Mens Magazine – Not the Same

I thought this was interesting. Now, I have read Men’s Health magazine and other men’s magazine, not Playboy, but other magazine. Any how, lately I have been reading Cosmopolitan, yah I have been reading that. You know I think I even posted about an article I read in it a few blog post ago. Anyhow, so I come to realize when doing a comparison that women magazine provide their reader, which is women targeted, with more information on how to court a man, keep a man or simply make a man happy. Now, there are some articles that directly tell women on what to say to their man in order for the women to get her thing on…or even have a fantastic “O”.

So, I was reading and I started comparing and I realize that the men’s magazine’s don’t provide that kind of insight or articles. It would be great to have article that tell men on experiences that other men have had, maybe dealing with sexual issues, or dealing with kids, or things that are on every mans mind, when they are single and when they are married or in a relationship. You been in my forties, I have had the opportunity to hear a lot of men’s issues with heir girlfriends, or wives and seriously they always seems to be similar issues among all the men I talked to. So if there are men out there that have been able to get through these concerns, then why not right an article about it…maybe not everyone might agree with the idea, but that’s what it would be, and idea, and options…some kind of light at the end of the tunnel.

I mean…women complain that men’s mind are simple, or single minded…only on sex, well, I hate to break the news to you ladies, but that is not completely true. We enjoy sex…heck…I know most women also. But there are other things that we would like as well. I am pretty sure if you just hang out with your guy, and talk to him, and not about your friends, or kids, but about him and you…sit with a glass of wine, a cold beer or heck a glass of water and talk, and listen. The thing is don’t sit at the dinning table, but in a loveseat that’s why the couch was giving that name it is all about the LOVEseat. Use it to sit next to each other and talk, but most importantly cuddle…I promise your guy will definitely enjoy the time together and it doesn’t necessarily need to lead to sex, but if it does…I am pretty sure it will be all the better.

The thing is that men’s magazine don’t need to always teach a guy to look good, to attract the ladies, but they need to provide information on how to be yourself, how not to be nervous about talking to a women, and if they put you down for whatever reason learn to talk it through and let them know how it made you feel…or simply brush it off…but gracefully. Just because we are men, doesn’t mean we can’t be a man and still shed a tear.

I don’t know…but maybe I am completely wrong and maybe I haven’t seen or read all the articles in those Men’s magazine…the thing is that there should be articles written for men, to provide them with insight on the many issues that men experience while in a relationship. Men helping men…providing advice, experiences or even just knowing that you are not the only “Man” going through what you are going through.

My Perspective:
Maybe we need something out there for Men, to share information, ideas, thoughts, experiences and some advice. We can get the older generation to provide what they been through and have the younger generation prove insight on what they are going through…together, maybe we can share options on how to deal with all the issues that we as men are going through or been through.

I appreciate the read, till next time Latino Man signing off.

Complimenting Women – Getting Offended

The other day, on a Sunday, I went to a local sports bar just after work; I wanted to catch up on the days games and of course see a little of the Sunday night football before heading home…well…in a casual and relaxed atmosphere, as much as possible since it was Football season.

Anyhow, so while I was there a group of guys sat next to me and were pretty much already drunk, so anyhow through out there stay, which was three pitcher’s of beer, they were giving the waitress a tough time, lots of flirting, which I am sure they are use to it, but then they began getting a little –w hats the word – lude…I guess, they were asking for her number telling her to turn around and show them her ass-etc, and you with all that going on she was holding up pretty good, she kept serving and just smiling.

Well they ended up leaving, since one said that they weren’t getting any action here they were going to leave, the thing is that they did not leave her a tip. As she was cleaning up she mumbled and made a little complain to me about them…I smiled and said sorry…as I was saying sorry for all men in particular.

Now the thing I forgot to mention that while she was serving them she kept coming over and pouring me my beer and cleaning and smiling, even though she was not my waitress, which I thought was nice of her. Any so, as she walked away, I thought to myself that she worked hard she deserves a tip for talking the crap from those guys, so I stopped her as she walked by and gave her a $20 dollar bill…well guess what…she got offended. She took it, but then she never again stopped by my sit and didn’t even look my way as she did before. I was dumb-founded. I was thinking to myself maybe she took it offensively since maybe I gave her …I don’t know…all I know is…I am pretty sure she took offense.

Before I go on, just so you know the waitress I had pretty much never stopped by once, but I left her a $20 dollar tip from a $48 dollar bill…ok…so I tipped good when I see the waitress or waiter working hard, I tip great when they treat me a little extra…I think it is fair.

So, as not to get away from the actual topic here…do you think she got offended by me tipping her and not the actual guys? I am not a kid, and I have seen a lot in my life and experienced a lot and I am completely fair when it comes to tipping, I have worked in the Customer Service Industry and I know all about it…so I try and understand those that work hard and sometimes count on those tips. But I also understand that without the client they will not get tips…so it needs to go both ways…meaning – kindness-.

This brings me to a similar topic…that relates to getting offended. My experience has told me that now-a-days women get easily offended if a man even looks at them a little weird. I mean it is tough enough for a guy to try and compliment a women on how they look and not having to think about the retaliation they might get from the women is bad enough for men not to say anything and of course then the women gets offended because the guy didn’t say anything. It’s hard to understand…now I am sure that women experience the same thing from men…not saying, but my post is about my experience so I will talk about what I think and experience.

So, if a guy, like myself sees a beautiful women and smiles…there is a huge percentage that she will not smile back and even a bigger percentage that she will get offended. Now, you might get a few ladies that will smile and of course after a few times, possible pick up a conversation…nothing wrong with that…simply making small talk. Now, I know that not all women are the same and of course not all men either, but 97 percent of each group pretty much takes to that side. Now, it could also be due to age group, the younger aged men and women might feel more like untouchable, as we get older though…I see that many, not all men and women welcome the compliments, gestures, in good taste, that come their way. Maybe it is experience, maybe it is maturity…I don’t know.

My Perspective:

Life gives us enough problems that we need to worry about all the little things, such as receiving a tip from a stranger that maybe you were not waiting on. Don’t automatically assume they expect something in return, if you ask, you might be surprised they were only trying to be nice, if they happen to be rude / crude, then you simply thank them and walk away. Don’t take immediate offense to a kind gesture, just because.

As for compliments, yah guys, just like girls can get a little crude when they see a beautiful women or good looking man; take the whistling the “I love you’s”, the “You want to be mother/father of my children” and of course other hilarious pick-up lines just as they are…”Lines”…nothing more. So for them young folks out there, and what I mean is those under 35…if a guys whistles, howls, gestures – from a distance – just smile, take it in stride…don’t get offended. Of course no man or women should ever cross the line…meaning using offensive words, or touching…that is crossing the line. Window shopping is ok…admiring the goods is ok, stating they look good is ok.

I truly appreciate your time in reading my Blog and remember don’t worry about the little things, there are enough bigger things to worry about…and like life might throw things our way…sometimes they are pretty big…but take it one step at a time, one at a time.

Till next time Latino Man signing off.

Women Having Kids

The other day I was reading Cosmopolitan, yah I was reading Cosmo. Any ways there was an article on women having children and how 1 out of 5 women are now deciding that having children is not as important in a marriage or to them as it was back maybe in 1990’s when it was 1 out of 10 women on the topic of children. Many women are deciding in pursuing their careers or establishing themselves financially first and maybe having children later in their lives, but what’s happening is that later in their lives they are comfortable and content with their lives. Child bearing is not at the top of the list anymore.

Another thing too is that besides not being at the top of the list, the few that decide to go ahead and have children are doing so at a later age than it’s normal to. With today’s medical advances, it is easier for women over 35 or even 40 to have children. But the amount of women doing so has reduced. Now, of course I am not a women, but have been married for a long time and have two children.

Getting there was tough, we had to go through a lot of infertility programs over a span of 5 years, before we finally gave up and bam we had our first child. It wasn’t until my son was 7 when we were surprised with our daughter, not something we were expecting especially after seven years. But we did think about maybe not having kids at one point and trying to get ahead financially and maybe get situated a bit better, then try again. The thing is during that time there was a hesitation in having kids, coming from my significant other, and as she got older she was a bit more nervous and concern health wise, so I guess I did experience some of the feeling or thoughts that many women are having now, specifically through my significant other, but my question is in our instance it was different, so why is it that many women are now having second thoughts on the whole thing about having kids?

Is it really that they wish to move ahead in their career or is it that they cannot find the right partner to move forward with it…yah there are millions of single moms out there doing just find, but it seems that more and more women don’t want to do it alone anymore, not because they can’t simply because they do not want to…they want to share in the upbringing and of course share in the responsibility. It seems now more and more men are getting more involved in raising their children, changing diapers, feeding, hospital visits, school functions, after school sports, etc. it’s not all the women anymore you can begin to see more and more men at these places. So I think that the career thing is not the only reason why there is a jump in women not having kids…1 out of 5…I think there are other variables involved.

My Perspective:
We can read all these articles, studies or whatever we see, but the thing is that you need to look into it further and not take everything you read as strong facts. I think that we as couples participate more, communicate more then we will see an increase of women getting back into the maternity thinking…it’s a strong feeling, child and mother…I just can’t believe that it’s been replaced with Career. Those are my thoughts, thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing off till next time.

Be safe, be adventures, find balance between work and life.

What We Are Thinking – Men - Women

Now, here is something I definitely need to touch on, I am sure it’s old news, but it came about while I in the middle of a Blackout of astronomic proportions. After making sure the kids were ok and off to bed, I sat around the table with my sister-n-law and well her sister…and of course the conversation was meaningless, moving from one topic to another, but some how we touch a topic that well can and did cause temperaments to flare.

The discussion started with Bad Boys and why the ladies are always attracted to them, and let me define bad boys in regards to our discussion. These are men that do work, but do not know how to wash clothes, dishes, change a diaper or clean anything around the house for that matter. These are men that stay out late with the boys, bowling, poker, etc. These are men that when they get sick they can’t move to get the remote that is inches away, these are men that, well have these women that do everything for them and most of the time, they are pretty hot…not a requirement, but most of the time it is a characteristic. The thing is that these same women that fall for these so called bad boys, like to complain about them to anyone that is willing to listen. If and when the relationship fails, these women, somehow or other find the same type of man - again.

Now, the other point to this conversation was that had sparks started, that women base their beliefs about all men from these types of men they keep falling for, so they simply state that all men are the same and no one can say different. Now, the conversation went into the beliefs of these men or how they handle family life. Now, lets clarify the position of these men, they are labeled as the provider, the protector, the disciplinary of the family unit, but when it comes down to variables outside their home they seem to loose all common sense. Take for instance; one father will complain about another child, say the other child has a biting issue that needs work. Well that father simply labels the biting child as a “Terrorist” and that there child has no issues, when in fact their child(ren) have issues, one spits at people and the other – well – pinches others. But for some reason those issues are nothing compared to the other child that bites. So they demand closure, by either telling, yes, telling the daycare provider to remove the biting child or they will take their children elsewhere…wait take his spitting and pinching child elsewhere.

So these men, cannot step back as a individual, father included, and instead of abruptly labeling a poor child as a Terrorist and not look at what their children are doing and offer a solution, they instead swing their big wooden cave bats and grunt out demands. But please don’t insult their intelligence about how perfect their kids are. These same men get away with everything and most of the time they are put up with by one women or another…they simply move if they need to. What I believe is that all individuals, whether poor, rich, smart, intelligent, healthy, or physically challenge…want the good things in life. Getting there or having the tools or options to get there differs from person to person…each individual has their own thought process, beliefs, values or – there way of thinking, in a few words.

Of course life would be dull if everyone thought the same way or had the same values, etc., etc., but the core / basic life needs and wants everyone should feel the same way or think the same way…right. We want the good things in life, food over our head, food on the table, and to provide our kids with those things we did not have…make them a better person…even better than us…right. Yah, we are all images of our environment, are upbringing, but is in it at some point of the cycle between child, parent, grandparent a point where someone says, “stop, I need to make a change now and make my child life more productive”. Of course all people are different and have maybe possibly medical or mental issues that affect their thinking or ability to think things through.

The thing is the people I relate to or communicate with are people that I would guess are in their right state of mind, so why are they the ones raising their children to not share, run around the restaurant, yell, bully, and simply not respect anything or anyone…why…because they want to be the cool parents, that everyone wants, you know those that late their kids watch whatever they want on TV, eat whatever they want, stay out as late as they want…heck some parents even think it is ok for their teens to drink, while at home –with their friends…so why…these folks that seems to have a head on their shoulder do and say these things?

After a long winded argument, the final blurt that came from both women was, that nice men are wimps, boring and for most of the part not good looking…so there it is…I was put in my place. So these guys for the moist part get away with things that women hate, but they love the men that do them…it’s not after maybe something serious to happen or maybe is it because old age creeps upon these women and most bad boys won’t be giving them a second look…so what’s left, the nice guy. I don’t know, my thing is I am impressed at what many men get away with and the women that put up with their crap.

And to think that these bad boys are having kids…and raising them…heck maybe most don’t, but the women keep hooking up with these men and the example is passed on to the boys or girls that are brought up in that environment…the cycle never seems to end. You know I am far from perfect, but my kids are taught how to approach things in life, deal with issues, obstacles, and life in general…we all have access to information on dealing with all sorts of things, teaching your child(ren) properly so that they become a better contributor to society should be a top priority for all parents. We want them to succeed where we couldn’t, we want to provide them with the tools we didn’t have, we want them to have the things we didn’t have, we want them to become doctors, lawyers, or own their own business and even run for President…these are the things we try to implement to them and maybe hope that somewhere in all of it they become just a little better than us.

But as long as there are bad boys out there and the women that love them, even the other way around, I think we will always see parents blasting other kids and not recognizing that maybe their child(ren) is one of them or simply giving that problem child an opportunity to surpass their issues…everyone deserves a chance. All we need to give it to them and those around us. Yes, I know there will always be bad folks out there…but don’t you think if you have the chance to make one child, your better, that it will eventually help our community? I think it is possible…as for the women that love them bad boys, maybe you need to find a nice boy and tell him what you want…you might be surprised that they don’t mind taking requests to satisfy that woman…it eventually will satisfy them…win-win situation.

As for you guys – step back and instead of criticizing others, maybe you need to restate your words and find out what can be done to correct it…you can still be the bad boy, but with some actual common sense added in there for good measure.

Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing Off.

Female Traits That Men Can't Resist
by YourTango.com

Women know what they want, they just don't know always how to tell us men. One thing women as a rule do not want is this guy: Jack McJerkface. While irresistible women will likely still attract the McJerks, she'll also attract the Mr. Perfects.

There's a lot of conflicting dating and pickup advice out there: play hard to get, don't play hard to get, be yourself, be a sports fan, be sexy but still down to earth, the list goes on. Here I've compiled 7 traits any straight man undoubtedly finds irresistible. 3 Secrets To Exuding Sexy

So, do one or all of these things to get our attention... and then keep us calling you for date after date.

1 She's Funny. One of the easiest (and surprisingly least-practiced) methods of convincing us we made the right choice in talking to you is when you respond to our jokes instead of simply laughing at them. If you're heehawing at our wisecracks, wonderful—just make sure you don't leave a dead silence at the end of each one or we're going to think you're expecting a stand-up routine. We want a woman who's our conversation partner—not just an adoring fan.

2. She's Somewhere Between Aloof And Instantly In Love. As the law of supply and demand goes, we want to crave your attention before we get it. Once we have it, though, it's nice to be reminded that you only have eyes for us.

3. She's Fashionable—But Not Obsessively. If you spend most of your time and energy on clothes and shoes, we may suspect you are a bit superficial. Can we not sit around in our underwear once in a while if we're feeling depressed? (OK, a very rare "once in a while," fine.) We like a woman who minds her appearance but who also knows that being attractive is more about confidence than owning Manolos. Surprise: Men Primp As Much As Women Do

4. She's Healthy—But Not Obsessively. Obviously men dig a woman with a kickin' body, but not if it means she spends more time in the gym than she does with us. Likewise, we'll forgive you for eating a salad on a first date but not every date for the rest of our lives. Remember, men like curves and women who can bench-press us are somewhat frightening.

5. She's Down To Earth. The type of attention a drama queen demands from men is not the sort of genuine, will-love-you-forever attention women deserve. We like a woman who forgives the occasional stupid move. If we say the wrong thing in a casual conversation and it wasn't racist or an otherwise idiotic remark, she remembers that, as humans, we are going to disagree with at least 25 percent of everything anybody says, and so, she lets it go. Signs You're Just Not That Into Him

6. She Resists Adding Us On Facebook. Where do you want this relationship to go? If you answer, "I'm not sure" or anything other than "to the friend zone with you!" then you should not be friending us on Facebook until it's established that we are more than chummy. I recently had to unfriend two women I dated because they friended me before we ever went out and it didn't work out with either. Don't make us the bad guys.

7. She Returns Our Phone Calls. I know it seems like calling a woman is no big deal because we are grown men, but every time we dial a number for the first time, we are terrified that one of the following things will happen: a) you won't remember us, b) we have to think of something witty to say on your voicemail. Unless we were total jerks to you (in which case you shouldn't have given us your real number), call us back ASAP.

8. She's Passionate But Isn't A Zealot. TomFoolery blogger Tom Miller says: "It's inspirational when anyone is really into something. Whether it's a cause, a hobby or a job, seeing what gets a lady fired-up makes her more attractive (unless it's dog fighting). Zeal does have its limits, however. Fifty hours of work per week plus another fifty hours of decoupage doesn't leave much time for dating or finding new passions as a couple"

9. She Has Friends. Another one from TomFoolery: "While approaching a gaggle of gals is a little intimidating, dating the lone shewolf is even scarier. It's nice to know that we can spend some guy time or alone time and not have someone lonely, disappointed and thinking of revenges for this slight. Plus maybe one of your friends will like one of our friends, and who doesn't like people helping people? The downside is when your friends are jerks, jealous of our time or totally up in our couple business." Being Popular Makes You More Attractive.

My Perspective:
Be yourself, don't over do it, and yes...guys may be guys, but deep down inside we like the cuddling, the birthday fuss and there isn't one guy out there that doesn't. He might now show it or he  might seems the tough guy, but you ladies know, when he is behind closed doors, you know him. Ladies be approachable, give it a go, don't think all guys are assholes...because you might just...might let the one get away.

Till next time, thanks for reading and have fun...Latino Man Signing Off.

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