Biggest Losers – Contest
So, I am writing this post to let you know that I will be participating in a Biggest Looser contest at work. There will be two winners; one winner that looses the most weight and one winner that looses the most percentage of weight. So, it’s actually a sign, because I being meaning to get back into shape, and I have off and on the past month or more, but nothing really serious, so now with a little competition and some money involved...i think I will be more inclined to stick to it…lol…we’ll see.
Anyhow, I have never watched the show Biggest looser, I have heard that it can get extreme sometimes, not sure in what content, but anyhow, this is a perfect opportunity for me to give it a go and really try and loose some weight. Now, take it, I have been told that I really don’t need to loose that much, but you know…I want to get back to that high school weight (LOL), crazy I know…but let’s see what comes about. Actually I am waiting to see how many people are going to participate, because at $20 dollars a head…yah…that could be a substantial amount…I mean there are quite a few people working on this second floor between all the departments under my boss…so…I am waiting to see.
So, that’s funny that’s my word of the day, “So”, I’ll be using it through this post…lol. So, just kidding, I am looking at the people in the departments and man, is not far fetch to say that 90% of the people are under 25 years of age…you know how it is with metabolism, when you get older it doesn’t work as good, so I’ll have my work cut out for me…so I made a decision, I’ll be doing lots of cardio, you know running and now I will be adding jump roping…it really does burn calories and it build up my leg strength which is an area I do need to bring back up to par. Anyhow, I am looking forward to this and hoping to actually stick to it and well…you know…I need to get motivated…and I am hoping to keep the motivation up through the extent of the competition…I have seen many drop out half way through…hmmm…not sure if I mentioned, the competition will start on October 4 and run through December 10th…so lets see how many start out and how many are left at the end.
I’ll do what I can to post each Friday my weigh in, since that’s what we are doing, I am hoping for some good results come December 10th. So, wish me luck and let the weight “Loss” begin.
Till next time…Latino Man Signing Off….keep healthy, have fun and don’t stress.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Monday, September 27, 2010
Extreme Hot – Weather
So, I am writing this post because it is one of the hottest days in our wonderful city, so extremely hot that the office air conditioning unit broke, couldn’t handle the extreme hot weather. So, the part that is needed is in Tennessee, so it could be a few days before it gets here. In the meantime they sent everyone home from the office and only a handful of people stayed.
Now, I know that maybe 108 is not so hot for some folks, but when you are use to nice comfortable weather, and this happens, it sort of throws your day for a spin and bit difficult to work. Also, the funny thing is that they send out a global email, letting everyone know that you can wear shorts and sandals tomorrow, Tuesday, of course they did mentioned we need to use good judgment…lol. You never know…might get some Daisy Dukes in the office…LOL. Anyhow, so tomorrow should be an interesting day because it will be the most casual we will al see each other…oh yah no spaghetti straps for the ladies…need to hide the under straps…if you know what I mean…hmm.
So one thing about having air conditioning, someone mentioned to me…that it is funny how people now-a-days complain about a little hot weather, well even if it is only for a day. As a society we have come to expect comfort in our everyday lives, I mean think about it…when we were farmers…did we have air conditioning or wait…aren’t there parts of the world where people don’t have air conditioning, windows and even a descent roof over there heads…and man we complain. I guess it’s natural…and a norm. But still…I am continued working my full 8 hours, reason was, had lots of work due by October 1st and I could not take the risk of falling behind, hey I need to keep this job…even if there is no AC – LOL.
So my thing is that tomorrow the company allowed for people to use Shorts and Sandals, but to use good judgment. My thing is I want to see how many people get sent home because of daisy Dukes or something else…LOL. I am actually looking forward to tomorrow…even with this hot weather. You, I am a guy and Latino, I am looking forward to seeing more legs tomorrow…lol.
Anyhow, hope everyone is hanging in there through this hot weather…for those that are experiencing it..if not…well then thanks for reading till next time, Latino Man signing off.
So, I am writing this post because it is one of the hottest days in our wonderful city, so extremely hot that the office air conditioning unit broke, couldn’t handle the extreme hot weather. So, the part that is needed is in Tennessee, so it could be a few days before it gets here. In the meantime they sent everyone home from the office and only a handful of people stayed.
Now, I know that maybe 108 is not so hot for some folks, but when you are use to nice comfortable weather, and this happens, it sort of throws your day for a spin and bit difficult to work. Also, the funny thing is that they send out a global email, letting everyone know that you can wear shorts and sandals tomorrow, Tuesday, of course they did mentioned we need to use good judgment…lol. You never know…might get some Daisy Dukes in the office…LOL. Anyhow, so tomorrow should be an interesting day because it will be the most casual we will al see each other…oh yah no spaghetti straps for the ladies…need to hide the under straps…if you know what I mean…hmm.
So one thing about having air conditioning, someone mentioned to me…that it is funny how people now-a-days complain about a little hot weather, well even if it is only for a day. As a society we have come to expect comfort in our everyday lives, I mean think about it…when we were farmers…did we have air conditioning or wait…aren’t there parts of the world where people don’t have air conditioning, windows and even a descent roof over there heads…and man we complain. I guess it’s natural…and a norm. But still…I am continued working my full 8 hours, reason was, had lots of work due by October 1st and I could not take the risk of falling behind, hey I need to keep this job…even if there is no AC – LOL.
So my thing is that tomorrow the company allowed for people to use Shorts and Sandals, but to use good judgment. My thing is I want to see how many people get sent home because of daisy Dukes or something else…LOL. I am actually looking forward to tomorrow…even with this hot weather. You, I am a guy and Latino, I am looking forward to seeing more legs tomorrow…lol.
Anyhow, hope everyone is hanging in there through this hot weather…for those that are experiencing it..if not…well then thanks for reading till next time, Latino Man signing off.
Saturday, September 25, 2010
New Blog Name – Same Latino Man
So here I am again, I am sure many of you might have noticed my new Blog name, I felt that it had a negative ring to it, so I wanted to actually keep it more in line with who I am…a Latino, and of course I’ll continue to share my thoughts, ideas, short stories and anything else I may be inclined to share. I think reading blogs is a little safer that the Twitter, Face Book and other large social networks sites, only saying…not stating that these places are bad, just that well…you know...you’ve heard what has happened and of course it’s also my opinion to any facts.
Anyhow, so I wanted to change the sound of my blog, but nothing else will change. So let me cover a topic or discussion on something I feel is important. Over the years as I was growing up, you grow up hearing or believing or getting taught certain social do’s and don’ts. And one such thing is the whole concept of a Man or Woman that happens to stare, in a kind way, at the opposite sex, because they are either extremely indulges, beautiful, curvy, muscular, or what ever might have caused him or her to look at that other person. Of course as kids we are taught not to stare, it is not nice. But seriously, if you think about, we stare at many other things, and yah take it they maybe be not human but the concept to me is the same.
So let’s say, you are having dinner and a waiter walks by with something that smells good, as a reaction we have a tendency to follow the smell and hope to get a glimpse of the dish. Of course you are staring and the individuals that gets the dish feels your look, you smile and they may say…this is a wonderful dish…you then think…hmm…maybe I should give it a try. Now, as a guy, we have a tendency to stare at cars, whether old or new, if there is something about it that we like, we will stare. Obviously the person that owns the car, either feels the stare and smiles, and you give a thumbs up or if its in a drive way, the owner might come out and spark a conversation about the car…nothing wrong…right. Now, women…and I speak by experience; have a tendency to stare at clothing or other articles of clothing that maybe worn by other women. Now, some women that are being stared at have an issue and maybe walk away briskly, may snap at you or you could kindly say, “Nice Dress”, what happens next is probably a light conversation of the material and where she might have purchased it…nothing wrong…right. So you could probably think of countless scenarios of such things when people stare, and most of the time is properly done; really only state that you like what you see…and nothing else comes about from it.
Now, let's use another example, “People”. Men and Women since probably the beginning of time have a tendency to look at one another as you stroll by each, because of some peculiar feature they may have. Now, some people or possibly most individuals will get insulted and either thinks something is wrong with the person staring or you maybe a pervert of some sort. Now, I see it as a total compliment, you see if I had a girlfriend and people stared at her because she was beautiful, in either having a well plump breast, nice rear or long beautiful legs, I wouldn’t mind, why…because at the time of the incident the person staring simply was attracted by something he or she, yah I said she, like about my girlfriend. And it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if a guy happens to walk by and was tall, dark, well built, nice chest, beautiful eye or even a nice rump and my girlfriend or significant other stared…hey…that is totally natural, why, because we are humans and we all like nice things…so it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if I or any man for that mater, happen to see a women walk by and stared, you know in a kind way, to me that woman should feel complimented; now here comes a clarification to that last statement…and I only say these from my experience. Young women are more easily offended by a guy staring…but older women actually welcome the stare…why is that…it should be ok for all women, young and old to not be offended by a staring man or women…it should come to them as a compliment and acknowledgement that you are attracted in some way…a good thing.
Now, the only problem I say with “Staring” is if you are actively involved with someone, and you acted on your staring…that could lead to an issue. You see…I think staring is ok, healthy and should be treated as only that, a stare and a compliment. But if you, or your significant other acted on the stare, with a flirt, smile, wave and then into a little more than…juts a hello…then of course that is where the problem is…then it leads to a totally different topic…”Cheating”.
But for now, lets stick to Staring, If you stare, your significant other stares or maybe you are being stared at…don’t worry or let it bother you…take it as a compliment and acknowledgement that you or that person is simply attracting our senses…and nice things and nice to look at.
My Perspective:If someone stares at you or your significant other stares at someone else…don’t worry…don’t let it bring down your world, because in the long run…the stare is simply as I said…an acknowledgement that you have or they have a particular feature that simply is – Eye Pleasing – . I think you should start worrying when no ones pays attention to you…even if you flaunt it…and no ones stares…that’s when you worry.
Thanks for reading, till next time keep it simple, don’t worry about all the little things and accept that stare as a compliment.
So here I am again, I am sure many of you might have noticed my new Blog name, I felt that it had a negative ring to it, so I wanted to actually keep it more in line with who I am…a Latino, and of course I’ll continue to share my thoughts, ideas, short stories and anything else I may be inclined to share. I think reading blogs is a little safer that the Twitter, Face Book and other large social networks sites, only saying…not stating that these places are bad, just that well…you know...you’ve heard what has happened and of course it’s also my opinion to any facts.
Anyhow, so I wanted to change the sound of my blog, but nothing else will change. So let me cover a topic or discussion on something I feel is important. Over the years as I was growing up, you grow up hearing or believing or getting taught certain social do’s and don’ts. And one such thing is the whole concept of a Man or Woman that happens to stare, in a kind way, at the opposite sex, because they are either extremely indulges, beautiful, curvy, muscular, or what ever might have caused him or her to look at that other person. Of course as kids we are taught not to stare, it is not nice. But seriously, if you think about, we stare at many other things, and yah take it they maybe be not human but the concept to me is the same.
So let’s say, you are having dinner and a waiter walks by with something that smells good, as a reaction we have a tendency to follow the smell and hope to get a glimpse of the dish. Of course you are staring and the individuals that gets the dish feels your look, you smile and they may say…this is a wonderful dish…you then think…hmm…maybe I should give it a try. Now, as a guy, we have a tendency to stare at cars, whether old or new, if there is something about it that we like, we will stare. Obviously the person that owns the car, either feels the stare and smiles, and you give a thumbs up or if its in a drive way, the owner might come out and spark a conversation about the car…nothing wrong…right. Now, women…and I speak by experience; have a tendency to stare at clothing or other articles of clothing that maybe worn by other women. Now, some women that are being stared at have an issue and maybe walk away briskly, may snap at you or you could kindly say, “Nice Dress”, what happens next is probably a light conversation of the material and where she might have purchased it…nothing wrong…right. So you could probably think of countless scenarios of such things when people stare, and most of the time is properly done; really only state that you like what you see…and nothing else comes about from it.
Now, let's use another example, “People”. Men and Women since probably the beginning of time have a tendency to look at one another as you stroll by each, because of some peculiar feature they may have. Now, some people or possibly most individuals will get insulted and either thinks something is wrong with the person staring or you maybe a pervert of some sort. Now, I see it as a total compliment, you see if I had a girlfriend and people stared at her because she was beautiful, in either having a well plump breast, nice rear or long beautiful legs, I wouldn’t mind, why…because at the time of the incident the person staring simply was attracted by something he or she, yah I said she, like about my girlfriend. And it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if a guy happens to walk by and was tall, dark, well built, nice chest, beautiful eye or even a nice rump and my girlfriend or significant other stared…hey…that is totally natural, why, because we are humans and we all like nice things…so it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if I or any man for that mater, happen to see a women walk by and stared, you know in a kind way, to me that woman should feel complimented; now here comes a clarification to that last statement…and I only say these from my experience. Young women are more easily offended by a guy staring…but older women actually welcome the stare…why is that…it should be ok for all women, young and old to not be offended by a staring man or women…it should come to them as a compliment and acknowledgement that you are attracted in some way…a good thing.
Now, the only problem I say with “Staring” is if you are actively involved with someone, and you acted on your staring…that could lead to an issue. You see…I think staring is ok, healthy and should be treated as only that, a stare and a compliment. But if you, or your significant other acted on the stare, with a flirt, smile, wave and then into a little more than…juts a hello…then of course that is where the problem is…then it leads to a totally different topic…”Cheating”.
But for now, lets stick to Staring, If you stare, your significant other stares or maybe you are being stared at…don’t worry or let it bother you…take it as a compliment and acknowledgement that you or that person is simply attracting our senses…and nice things and nice to look at.
My Perspective:If someone stares at you or your significant other stares at someone else…don’t worry…don’t let it bring down your world, because in the long run…the stare is simply as I said…an acknowledgement that you have or they have a particular feature that simply is – Eye Pleasing – . I think you should start worrying when no ones pays attention to you…even if you flaunt it…and no ones stares…that’s when you worry.
Thanks for reading, till next time keep it simple, don’t worry about all the little things and accept that stare as a compliment.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Bad Relationships -
So, I have a pet peeve…I guess and I wanted to get it out, maybe someone is going through this or maybe someone will realize that any information or thoughts mentioned herein…will help someone out. Anyhow, ok so my thing is relationships…ok. I probably touch on this topic a lot and maybe sometimes it may sound like a broken record…yap…yap…yap. Ok, so you may say, but you know I’m not alone and with today’s Twitter, Face Book, MySpace and the hundreds of Social networks…people now can get their thoughts out into the masses. The only thing that stinks is that you will always have some hacker out there trying to break into these sites, and run havoc on people…why…probably because they can…who knows, but any how, back to relationships.
I recently wrote an entry related to my sister-n-law and her situation on her marriage and it has stuck to me. I mean I can’t get it out of my mind why in the world anyone would want to go back to that kind of life. Now, I will not recap the story, please feel free to read the entry in its entirety posted on September 22, 2010. Anyhow, so, the thing is why are there men and women out there, since probably the beginning of time accepting this. When I was a kid, I heard the same stories, as I grew up and was involved in relationships I heard the same stories, of abusive boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. As I got older and out of high school things didn’t get any better…they were the same, whether you lived in the hood or in the
Seriously…I have had heard every and all the excuses you can imagine…from you don’t now what my life is about to…I love him or her and everything in between and outside and beyond, but what makes it still in existence….why do we fall prey to those kinds of situations. But that’s the ½ of it…what gets to me is that there are actually good people out there really wanting to work at a relationship, that will make it as though they just first met…every day will be like the first time they met…love, laughter, communication and well…come one…that great stuff you both turned over in bed and said WOW…that was amazing…can I get seconds. I mean making love isn’t just about screwing, its about the feeling you have when you caress the person, or kiss their neck and pass your hands over they body; it’s the kissing, the playful smile, the closeness you feel all over when you are butt naked and close to one another. The sensation is one that you both always remembered, but some how lost…with the kids and careers. I mean relationships…everyone talks about it being a job, that you both have to work at it to make it work…a JOB…are you serious, that should be the last thing it should be. It should be something that is as natural as flowing water. There should be no work involved…you should be excited in seeing your partner inn life…everyday you should wake up with a smile, not only because you are alive…but that someone is right next to you…sharing your happiness, your dreams and you.
I mean when did it begin to bother you or him that you gained some pounds or got a little hairier or crows’ feet started appearing…or even your boobs sagging…or his balls sagging…when did that become a problem. Don’t you remember the long showers you took together…come on did you really have time to expect your partner…NO…you were to busy enticed with the softness of her body or the strength of his chest and arms…the kissing the sound of the water pouring out…it never bothered you before…so why now.
People get married because they found a partner, someone that makes them complete…yah I said complete…you know why…because if there were only men or women on this planet…believe me…sooner or later there would be extinction…and no I am not talking about gays or lesbians…I am talking about two creatures that when together create life, not only children…but life together…if you know what I mean. That’s why people get married, it’s the bond, the feeling of accomplishment, the feeling of being scared of what the future will hold for both of you…you both share in that dream, that feeling…that’s why you become complete. I don’t believe that people bring in another human being solely to follow in all the badness that is around us…we have off springs because it is a reflection of the love you both have and that child will not only feel the love of the parents but is there to learn to be a BETTER person, contributor to society, to your family tree…you want people to get better…not worse. Yah we all have are ups and downs and everyone can come to me with an excuse…but you know…that’s exactly what they are excuses…because deep inside every one of us…we love the feel of freedom, happiness and love. That’[s what we are meant to do…that’s what we should do and do it.
I don’t know…I see this happening all around me, and sometimes I see my relationship and wonder what happen…I don’t want a job…we should solely be together…happy…as one…work is left outside not in a relationship…it shouldn’t take work.
My Perspective:
I am saddened by the things I hear, and see. Why such beautiful people revert back to living a hell of a life…and the excuses and comments from those that tell me I don’t have a clue…well…I do…and I just think they don’t. So, please step back from an abusive relationship and seriously think about yourself and what you really want…I can tell you this much….it will have happiness somewhere in there.
Thanks for reading Latino Man Signing Off.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Going Back –
So, I not sure if anyone remember me talking about a sister – n – law I have that is pretty well off, financially. Well, she was going through some trouble times with her husband and was in the process of a horrible divorce battle. Ok, let me recap, they live in Mexico, Ensenada, about 2 hour and 30 minutes south of the boarder of San Diego, CA. They started a small company, refilling ink cartridges and well long story short, they turned it into an empire, pretty much having all the market areas from Tijuana to Ensenada, government offices, large and small business and of course the individual consumer.
Anyhow, the husband has a tendency to cheat and was caught in several uncompromising positions, besides being a tyrant, pretty much keeping his wife as a prisoner in a golden palace, he was pretty much a weirdo…when it was done and said. Anyhow, so she left him several months ago and with a large sum of money…he gave her. Now, the divorce, I take it took for a turn he did not like and pretty much closed all the doors for her, well, being the high spender she and he knew this, it was a matter of time where she would return to him and the money…I say the later part.
So in other words she went back, to the no friends, only those he says are ok, no tight shirts or low neck line, no skirts unless they are covering your ankles, no coffee with friend, no movies, hey why since they have a home movie theater, hmmm…let me see…oh yah no outings, and you need to work you’re A$$ of even though you are the owners wife…don’t want any wife of mine sitting at home being lazy, life AGAIN. I don’t understand, I know that maybe she got accustomed to the finer things in life, but what things, when you were either at work from 8-8 and stuck at home the rest of the time. Why…why would anyone go back to being a prisoner? Is the money really that important…or is it really that she really does love him?
Let’s assume that cheating was not the issue here, but the whole being locked up…it just doesn’t make sense to me…being a prisoner is a crazy idea…even with all the money in the world…loosing your freedom…that just does not sit well with me. What you can or cannot wear, who you can or cannot be friends with, including your own family. Having restrictions on whom you can talk with…is beyond understanding with me…yet…people…women and men…always or almost always end up going back to that person. And yet you have the nice men and women out there, always get the short end of the stick or short end of a relationship in this story. It drives me bananas…and I am sure I am not the only one that feels the same way. The only thing that I see that could come out of her going back…is disastrous in all the content of that relationship.
If someone continuously checked my phone, or emails, or would object to what type of clothing I could wear, or the friends I can have had to be approved by my significant other…that would not sit with me. Even if I didn’t have to work, and she provided everything I could dream of, cars (Lamborghini), nice clothes, nice vacations, money too spend, but I was not allowed to see certain people or even family members, could not go to the movies or anywhere else for that matter because we had a home theater or a , was restricted on whom I could see or talk to…that money or material things I’d let go in an instant…and live on the streets if I had to…before having to live my life in that matter…I just can’t see or believe it…that as people anyone can handle that sort of life with anyone…yet we hear it ALL the time. And it happens to friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, etc.
Another instant, a person I know…had an abusive husband literally had been sent to jail over 10 times…yet he was welcomed back each time. Then the finally or better said he finally left…live on his own…never bother with the 2 children…no support…nothing. Now, I come to hear she went back to him, but wait…it gets better…during the 6-8 months they were separated and in the process of a divorce she was his bootie call, can you believe that! But now he says he will go to anger management with her…wait…why her, because it seems when they got into physical fights, she would hit him as well, with objects, fists, etc….so she was just as much to blame…now they are getting back together…but wait…when you see her in person…and ask her how she feels…she actually states that she is scared…scared…then why go back to him and that type of life.
I don’t get it…OK…don’t come and tell me its love and that leaving someone is SO hard, because you know what…that is the biggest crock of crap that I have heard and you have heard…and you know it. So why do people do it, hey I heard about this stuff when I was a kid, and I heard it from my parents…it never changes…
My Perspective:
EVERYONE deserves to be happy, so whether you are poor, rich, middle class, or whether you have a job or don’t, or are in a relationship or not…but when you are with someone that makes your life miserable…you need to suck it up and move on. I seriously cannot believe that anyone human is willing to take or live in that kind of abuse…”Love Hurts” you say…baloney. And don’t come telling me I don’t have a clue about what you or anyone lived…and that every situation is different and that this and that is an excuse, or that he or she will change or that my kids are in the middle…no…keep that all to yourself…because I do not buy…and if you are buying into it…then that is you…and if you step back and look at your life and are not happy then you need to find the strength to get out while you still can…it is never too late…never.
Thanks for reading and I hope that for those out there living as prisoners, living in a verbal or physical abusive relationship, living with out freedom….I wish you the strength to find a way out and live as everyone is meant to live…HAPPY. Signing Off…till next time
So, I not sure if anyone remember me talking about a sister – n – law I have that is pretty well off, financially. Well, she was going through some trouble times with her husband and was in the process of a horrible divorce battle. Ok, let me recap, they live in Mexico, Ensenada, about 2 hour and 30 minutes south of the boarder of San Diego, CA. They started a small company, refilling ink cartridges and well long story short, they turned it into an empire, pretty much having all the market areas from Tijuana to Ensenada, government offices, large and small business and of course the individual consumer.
Anyhow, the husband has a tendency to cheat and was caught in several uncompromising positions, besides being a tyrant, pretty much keeping his wife as a prisoner in a golden palace, he was pretty much a weirdo…when it was done and said. Anyhow, so she left him several months ago and with a large sum of money…he gave her. Now, the divorce, I take it took for a turn he did not like and pretty much closed all the doors for her, well, being the high spender she and he knew this, it was a matter of time where she would return to him and the money…I say the later part.
So in other words she went back, to the no friends, only those he says are ok, no tight shirts or low neck line, no skirts unless they are covering your ankles, no coffee with friend, no movies, hey why since they have a home movie theater, hmmm…let me see…oh yah no outings, and you need to work you’re A$$ of even though you are the owners wife…don’t want any wife of mine sitting at home being lazy, life AGAIN. I don’t understand, I know that maybe she got accustomed to the finer things in life, but what things, when you were either at work from 8-8 and stuck at home the rest of the time. Why…why would anyone go back to being a prisoner? Is the money really that important…or is it really that she really does love him?
Let’s assume that cheating was not the issue here, but the whole being locked up…it just doesn’t make sense to me…being a prisoner is a crazy idea…even with all the money in the world…loosing your freedom…that just does not sit well with me. What you can or cannot wear, who you can or cannot be friends with, including your own family. Having restrictions on whom you can talk with…is beyond understanding with me…yet…people…women and men…always or almost always end up going back to that person. And yet you have the nice men and women out there, always get the short end of the stick or short end of a relationship in this story. It drives me bananas…and I am sure I am not the only one that feels the same way. The only thing that I see that could come out of her going back…is disastrous in all the content of that relationship.
If someone continuously checked my phone, or emails, or would object to what type of clothing I could wear, or the friends I can have had to be approved by my significant other…that would not sit with me. Even if I didn’t have to work, and she provided everything I could dream of, cars (Lamborghini), nice clothes, nice vacations, money too spend, but I was not allowed to see certain people or even family members, could not go to the movies or anywhere else for that matter because we had a home theater or a , was restricted on whom I could see or talk to…that money or material things I’d let go in an instant…and live on the streets if I had to…before having to live my life in that matter…I just can’t see or believe it…that as people anyone can handle that sort of life with anyone…yet we hear it ALL the time. And it happens to friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, etc.
Another instant, a person I know…had an abusive husband literally had been sent to jail over 10 times…yet he was welcomed back each time. Then the finally or better said he finally left…live on his own…never bother with the 2 children…no support…nothing. Now, I come to hear she went back to him, but wait…it gets better…during the 6-8 months they were separated and in the process of a divorce she was his bootie call, can you believe that! But now he says he will go to anger management with her…wait…why her, because it seems when they got into physical fights, she would hit him as well, with objects, fists, etc….so she was just as much to blame…now they are getting back together…but wait…when you see her in person…and ask her how she feels…she actually states that she is scared…scared…then why go back to him and that type of life.
I don’t get it…OK…don’t come and tell me its love and that leaving someone is SO hard, because you know what…that is the biggest crock of crap that I have heard and you have heard…and you know it. So why do people do it, hey I heard about this stuff when I was a kid, and I heard it from my parents…it never changes…
My Perspective:
EVERYONE deserves to be happy, so whether you are poor, rich, middle class, or whether you have a job or don’t, or are in a relationship or not…but when you are with someone that makes your life miserable…you need to suck it up and move on. I seriously cannot believe that anyone human is willing to take or live in that kind of abuse…”Love Hurts” you say…baloney. And don’t come telling me I don’t have a clue about what you or anyone lived…and that every situation is different and that this and that is an excuse, or that he or she will change or that my kids are in the middle…no…keep that all to yourself…because I do not buy…and if you are buying into it…then that is you…and if you step back and look at your life and are not happy then you need to find the strength to get out while you still can…it is never too late…never.
Thanks for reading and I hope that for those out there living as prisoners, living in a verbal or physical abusive relationship, living with out freedom….I wish you the strength to find a way out and live as everyone is meant to live…HAPPY. Signing Off…till next time
Friday, September 10, 2010
I Have the Issue - ???
So I wanted to get your opinion, or well, maybe not an opinion, but I wanted to share my situation. This was brought up during a heated discussion, just like many couples people argue about different things and one of the most common things is finances. Now, I have already moved on, but in a recent discussion, this was brought up…more of a blame on me for what was happening, but like I shared with her I wanted to share with you…see if maybe I was in the wrong, so please read on.
So, let’s just say…your significant other build widgets and after all costs, make a profit of $100 dollars. Ok, so you really don’t know what the make, but if you see 10 widgets shipped per week, then you can conclude that they are selling 10 widgets a week for $100 dollars each, and this is continuous…ok. So you guess-timate $1000 per week, but when it comes time to deposit into your mutual bank...it is 1500 every 2-weeks…so you ask yourself…what is going on with the other $500…so you ask and they tell you that NO, they deposited all the money…and other reasons. But I ask, I work a full-time job, bust my hump and I am a Realtor and Loan specialist, I also have my Notary license and I run a website business…so I believe that I have the right to get cranky, because every month if you struggle to make ends meet…you end up getting tired and frustrated, because you know there are an additional 1000 a month that you have no clue where it is going. Wait…I am using this as an example, in my case it is thousands of dollars a month un-accounted for…and when I ask…they get defensive and worst of they wonder why I am in such a PISSY mood everyday.
So I ask, if you had a partner that you could guess pretty darn close what the make and you noticed they don’t deposit a lot of it…wouldn’t you be a little PISSY? Especially if you BUST your hump to provide...towards the family. That was the last discussion I was in, why was I always in a bad mood and it wasn’t nice to live with someone that was always in a bad mood…so…I guess I was the problem in this relationship.
You know though, I hear her talking to her friends and I hear some conversation about the husbands…I heard one where the husband got upset and threw out the wife in her underwear and bra in the middle of the night…she had to walk/run more blocks to get to her moms house. Ok, then I hear one where the husband won’t change a diaper, won’t cook, won’t clean, won’t do a single thing around the house to help and they both work. He comes home late or whenever he likes and expects a warm dinner and a warm bed, then I heard one of the husbands does not allow her to wear lowcut shirts, short dresses or tight dresses, no shorts, no bathing suites, no makeup, she cannot go out with friends, unless he is there…wait…the best part is, he goes out with his friends and stays out late hours of the night…no..wait, he sometimes does not come home, he verbally abuses her..seriously…pretty much she is locked up in a 10,000 square foot mansion…with no outside connection…so you tell me…I was the issue here.
Now, I am not perfect at all, I have a temper, but it takes a lot to get that out, but I don’t care what she wears, I prefer sexy, I don’t mind she goes out with friends, she can come home whenever…I trust her, she can pretty much buy anything, within reason, I don’t argue over petty things, I work hard, as I said, I have a fulltime job, make good money, I am a realtor, close deals, I have my notary, have provided services, run a website, pays for itself and provides a little money..which all goes directly into our mutual account…come…I guess I am the problem. So with that said, I decided to move on and make everyone happy…by removing the problem from the equation.
But what drives me bananas is all those other husbands or boyfriends getting away with it and I have a problem…the problem of being lied to in the face…I guess being lied to is not wrong…if no one really pays attention to it…I guess. Anyhow, thanks for reading and I hope to write some more.
For now, Latino Man signing off...wishing you a calm day, one where you can maybe ignore the issues for just a little while.
So I wanted to get your opinion, or well, maybe not an opinion, but I wanted to share my situation. This was brought up during a heated discussion, just like many couples people argue about different things and one of the most common things is finances. Now, I have already moved on, but in a recent discussion, this was brought up…more of a blame on me for what was happening, but like I shared with her I wanted to share with you…see if maybe I was in the wrong, so please read on.
So, let’s just say…your significant other build widgets and after all costs, make a profit of $100 dollars. Ok, so you really don’t know what the make, but if you see 10 widgets shipped per week, then you can conclude that they are selling 10 widgets a week for $100 dollars each, and this is continuous…ok. So you guess-timate $1000 per week, but when it comes time to deposit into your mutual bank...it is 1500 every 2-weeks…so you ask yourself…what is going on with the other $500…so you ask and they tell you that NO, they deposited all the money…and other reasons. But I ask, I work a full-time job, bust my hump and I am a Realtor and Loan specialist, I also have my Notary license and I run a website business…so I believe that I have the right to get cranky, because every month if you struggle to make ends meet…you end up getting tired and frustrated, because you know there are an additional 1000 a month that you have no clue where it is going. Wait…I am using this as an example, in my case it is thousands of dollars a month un-accounted for…and when I ask…they get defensive and worst of they wonder why I am in such a PISSY mood everyday.
So I ask, if you had a partner that you could guess pretty darn close what the make and you noticed they don’t deposit a lot of it…wouldn’t you be a little PISSY? Especially if you BUST your hump to provide...towards the family. That was the last discussion I was in, why was I always in a bad mood and it wasn’t nice to live with someone that was always in a bad mood…so…I guess I was the problem in this relationship.
You know though, I hear her talking to her friends and I hear some conversation about the husbands…I heard one where the husband got upset and threw out the wife in her underwear and bra in the middle of the night…she had to walk/run more blocks to get to her moms house. Ok, then I hear one where the husband won’t change a diaper, won’t cook, won’t clean, won’t do a single thing around the house to help and they both work. He comes home late or whenever he likes and expects a warm dinner and a warm bed, then I heard one of the husbands does not allow her to wear lowcut shirts, short dresses or tight dresses, no shorts, no bathing suites, no makeup, she cannot go out with friends, unless he is there…wait…the best part is, he goes out with his friends and stays out late hours of the night…no..wait, he sometimes does not come home, he verbally abuses her..seriously…pretty much she is locked up in a 10,000 square foot mansion…with no outside connection…so you tell me…I was the issue here.
Now, I am not perfect at all, I have a temper, but it takes a lot to get that out, but I don’t care what she wears, I prefer sexy, I don’t mind she goes out with friends, she can come home whenever…I trust her, she can pretty much buy anything, within reason, I don’t argue over petty things, I work hard, as I said, I have a fulltime job, make good money, I am a realtor, close deals, I have my notary, have provided services, run a website, pays for itself and provides a little money..which all goes directly into our mutual account…come…I guess I am the problem. So with that said, I decided to move on and make everyone happy…by removing the problem from the equation.
But what drives me bananas is all those other husbands or boyfriends getting away with it and I have a problem…the problem of being lied to in the face…I guess being lied to is not wrong…if no one really pays attention to it…I guess. Anyhow, thanks for reading and I hope to write some more.
For now, Latino Man signing off...wishing you a calm day, one where you can maybe ignore the issues for just a little while.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Realization – Comes Crashing Through
So I had one of those reflection again, you know those that you step back and realize just what the heck is going on. Well, it happens to me every so often and with it a piece of reality comes crashing into me, so I have to take it like a man, sort of speaking, and well deal with it. So, this time I finally realized that after nearly a decade of searching and working hard to build residual income, I believe I found the one thing that will work. I mean , it more like running a business, and dealing with individuals, but if you think about it that usually what makes people money, owning a company where people you hire perform a service or produce something, so even though there are tons of affiliate programs out there, and they do work, but you do have to be persistent with them and most importantly patient, because they won’t produce money over night and of course you’ll need to spend money the first two or so years to make money. But what happens most individuals don’t have the patience and end up giving up early and then blaming it on the system, when in fact it was them all along. Just like any business, whether you open a restaurant, night club, it is proven that the first two years is where most people give up and their business fails, yah of course you need a plan, but if you follow a plan that is already working, then all you have to do is follow it and stick to it.
So, with that said, I wanted to share with you this thought, “The economy is looking grim, people are failing every where from their jobs, to their mortgage payment to their family and it doesn’t look pretty, but I think this is the best time to start learning something new, take things by the balls and go for it, I know it takes money to make money, but see about taking out a small business loans, or getting together with family, friends, ok…so you had a bad experience with a friend or family, but that doesn’t mean you are older and wiser now and can set certain things into place to protect all involved…and then it could work. Believe in your self, believe on what you are doing but most importantly do something that is already working, or market the way something is already marketing and working…look, read, decide and hang tough, don’t give up…it will take several years to see anything worthwhile, the first 2 years are the most important, those two years weed out the successful business from those that only wished. I believe you believe, don’t let negative people, family friends step on your dreams, because in the long run you are the one living this life as you, you are the one that is part of your children and spouse or mate…and everyone else can simply run in the rat race if they want. I believe it is possible, if I can do it, so can others. And remember always help others along your road to success and you will receive two-fold for your kindness - So get up, shut up and put up.
Thanks for reading and remember this is the time to pull away from everything else bad going around you. Till next time, may success be with you each and every day. Latino Man Signing Off.
So I had one of those reflection again, you know those that you step back and realize just what the heck is going on. Well, it happens to me every so often and with it a piece of reality comes crashing into me, so I have to take it like a man, sort of speaking, and well deal with it. So, this time I finally realized that after nearly a decade of searching and working hard to build residual income, I believe I found the one thing that will work. I mean , it more like running a business, and dealing with individuals, but if you think about it that usually what makes people money, owning a company where people you hire perform a service or produce something, so even though there are tons of affiliate programs out there, and they do work, but you do have to be persistent with them and most importantly patient, because they won’t produce money over night and of course you’ll need to spend money the first two or so years to make money. But what happens most individuals don’t have the patience and end up giving up early and then blaming it on the system, when in fact it was them all along. Just like any business, whether you open a restaurant, night club, it is proven that the first two years is where most people give up and their business fails, yah of course you need a plan, but if you follow a plan that is already working, then all you have to do is follow it and stick to it.
So, with that said, I wanted to share with you this thought, “The economy is looking grim, people are failing every where from their jobs, to their mortgage payment to their family and it doesn’t look pretty, but I think this is the best time to start learning something new, take things by the balls and go for it, I know it takes money to make money, but see about taking out a small business loans, or getting together with family, friends, ok…so you had a bad experience with a friend or family, but that doesn’t mean you are older and wiser now and can set certain things into place to protect all involved…and then it could work. Believe in your self, believe on what you are doing but most importantly do something that is already working, or market the way something is already marketing and working…look, read, decide and hang tough, don’t give up…it will take several years to see anything worthwhile, the first 2 years are the most important, those two years weed out the successful business from those that only wished. I believe you believe, don’t let negative people, family friends step on your dreams, because in the long run you are the one living this life as you, you are the one that is part of your children and spouse or mate…and everyone else can simply run in the rat race if they want. I believe it is possible, if I can do it, so can others. And remember always help others along your road to success and you will receive two-fold for your kindness - So get up, shut up and put up.
Thanks for reading and remember this is the time to pull away from everything else bad going around you. Till next time, may success be with you each and every day. Latino Man Signing Off.
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