manage any Social network sites that the company might use to drive consumers to their business, product or service.

The thing is that texting, Tweeting and other social networks has also taken a huge piece of relationships, I have heard and seen couples talk about, hey did you see my Tweet or did you see the new pictures of our children I have on Face Book? How does it work now that in order to get to know someone you need to be connected to some type of Social Network, I mean is that the way we are going to courtship the love of our lives? Is this the new way dating by skipping any happy hours or dates in order to get to know someone? I could see it now, you are at a club and walk up to someone and you say, so you tweeting or Face booking? They respond, yah…you respond…sweet…what’s your user name / handle…and the relationship begins. That sounds crazy.

Think about it…you are married for 10-15 years and the only thing you need to do is log on to a Social Network and see what your wife or husband are doing or up to. Are serious, I am amazed that it seems we are headed in that direction…before you know it…communication will be completely not required and human interaction will be obsolete. Ok…Ok…yah maybe I am exaggerating a little or a lot, but I am only stating what I hear and what I see…and social networking to texting is so common now that well, who needs to talk.

Anyhow, thanks for reading my abruptly post, I just thought that was totally funny to hear that girl say that she doesn’t really talk to her guy, but mostly text…and when they are at home they just either watch TV or each our on their computers surfing the net…wow…ok.

My Perspective:

I hope that I am totally crazy and that we can somehow continue with the human interaction, you know Happy Hours, Dates, Gathering, BBQ’s…because if you can't sit with someone and simply talk to one another…then what would the relationships come to. Please remember the dates, I know many of us have gone through some bad dates, but that doesn’t mean you can still have fun and that there are actually good people out there…really.

Thanks for reading till next time Latino Man signing off.

Biggest Losers – Contest
So, I am writing this post to let you know that I will be participating in a Biggest Looser contest at work. There will be two winners; one winner that looses the most weight and one winner that looses the most percentage of weight. So, it’s actually a sign, because I being meaning to get back into shape, and I have off and on the past month or more, but nothing really serious, so now with a little competition and some money involved...i think I will be more inclined to stick to it…lol…we’ll see.
Anyhow, I have never watched the show Biggest looser, I have heard that it can get extreme sometimes, not sure in what content, but anyhow, this is a perfect opportunity for me to give it a go and really try and loose some weight. Now, take it, I have been told that I really don’t need to loose that much, but you know…I want to get back to that high school weight (LOL), crazy I know…but let’s see what comes about. Actually I am waiting to see how many people are going to participate, because at $20 dollars a head…yah…that could be a substantial amount…I mean there are quite a few people working on this second floor between all the departments under my boss…so…I am waiting to see.
So, that’s funny that’s my word of the day, “So”, I’ll be using it through this post…lol. So, just kidding, I am looking at the people in the departments and man, is not far fetch to say that 90% of the people are under 25 years of age…you know how it is with metabolism, when you get older it doesn’t work as good, so I’ll have my work cut out for me…so I made a decision, I’ll be doing lots of cardio, you know running and now I will be adding jump roping…it really does burn calories and it build up my leg strength which is an area I do need to bring back up to par. Anyhow, I am looking forward to this and hoping to actually stick to it and well…you know…I need to get motivated…and I am hoping to keep the motivation up through the extent of the competition…I have seen many drop out half way through…hmmm…not sure if I mentioned, the competition will start on October 4 and run through December 10^th…so lets see how many start out and how many are left at the end.
I’ll do what I can to post each Friday my weigh in, since that’s what we are doing, I am hoping for some good results come December 10^th. So, wish me luck and let the weight “Loss” begin.

Till next time…Latino Man Signing Off….keep healthy, have fun and don’t stress.

Extreme Hot – Weather

So, I am writing this post because it is one of the hottest days in our wonderful city, so extremely hot that the office air conditioning unit broke, couldn’t handle the extreme hot weather. So, the part that is needed is in Tennessee, so it could be a few days before it gets here. In the meantime they sent everyone home from the office and only a handful of people stayed.

Now, I know that maybe 108 is not so hot for some folks, but when you are use to nice comfortable weather, and this happens, it sort of throws your day for a spin and bit difficult to work. Also, the funny thing is that they send out a global email, letting everyone know that you can wear shorts and sandals tomorrow, Tuesday, of course they did mentioned we need to use good judgment…lol. You never know…might get some Daisy Dukes in the office…LOL. Anyhow, so tomorrow should be an interesting day because it will be the most casual we will al see each other…oh yah no spaghetti straps for the ladies…need to hide the under straps…if you know what I mean…hmm.

So one thing about having air conditioning, someone mentioned to me…that it is funny how people now-a-days complain about a little hot weather, well even if it is only for a day. As a society we have come to expect comfort in our everyday lives, I mean think about it…when we were farmers…did we have air conditioning or wait…aren’t there parts of the world where people don’t have air conditioning, windows and even a descent roof over there heads…and man we complain. I guess it’s natural…and a norm. But still…I am continued working my full 8 hours, reason was, had lots of work due by October 1^st and I could not take the risk of falling behind, hey I need to keep this job…even if there is no AC – LOL.

So my thing is that tomorrow the company allowed for people to use Shorts and Sandals, but to use good judgment. My thing is I want to see how many people get sent home because of daisy Dukes or something else…LOL. I am actually looking forward to tomorrow…even with this hot weather. You, I am a guy and Latino, I am looking forward to seeing more legs tomorrow…lol.

Anyhow, hope everyone is hanging in there through this hot weather…for those that are experiencing it..if not…well then thanks for reading till next time, Latino Man signing off.
 

New Blog Name – Same Latino Man

So here I am again, I am sure many of you might have noticed my new Blog name, I felt that it had a negative ring to it, so I wanted to actually keep it more in line with who I am…a Latino, and of course I’ll continue to share my thoughts, ideas, short stories and anything else I may be inclined to share. I think reading blogs is a little safer that the Twitter, Face Book and other large social networks sites, only saying…not stating that these places are bad, just that well…you know...you’ve heard what has happened and of course it’s also my opinion to any facts.
Anyhow, so I wanted to change the sound of my blog, but nothing else will change. So let me cover a topic or discussion on something I feel is important. Over the years as I was growing up, you grow up hearing or believing or getting taught certain social do’s and don’ts. And one such thing is the whole concept of a Man or Woman that happens to stare, in a kind way, at the opposite sex, because they are either extremely indulges, beautiful, curvy, muscular, or what ever might have caused him or her to look at that other person. Of course as kids we are taught not to stare, it is not nice. But seriously, if you think about, we stare at many other things, and yah take it they maybe be not human but the concept to me is the same.

So let’s say, you are having dinner and a waiter walks by with something that smells good, as a reaction we have a tendency to follow the smell and hope to get a glimpse of the dish. Of course you are staring and the individuals that gets the dish feels your look, you smile and they may say…this is a wonderful dish…you then think…hmm…maybe I should give it a try. Now, as a guy, we have a tendency to stare at cars, whether old or new, if there is something about it that we like, we will stare. Obviously the person that owns the car, either feels the stare and smiles, and you give a thumbs up or if its in a drive way, the owner might come out and spark a conversation about the car…nothing wrong…right. Now, women…and I speak by experience; have a tendency to stare at clothing or other articles of clothing that maybe worn by other women. Now,  some women that are being stared at have an issue and maybe walk away briskly, may snap at you or you could kindly say, “Nice Dress”, what happens next is probably a light conversation of the material and where she might have purchased it…nothing wrong…right. So you could probably think of countless scenarios of such things when people stare, and most of the time is properly done; really only state that you like what you see…and nothing else comes about from it.
Now, let's use another example, “People”. Men and Women since probably the beginning of time have a tendency to look at one another as you stroll by each, because of some peculiar feature they may have. Now, some people or possibly most individuals will get insulted and either thinks something is wrong with the person staring or you maybe a pervert of some sort. Now, I see it as a total compliment, you see if I had a girlfriend and people stared at her because she was beautiful, in either having a well plump breast, nice rear or long beautiful legs, I wouldn’t mind, why…because at the time of the incident the person staring simply was attracted by something he or she, yah I said she, like about my girlfriend. And it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if a guy happens to walk by and was tall, dark, well built, nice chest, beautiful eye or even a nice rump and my girlfriend or significant other stared…hey…that is totally natural, why, because we are humans and we all like nice things…so it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if I or any man for that mater, happen to see a women walk by and stared,  you know in a kind way, to me that woman should feel complimented; now here comes a clarification to that last statement…and I only say these from my experience. Young women are more easily offended by a guy staring…but older women actually welcome the stare…why is that…it should be ok for all women, young and old to not be offended by a staring man or women…it should come to them  as a compliment and acknowledgement that you are attracted in some way…a good thing.
Now, the only problem I say with “Staring” is if you are actively involved with someone, and you acted on your staring…that could lead to an issue. You see…I think staring is ok, healthy and should be treated as only that, a stare and a compliment. But if you, or your significant other acted on the stare, with a flirt, smile, wave and then into a little more than…juts a hello…then of course that is where the problem is…then it leads to a totally different topic…”Cheating”.

But for now, lets stick to Staring, If you stare, your significant other stares or maybe you are being stared at…don’t worry or let it bother you…take it as a compliment and acknowledgement that you or that person is simply attracting our senses…and nice things and nice to look at.
My Perspective:If someone stares at you or your significant other stares at someone else…don’t worry…don’t let it bring down your world, because in the long run…the stare is simply as I said…an acknowledgement that you have or they have a particular feature that simply is – Eye Pleasing – . I think you should start worrying when no ones pays attention to you…even if you flaunt it…and no ones stares…that’s when you worry.
Thanks for reading, till next time keep it simple, don’t worry about all the little things and accept that stare as a compliment.

Bad Relationships -

So, I have a pet peeve…I guess and I wanted to get it out, maybe someone is going through this or maybe someone will realize that any information or thoughts mentioned herein…will help someone out. Anyhow, ok so my thing is relationships…ok. I probably touch on this topic a lot and maybe sometimes it may sound like a broken record…yap…yap…yap. Ok, so you may say, but you know I’m not alone and with today’s Twitter, Face Book, MySpace and the hundreds of Social networks…people now can get their thoughts out into the masses. The only thing that stinks is that you will always have some hacker out there trying to break into these sites, and run havoc on people…why…probably because they can…who knows, but any how, back to relationships.
I recently wrote an entry related to my sister-n-law and her situation on her marriage and it has stuck to me. I mean I can’t get it out of my mind why in the world anyone would want to go back to that kind of life. Now, I will not recap the story, please feel free to read the entry in its entirety posted on September 22, 2010. Anyhow, so, the thing is why are there men and women out there, since probably the beginning of time accepting this. When I was a kid, I heard the same stories, as I grew up and was involved in relationships I heard the same stories, of abusive boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. As I got older and out of high school things didn’t get any better…they were the same, whether you lived in the hood or in the Hamptons…it was the same story. Now that I am older, I think, why if we are incredible creatures that can adapt to almost every environment, have landed on the moon, have gone deep into the water, climbed incredible mountains, built incredible structures…science…technology…so why with everything we are capable of doing to we continue to fall into those kinds of relationships…why do they exist?

Seriously…I have had heard every and all the excuses you can imagine…from you don’t now what my life is about to…I love him or her and everything in between and outside and beyond, but what makes it still in existence….why do we fall prey to those kinds of situations. But that’s the ½ of it…what gets to me is that there are actually good people out there really wanting to work at a relationship, that will make it as though they just first met…every day will be like the first time they met…love, laughter, communication and well…come one…that great stuff you both turned over in bed and said WOW…that was amazing…can I get seconds. I mean making love isn’t just about screwing, its about the feeling you have when you caress the person, or kiss their neck and pass your hands over they body; it’s the kissing, the playful smile, the closeness you feel all over when you are butt naked and close to one another. The sensation is one that you both always remembered, but some how lost…with the kids and careers. I mean relationships…everyone talks about it being a job, that you both have to work at it to make it work…a JOB…are you serious, that should be the last thing it should be. It should be something that is as natural as flowing water. There should be no work involved…you should be excited in seeing your partner inn life…everyday you should wake up with a smile, not only because you are alive…but that someone is right next to you…sharing your happiness, your dreams and you.

I mean when did it begin to bother you or him that you gained some pounds or got a little hairier or crows’ feet started appearing…or even your boobs sagging…or his balls sagging…when did that become a problem. Don’t you remember the long showers you took together…come on did you really have time to expect your partner…NO…you were to busy enticed with the softness of her body or the strength of his chest and arms…the kissing the sound of the water pouring out…it never bothered you before…so why now.

People get married because they found a partner, someone that makes them complete…yah I said complete…you know why…because if there were only men or women on this planet…believe me…sooner or later there would be extinction…and no I am not talking about gays or lesbians…I am talking about two creatures that when together create life, not only children…but life together…if you know what I mean. That’s why people get married, it’s the bond, the feeling of accomplishment, the feeling of being scared of what the future will hold for both of you…you both share in that dream, that feeling…that’s why you become complete. I don’t believe that people bring in another human being solely to follow in all the badness that is around us…we have off springs because it is a reflection of the love you both have and that child will not only feel the love of the parents but is there to learn to be a BETTER person, contributor to society, to your family tree…you want people to get better…not worse. Yah we all have are ups and downs and everyone can come to me with an excuse…but you know…that’s exactly what they are excuses…because deep inside every one of us…we love the feel of freedom, happiness and love. That’[s what we are meant to do…that’s what we should do and do it.

I don’t know…I see this happening all around me, and sometimes I see my relationship and wonder what happen…I don’t want a job…we should solely be together…happy…as one…work is left outside not in a relationship…it shouldn’t take work.

My Perspective:
I am saddened by the things I hear, and see. Why such beautiful people revert back to living a hell of a life…and the excuses and comments from those that tell me I don’t have a clue…well…I do…and I just think they don’t. So, please step back from an abusive relationship and seriously think about yourself and what you really want…I can tell you this much….it will have happiness somewhere in there.

Thanks for reading Latino Man Signing Off.

 

Going Back –



So, I not sure if anyone remember me talking about a sister – n – law I have that is pretty well off, financially. Well, she was going through some trouble times with her husband and was in the process of a horrible divorce battle. Ok, let me recap, they live in Mexico, Ensenada, about 2 hour and 30 minutes south of the boarder of San Diego, CA. They started a small company, refilling ink cartridges and well long story short, they turned it into an empire, pretty much having all the market areas from Tijuana to Ensenada, government offices, large and small business and of course the individual consumer.

Anyhow, the husband has a tendency to cheat and was caught in several uncompromising positions, besides being a tyrant, pretty much keeping his wife as a prisoner in a golden palace, he was pretty much a weirdo…when it was done and said. Anyhow, so she left him several months ago and with a large sum of money…he gave her. Now, the divorce, I take it took for a turn he did not like and pretty much closed all the doors for her, well, being the high spender she and he knew this, it was a matter of time where she would return to him and the money…I say the later part.

So in other words she went back, to the no friends, only those he says are ok, no tight shirts or low neck line, no skirts unless they are covering your ankles, no coffee with friend, no movies, hey why since they have a home movie theater, hmmm…let me see…oh yah no outings, and you need to work you’re A$$ of even though you are the owners wife…don’t want any wife of mine sitting at home being lazy, life AGAIN. I don’t understand, I know that maybe she got accustomed to the finer things in life, but what things, when you were either at work from 8-8 and stuck at home the rest of the time. Why…why would anyone go back to being a prisoner? Is the money really that important…or is it really that she really does love him?

Let’s assume that cheating was not the issue here, but the whole being locked up…it just doesn’t make sense to me…being a prisoner is a crazy idea…even with all the money in the world…loosing your freedom…that just does not sit well with me. What you can or cannot wear, who you can or cannot be friends with, including your own family. Having restrictions on whom you can talk with…is beyond understanding with me…yet…people…women and men…always or almost always end up going back to that person. And yet you have the nice men and women out there, always get the short end of the stick or short end of a relationship in this story. It drives me bananas…and I am sure I am not the only one that feels the same way. The only thing that I see that could come out of her going back…is disastrous in all the content of that relationship.

If someone continuously checked my phone, or emails, or would object to what type of clothing I could wear, or the friends I can have had to be approved by my significant other…that would not sit with me. Even if I didn’t have to work, and she provided everything I could dream of, cars (Lamborghini), nice clothes, nice vacations, money too spend, but I was not allowed to see certain people or even family members, could not go to the movies or anywhere else for that matter because we had a home theater or a , was restricted on whom I could see or talk to…that money or material things I’d let go in an instant…and live on the streets if I had to…before having to live my life in that matter…I just can’t see or believe it…that as people anyone can handle that sort of life with anyone…yet we hear it ALL the time. And it happens to friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, etc.

Another instant, a person I know…had an abusive husband literally had been sent to jail over 10 times…yet he was welcomed back each time. Then the finally or better said he finally left…live on his own…never bother with the 2 children…no support…nothing. Now, I come to hear she went back to him, but wait…it gets better…during the 6-8 months they were separated and in the process of a divorce she was his bootie call, can you believe that! But now he says he will go to anger management with her…wait…why her, because it seems when they got into physical fights, she would hit him as well, with objects, fists, etc….so she was just as much to blame…now they are getting back together…but wait…when you see her in person…and ask her how she feels…she actually states that she is scared…scared…then why go back to him and that type of life.

I don’t get it…OK…don’t come and tell me its love and that leaving someone is SO hard, because you know what…that is the biggest crock of crap that I have heard and you have heard…and you know it. So why do people do it, hey I heard about this stuff when I was a kid, and I heard it from my parents…it never changes…

My Perspective:
EVERYONE deserves to be happy, so whether you are poor, rich, middle class, or whether you have a job or don’t, or are in a relationship or not…but when you are with someone that makes your life miserable…you need to suck it up and move on. I seriously cannot believe that anyone human is willing to take or live in that kind of abuse…”Love Hurts” you say…baloney. And don’t come telling me I don’t have a clue about what you or anyone lived…and that every situation is different and that this and that is an excuse, or that he or she will change or that my kids are in the middle…no…keep that all to yourself…because I do not buy…and if you are buying into it…then that is you…and if you step back and look at your life and are not happy then you need to find the strength to get out while you still can…it is never too late…never.
Thanks for reading and I hope that for those out there living as prisoners, living in a verbal or physical abusive relationship, living with out freedom….I wish you the strength to find a way out and live as everyone is meant to live…HAPPY. Signing Off…till next time

I Have the Issue - ???

So I wanted to get your opinion, or well, maybe not an opinion, but I wanted to share my situation. This was brought up during a heated discussion, just like many couples people argue about different things and one of the most common things is finances. Now, I have already moved on, but in a recent discussion, this was brought up…more of a blame on me for what was happening, but like I shared with her I wanted to share with you…see if maybe I was in the wrong, so please read on.

So, let’s just say…your significant other build widgets and after all costs, make a profit of $100 dollars. Ok, so you really don’t know what the make, but if you see 10 widgets shipped per week, then you can conclude that they are selling 10 widgets a week for $100 dollars each, and this is continuous…ok. So you guess-timate $1000 per week, but when it comes time to deposit into your mutual bank...it is 1500 every 2-weeks…so you ask yourself…what is going on with the other $500…so you ask and they tell you that NO, they deposited all the money…and other reasons. But I ask, I work a full-time job, bust my hump and I am a Realtor and Loan specialist, I also have my Notary license and I run a website business…so I believe that I have the right to get cranky, because every month if you struggle to make ends meet…you end up getting tired and frustrated, because you know there are an additional 1000 a month that you have no clue where it is going. Wait…I am using this as an example, in my case it is thousands of dollars a month un-accounted for…and when I ask…they get defensive and worst of they wonder why I am in such a PISSY mood everyday.

So I ask, if you had a partner that you could guess pretty darn close what the make and you noticed they don’t deposit a lot of it…wouldn’t you be a little PISSY? Especially if you BUST your hump to provide...towards the family. That was the last discussion I was in, why was I always in a bad mood and it wasn’t nice to live with someone that was always in a bad mood…so…I guess I was the problem in this relationship.

You know though, I hear her talking to her friends and I hear some conversation about the husbands…I heard one where the husband got upset and threw out the wife in her underwear and bra in the middle of the night…she had to walk/run more blocks to get to her moms house. Ok, then I hear one where the husband won’t change a diaper, won’t cook, won’t clean, won’t do a single thing around the house to help and they both work. He comes home late or whenever he likes and expects a warm dinner and a warm bed, then I heard one of the husbands does not allow her to wear lowcut shirts, short dresses or tight dresses, no shorts, no bathing suites, no makeup, she cannot go out with friends, unless he is there…wait…the best part is, he goes out with his friends and stays out late hours of the night…no..wait, he sometimes does not come home, he verbally abuses her..seriously…pretty much she is locked up in a 10,000 square foot mansion…with no outside connection…so you tell me…I was the issue here.

Now, I am not perfect at all, I have a temper, but it takes a lot to get that out, but I don’t care what she wears, I prefer sexy, I don’t mind she goes out with friends, she can come home whenever…I trust her, she can pretty much buy anything, within reason, I don’t argue over petty things, I work hard, as I said, I have a fulltime job, make good money, I am a realtor, close deals, I have my notary, have provided services, run a website, pays for itself and provides a little money..which all goes directly into our mutual account…come…I guess I am the problem. So with that said, I decided to move on and make everyone happy…by removing the problem from the equation.

But what drives me bananas is all those other husbands or boyfriends getting away with it and I have a problem…the problem of being lied to in the face…I guess being lied to is not wrong…if no one really pays attention to it…I guess. Anyhow, thanks for reading and I hope to write some more.
For now, Latino Man signing off...wishing you a calm day, one where you can maybe ignore the issues for just a little while.

Realization – Comes Crashing Through

So I had one of those reflection again, you know those that you step back and realize just what the heck is going on. Well, it happens to me every so often and with it a piece of reality comes crashing into me, so I have to take it like a man, sort of speaking, and well deal with it. So, this time I finally realized that after nearly a decade of searching and working hard to build residual income, I believe I found the one thing that will work. I mean , it more like running a business, and dealing with individuals, but if you think about it that usually what makes people money, owning a company where people you hire perform a service or produce something, so even though there are tons of affiliate programs out there, and they do work, but you do have to be persistent with them and most importantly patient, because they won’t produce money over night and of course you’ll need to spend money the first two or so years to make money. But what happens most individuals don’t have the patience and end up giving up early and then blaming it on the system, when in fact it was them all along. Just like any business, whether you open a restaurant, night club, it is proven that the first two years is where most people give up and their business fails, yah of course you need a plan, but if you follow a plan that is already working, then all you have to do is follow it and stick to it.

So, with that said, I wanted to share with you this thought, “The economy is looking grim, people are failing every where from their jobs, to their mortgage payment to their family and it doesn’t look pretty, but I think this is the best time to start learning something new, take things by the balls and go for it, I know it takes money to make money, but see about taking out a small business loans, or getting together with family, friends, ok…so you had a bad experience with a friend or family, but that doesn’t mean you are older and wiser now and can set certain things into place to protect all involved…and then it could work. Believe in your self, believe on what you are doing but most importantly do something that is already working, or market the way something is already marketing and working…look, read, decide and hang tough, don’t give up…it will take several years to see anything worthwhile, the first 2 years are the most important, those two years weed out the successful business from those that only wished. I believe you believe, don’t let negative people, family friends step on your dreams, because in the long run you are the one living this life as you, you are the one that is part of your children and spouse or mate…and everyone else can simply run in the rat race if they want. I believe it is possible, if I can do it, so can others. And remember always help others along your road to success and you will receive two-fold for your kindness - So get up, shut up and put up.

Thanks for reading and remember this is the time to pull away from everything else bad going around you. Till next time, may success be with you each and every day. Latino Man Signing Off.

Female Traits That Men Can't Resist
by YourTango.com

Women know what they want, they just don't know always how to tell us men. One thing women as a rule do not want is this guy: Jack McJerkface. While irresistible women will likely still attract the McJerks, she'll also attract the Mr. Perfects.

There's a lot of conflicting dating and pickup advice out there: play hard to get, don't play hard to get, be yourself, be a sports fan, be sexy but still down to earth, the list goes on. Here I've compiled 7 traits any straight man undoubtedly finds irresistible. 3 Secrets To Exuding Sexy

So, do one or all of these things to get our attention... and then keep us calling you for date after date.

1 She's Funny. One of the easiest (and surprisingly least-practiced) methods of convincing us we made the right choice in talking to you is when you respond to our jokes instead of simply laughing at them. If you're heehawing at our wisecracks, wonderful—just make sure you don't leave a dead silence at the end of each one or we're going to think you're expecting a stand-up routine. We want a woman who's our conversation partner—not just an adoring fan.

2. She's Somewhere Between Aloof And Instantly In Love. As the law of supply and demand goes, we want to crave your attention before we get it. Once we have it, though, it's nice to be reminded that you only have eyes for us.

3. She's Fashionable—But Not Obsessively. If you spend most of your time and energy on clothes and shoes, we may suspect you are a bit superficial. Can we not sit around in our underwear once in a while if we're feeling depressed? (OK, a very rare "once in a while," fine.) We like a woman who minds her appearance but who also knows that being attractive is more about confidence than owning Manolos. Surprise: Men Primp As Much As Women Do

4. She's Healthy—But Not Obsessively. Obviously men dig a woman with a kickin' body, but not if it means she spends more time in the gym than she does with us. Likewise, we'll forgive you for eating a salad on a first date but not every date for the rest of our lives. Remember, men like curves and women who can bench-press us are somewhat frightening.

5. She's Down To Earth. The type of attention a drama queen demands from men is not the sort of genuine, will-love-you-forever attention women deserve. We like a woman who forgives the occasional stupid move. If we say the wrong thing in a casual conversation and it wasn't racist or an otherwise idiotic remark, she remembers that, as humans, we are going to disagree with at least 25 percent of everything anybody says, and so, she lets it go. Signs You're Just Not That Into Him

6. She Resists Adding Us On Facebook. Where do you want this relationship to go? If you answer, "I'm not sure" or anything other than "to the friend zone with you!" then you should not be friending us on Facebook until it's established that we are more than chummy. I recently had to unfriend two women I dated because they friended me before we ever went out and it didn't work out with either. Don't make us the bad guys.

7. She Returns Our Phone Calls. I know it seems like calling a woman is no big deal because we are grown men, but every time we dial a number for the first time, we are terrified that one of the following things will happen: a) you won't remember us, b) we have to think of something witty to say on your voicemail. Unless we were total jerks to you (in which case you shouldn't have given us your real number), call us back ASAP.

8. She's Passionate But Isn't A Zealot. TomFoolery blogger Tom Miller says: "It's inspirational when anyone is really into something. Whether it's a cause, a hobby or a job, seeing what gets a lady fired-up makes her more attractive (unless it's dog fighting). Zeal does have its limits, however. Fifty hours of work per week plus another fifty hours of decoupage doesn't leave much time for dating or finding new passions as a couple"

9. She Has Friends. Another one from TomFoolery: "While approaching a gaggle of gals is a little intimidating, dating the lone shewolf is even scarier. It's nice to know that we can spend some guy time or alone time and not have someone lonely, disappointed and thinking of revenges for this slight. Plus maybe one of your friends will like one of our friends, and who doesn't like people helping people? The downside is when your friends are jerks, jealous of our time or totally up in our couple business." Being Popular Makes You More Attractive.

My Perspective:
Be yourself, don't over do it, and yes...guys may be guys, but deep down inside we like the cuddling, the birthday fuss and there isn't one guy out there that doesn't. He might now show it or he  might seems the tough guy, but you ladies know, when he is behind closed doors, you know him. Ladies be approachable, give it a go, don't think all guys are assholes...because you might just...might let the one get away.

Till next time, thanks for reading and have fun...Latino Man Signing Off.

Life Changing Decisions

So the time comes when you have to make probably one of the most difficult decisions you need to make. Millions of people through out the world do it, something in your life that could be a tremendous life changing experience. And the worst part is when innocent people are caught in the middle of these decisions. Whether it can be a life threatening decision, job change decision, relationship decision whatever is thrown on you. The thing is, I think that some of these life changing experience are for the better and as individuals I believe we have the knowledge and set of mind to make it through them; of course there are plenty of support groups out there for everything from death in the family, domestic violence, divorce, alcoholism, gambling, the list goes on. But with that said, if you have a life changing decision, there is help and we can usually make it through those decisions.

Anyways, history has shown that you are not the only one in whatever position you are in…in other words you are not alone, millions of people have gone through or going through what you are experiencing. Yah you can say that maybe we don’t understand what you are going through, and yah each case can be a (little) different, but the outcomes are always the same to someone else that has already gone through it. Take for instance a divorce. You either divorce on a good basis or a bad basis. You either both agree on the terms, or you both fight like wild animals in court trying to take the other for what ever they can…so two outcomes...that’s it. How you get there may be different for each marriage or relationship. Some people go through years of abuse, some are married for 20-30 years and just end up getting divorced, financial stress, intimate stress and so on. The trip to the divorce might be different, but the outcome is always the same.

Now, one thing that I have noticed more and more these days, because of the economy, that people that are getting divorce are doing so with a little twist. Now, this is not for everyone but the way it is happening for some couples is; if they have decided on a divorce, the couple agrees to a living arrangement in the interim, because of financial hardships that come with divorces. It also saves money between the couple so they do not complete the process, until the financial arrangements can be justified for them to live in separate housing. Once the time comes they can complete the divorce settlement and move forward with their lives. Now, some of these agreed living arrangements might be awkward, but the couples live their lives as though they are roommates, they each go about their lives with some of the couples actually dating. Yet the respect to not bring other boyfriends or girlfriends to the house holds. Yah, it’s not the best arrangement, but times change and adjust to whatever life is throwing at them, so even though this might have been frowned upon 10 years ago, it has become the norm. You can find articles on the internet on couples that live this way and it amazing to see, but of course eventually the day does come when they each take different housing.

But the thing I was trying to say is that millions of people have gone though or going through what ever you are going through…someone out there does understand and there are support groups to help you through these decision or experiences. So maybe it’s time to move on and do what needs to be done, yah ok…there maybe other individuals involved, maybe children, but I am pretty certain that everyone involved will be better off with the decision and time heals, communication opens doors and you are not alone…support groups are out there. So take the next step with confidence, assurance that you will be a happier person, the people around you will be happier and you life will return back to you with some kind of relief, or weight lifted off your shoulders.

You know I am probably writing all this because of me…ok yah I am…maybe I need to put these thoughts down on paper. I live in and out of my current housing…mostly out this last month…but yah I have been told to simply leave and that I am making things harder. But I am in one of those situations where it’s not all about me or her, or even the kids….it’s about doing it correctly and mostly ease into it. The economy is not helping out at all…looking for a rental is not cheap, considering the deposit, first months rent, electricity, phone, water, internet, etc. and not to mention the essential things in living such as a couch, a bed, plates etc…it all ads up and trying to do it while maintaining a house, and those expenses…it can over take your plans. Yah I could run out and let the courts work it out, but then that would affect too many people in the wrong way. And maybe that’s why I am writing this…to simply let me know that the time has come and that I seriously know I am not alone out there…others have gone through it and many more are going through it right now…so…how about we all together take that first step into that life experience changing “Decision”, whatever it maybe…we can all get through it. You know though I do have to say that they stinks…these decisions…that obviously change your life…wow.

My Perspective: Life always throws things at you, the outcome is always the same in whatever situation you are in, the road might be different getting there, but just like many have gone through them and made it…so can you or me for that matter. Just remember things, do, happen for a reason…make the best of it…we as humans have a desire to be happy, successful and survive, we can do it…I know so…just look back in history of mankind and look at your friends, cousins, family…it’s everywhere…it’s your time….it’s my time.

Good luck and stand strong, thanks for reading…till next time…Latino Man signing off.