New Blog Name – Same Latino Man

So here I am again, I am sure many of you might have noticed my new Blog name, I felt that it had a negative ring to it, so I wanted to actually keep it more in line with who I am…a Latino, and of course I’ll continue to share my thoughts, ideas, short stories and anything else I may be inclined to share. I think reading blogs is a little safer that the Twitter, Face Book and other large social networks sites, only saying…not stating that these places are bad, just that well…you know...you’ve heard what has happened and of course it’s also my opinion to any facts.
Anyhow, so I wanted to change the sound of my blog, but nothing else will change. So let me cover a topic or discussion on something I feel is important. Over the years as I was growing up, you grow up hearing or believing or getting taught certain social do’s and don’ts. And one such thing is the whole concept of a Man or Woman that happens to stare, in a kind way, at the opposite sex, because they are either extremely indulges, beautiful, curvy, muscular, or what ever might have caused him or her to look at that other person. Of course as kids we are taught not to stare, it is not nice. But seriously, if you think about, we stare at many other things, and yah take it they maybe be not human but the concept to me is the same.

So let’s say, you are having dinner and a waiter walks by with something that smells good, as a reaction we have a tendency to follow the smell and hope to get a glimpse of the dish. Of course you are staring and the individuals that gets the dish feels your look, you smile and they may say…this is a wonderful dish…you then think…hmm…maybe I should give it a try. Now, as a guy, we have a tendency to stare at cars, whether old or new, if there is something about it that we like, we will stare. Obviously the person that owns the car, either feels the stare and smiles, and you give a thumbs up or if its in a drive way, the owner might come out and spark a conversation about the car…nothing wrong…right. Now, women…and I speak by experience; have a tendency to stare at clothing or other articles of clothing that maybe worn by other women. Now,  some women that are being stared at have an issue and maybe walk away briskly, may snap at you or you could kindly say, “Nice Dress”, what happens next is probably a light conversation of the material and where she might have purchased it…nothing wrong…right. So you could probably think of countless scenarios of such things when people stare, and most of the time is properly done; really only state that you like what you see…and nothing else comes about from it.
Now, let's use another example, “People”. Men and Women since probably the beginning of time have a tendency to look at one another as you stroll by each, because of some peculiar feature they may have. Now, some people or possibly most individuals will get insulted and either thinks something is wrong with the person staring or you maybe a pervert of some sort. Now, I see it as a total compliment, you see if I had a girlfriend and people stared at her because she was beautiful, in either having a well plump breast, nice rear or long beautiful legs, I wouldn’t mind, why…because at the time of the incident the person staring simply was attracted by something he or she, yah I said she, like about my girlfriend. And it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if a guy happens to walk by and was tall, dark, well built, nice chest, beautiful eye or even a nice rump and my girlfriend or significant other stared…hey…that is totally natural, why, because we are humans and we all like nice things…so it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if I or any man for that mater, happen to see a women walk by and stared,  you know in a kind way, to me that woman should feel complimented; now here comes a clarification to that last statement…and I only say these from my experience. Young women are more easily offended by a guy staring…but older women actually welcome the stare…why is that…it should be ok for all women, young and old to not be offended by a staring man or women…it should come to them  as a compliment and acknowledgement that you are attracted in some way…a good thing.
Now, the only problem I say with “Staring” is if you are actively involved with someone, and you acted on your staring…that could lead to an issue. You see…I think staring is ok, healthy and should be treated as only that, a stare and a compliment. But if you, or your significant other acted on the stare, with a flirt, smile, wave and then into a little more than…juts a hello…then of course that is where the problem is…then it leads to a totally different topic…”Cheating”.

But for now, lets stick to Staring, If you stare, your significant other stares or maybe you are being stared at…don’t worry or let it bother you…take it as a compliment and acknowledgement that you or that person is simply attracting our senses…and nice things and nice to look at.
My Perspective:If someone stares at you or your significant other stares at someone else…don’t worry…don’t let it bring down your world, because in the long run…the stare is simply as I said…an acknowledgement that you have or they have a particular feature that simply is – Eye Pleasing – . I think you should start worrying when no ones pays attention to you…even if you flaunt it…and no ones stares…that’s when you worry.
Thanks for reading, till next time keep it simple, don’t worry about all the little things and accept that stare as a compliment.

Going Back –



So, I not sure if anyone remember me talking about a sister – n – law I have that is pretty well off, financially. Well, she was going through some trouble times with her husband and was in the process of a horrible divorce battle. Ok, let me recap, they live in Mexico, Ensenada, about 2 hour and 30 minutes south of the boarder of San Diego, CA. They started a small company, refilling ink cartridges and well long story short, they turned it into an empire, pretty much having all the market areas from Tijuana to Ensenada, government offices, large and small business and of course the individual consumer.

Anyhow, the husband has a tendency to cheat and was caught in several uncompromising positions, besides being a tyrant, pretty much keeping his wife as a prisoner in a golden palace, he was pretty much a weirdo…when it was done and said. Anyhow, so she left him several months ago and with a large sum of money…he gave her. Now, the divorce, I take it took for a turn he did not like and pretty much closed all the doors for her, well, being the high spender she and he knew this, it was a matter of time where she would return to him and the money…I say the later part.

So in other words she went back, to the no friends, only those he says are ok, no tight shirts or low neck line, no skirts unless they are covering your ankles, no coffee with friend, no movies, hey why since they have a home movie theater, hmmm…let me see…oh yah no outings, and you need to work you’re A$$ of even though you are the owners wife…don’t want any wife of mine sitting at home being lazy, life AGAIN. I don’t understand, I know that maybe she got accustomed to the finer things in life, but what things, when you were either at work from 8-8 and stuck at home the rest of the time. Why…why would anyone go back to being a prisoner? Is the money really that important…or is it really that she really does love him?

Let’s assume that cheating was not the issue here, but the whole being locked up…it just doesn’t make sense to me…being a prisoner is a crazy idea…even with all the money in the world…loosing your freedom…that just does not sit well with me. What you can or cannot wear, who you can or cannot be friends with, including your own family. Having restrictions on whom you can talk with…is beyond understanding with me…yet…people…women and men…always or almost always end up going back to that person. And yet you have the nice men and women out there, always get the short end of the stick or short end of a relationship in this story. It drives me bananas…and I am sure I am not the only one that feels the same way. The only thing that I see that could come out of her going back…is disastrous in all the content of that relationship.

If someone continuously checked my phone, or emails, or would object to what type of clothing I could wear, or the friends I can have had to be approved by my significant other…that would not sit with me. Even if I didn’t have to work, and she provided everything I could dream of, cars (Lamborghini), nice clothes, nice vacations, money too spend, but I was not allowed to see certain people or even family members, could not go to the movies or anywhere else for that matter because we had a home theater or a , was restricted on whom I could see or talk to…that money or material things I’d let go in an instant…and live on the streets if I had to…before having to live my life in that matter…I just can’t see or believe it…that as people anyone can handle that sort of life with anyone…yet we hear it ALL the time. And it happens to friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, etc.

Another instant, a person I know…had an abusive husband literally had been sent to jail over 10 times…yet he was welcomed back each time. Then the finally or better said he finally left…live on his own…never bother with the 2 children…no support…nothing. Now, I come to hear she went back to him, but wait…it gets better…during the 6-8 months they were separated and in the process of a divorce she was his bootie call, can you believe that! But now he says he will go to anger management with her…wait…why her, because it seems when they got into physical fights, she would hit him as well, with objects, fists, etc….so she was just as much to blame…now they are getting back together…but wait…when you see her in person…and ask her how she feels…she actually states that she is scared…scared…then why go back to him and that type of life.

I don’t get it…OK…don’t come and tell me its love and that leaving someone is SO hard, because you know what…that is the biggest crock of crap that I have heard and you have heard…and you know it. So why do people do it, hey I heard about this stuff when I was a kid, and I heard it from my parents…it never changes…

My Perspective:
EVERYONE deserves to be happy, so whether you are poor, rich, middle class, or whether you have a job or don’t, or are in a relationship or not…but when you are with someone that makes your life miserable…you need to suck it up and move on. I seriously cannot believe that anyone human is willing to take or live in that kind of abuse…”Love Hurts” you say…baloney. And don’t come telling me I don’t have a clue about what you or anyone lived…and that every situation is different and that this and that is an excuse, or that he or she will change or that my kids are in the middle…no…keep that all to yourself…because I do not buy…and if you are buying into it…then that is you…and if you step back and look at your life and are not happy then you need to find the strength to get out while you still can…it is never too late…never.
Thanks for reading and I hope that for those out there living as prisoners, living in a verbal or physical abusive relationship, living with out freedom….I wish you the strength to find a way out and live as everyone is meant to live…HAPPY. Signing Off…till next time

How Did Your Mate Make you Cheat?

Now, I know I have touch on this topic a few other times, but this is on the other side of the spectrum. You know we always hear about the cheating husband, boyfriend, wife, or girlfriend…and how horrible it was to find out. Now, my question is:

“If you cheated, why did you cheat? What made you cheat?”

Now, I have heard a few responses and here is one that I found to be very common…now the percent of men to woman that response in this way is different…more men than women responded this way. Ok, so…the reason they cheated was because their significant other was not satisfying them, either by not performing at all or if performing then there was no passion.

Let me elaborate; one man said that his partner was giving it to him maybe once a month and even when it came down to it…she just did it…no fore-play, no oral, nothing…just that she got on top and that was it. Now, one woman explains that she has had a rough day, with the kids, cleaning, cooking and running errands. Then her husband comes home and relaxes, which she doesn’t mind, and as soon as the kids are in bed…he wants to get between sheets…all she wants is a little time to her self. Now, of course she gives in and when it comes down to it…he wants to get all freaky and do things she just doesn’t want to do or is to tired to do and it ends up being a wham-bam thank you mam night. Ok, I also got a response from a woman that says her husband doesn’t want to do it as much as he use to and well…upfront she is a horn-dog and well…she started looking else where. The scenarios are many, but the most common thing I noticed between all these cases is…they just don’t get satisfied with their partner…whether it is was a quickie or nothing or the missing play time…they just don’t get satisfied and the look else where for that satisfaction. Te thing that gets to me is when you first meet someone…its on…bedroom, coffee table, this way, that way…with lingerie, in the shower…well you get the point…you can’t keep your hands off of each other…where does it go. Ok…now some people tell me it’s hard when you have children…you never know when they might burst in on you…well…lock the door…leave them at your mother’s house…find a way to have a night of passion with your significant other…you will both feel better…your relationship will improve…find the time.

Ok, now here is the funny thing…in one of the responses…the woman caught her husband having an affair with another woman, the thing is the wife was having an affair with the other woman’s husband…somehow they had swapped…without knowing…of course later it all came to light. Now what’s even funnier that each complained about each others lack of their partner doing fore-play, oral or trying new things, yet they were doing it with each others husband or wife…so then I have to say that all this cheating is probably caused by one thing…the lack of being attracted to your partner…hmm…could that be it.

“So, If you cheated, why did you cheat? What made you cheat?”

My Perspective:
This could be a touchy perspective but I’ll put it out there and see what you think…remember this is my perspective and it could mean nothing…without all the variables of the relationship. Ok, so…”Don’t Cheat”…that’s my perspective…if you are thinking about it…talk to your partner…ask them what happen to the bedroom romance…you might be surprised. If it was the lack of you not performing or doing the things they want…then change….listen…if you want some loving…then you better satisfy them and in return it will satisfy you…or at least you’ll be getting some. Now, please this goes to both male and females…I totally understand about having an exhausting day and you probably are extremely tired…but marriage/relationship do take some work, which means tired or not…dress up, shower, keep fit for your partner. I mean don’t come home after a hard days work and not shower and expect some loving…and please don’t come out in a XXXXL T-shirt and baggy sweats and expect your partner to make love to you as he did when you first met. Not saying to go out and buy hundreds of dollars of lingerie…but you know something simple for the ladies could be…a shower, then come out a bit wet…wearing a tank-top (white) and some black or red panties (preferably a thong)…that will drive any sensible man crazy. No need for costly lingerie.

Guys…come one…take a shower, come out in some satin briefs or PJs, a tank top or open shirt. Now the fit thing…that’s an optional thing…I think…you know it’s always nice to stay fit, but if you and your partner have some love-handles…I am sure you can get past that and straight to the…well…you know. So…don’t cheat…you’ll get caught eventually…it always happens…always…whether a week, month, year…you’ll get caught and more than likely the person you are cheating with will probably get tired.
Talk to your partner…come to a compromise…she might like it this way…you might like it that way…compromise…and if toys are needed..come on guys…suck it up…take my word for it…if she wants a toy…let her have it…watch her use it…believe me she will get satisfied and there is anything more exotic than seeing a women and a toy…hey…you’ll get your chance and by then she would have been to the moon and back…so…you know.
Shower – Talk – Take care of each other.

Till next time, thanks for reading and I look forward to your responses,

Is it Wrong?

Welcome to another posting, I really appreciate you coming back…ok…so here is an interesting topic or better said an interesting question.

“Is it wrong to go through your mates phone or is it even worse to ask them and then they say no?"

I ran into a friend while getting coffee a cafeteria and we started chatting. I asked him how his girlfriend was doing and he sort of gave me a blank look and told me that they were no longer together. I told him I was sorry to hear that and what had happen, if he didn’t mind me asking about it. He started by saying that cell phone suck…of they don’t, but from his comment that their breakup had to do something with the cell phone. So, he told what had happen.

Let me start from the beginning, they had been dating for about a month and before they got together my friend had a lot of girl-friends, plutonic only.
Well, not that I am on his side, but the guy was totally into this girl…and believe me when I say that he isn’t a player…he might be a good looking guy…but he couldn’t be a player even if he tried…anyhow, so…I am not going to make this long. This friend of mine has had the same phone and number for 10 years…yah…it’s a pretty ugly phone, but he likes and it works for him. Anyhow, so he has had this phone for a long time and this guy is a really cool guy…easy to get along with…and he has a lot of friends. The thing is, even the ladies…enjoy talking to him and he still as friends that he new from his previous job of 5 years…they just happen to always keep in touch and they like asking him for his opinion. So his cell phone is full of people…both woman and men. Anyhow, he met his girlfriend at a party put on between two mutual friends and they hit it off, he really liked her and it seems she liked him so they started dating and eventually ended up hooking up. Now, during the dating time…she (the girlfriend) had met a lot of his friends, both woman and men…you know while going out to parties, get gatherings, things like that. Now, it seemed like everything was going ok, they both agreed on renting an apartment together and moving in. So they went ahead and signed a 1-year lease and started living together. Around the 2 month of them living together it seems she was starting to become a bit confined,…better said she began to close up…to him. She wouldn’t want to go out as much, always told him to go ahead with out her and on most occasions he wouldn’t go and stayed with her watching movies. He didn’t think of it much, you know her modes, actions, the way she was acting…he just sort off went with it.

It seems that several weeks had past just after the sudden change where she started asking him who he was talking to on the phone every time it would ring. Of course he would tell her it was Julia, or Bret, or whomever he was talking to. The thing is that one day, when the phone did ring she pick up his cell phone and saw a name of a woman she did not recognize, now remember they had only been dating and living together for about 2 months, and she totally freaked out, so she started looking through his phone book. He happened to be in the shower and when he came out she was on him like a tiger. She started asking him who was Joan and then she started going down the list of women on his phone cell of women she did not know. So, he started to want to explain, but she just got more angry and before he could get in a word, she had stomped out of the house and weird thing is she never came back…even for her things. Any how my friend was totally taken by this and could not believe what had happen.

My friend was a bit worried because they had just signed a lease and he could pay the monthly rent, but he did find a roommate and they removed her from the lease, he eventually was able to get a hold of one of her friends and give back her belongings…now you got to hear this. On his way to his ex-girlfriend house, his mom happened to be along for the ride simply because he was dropping her off some where. Well, he got to the place and sure enough his Ex was there…she looked at him and asked him who was that in the car…his new girlfriend…well…he looked at her and said…that’s Joan…my mother. He said the expression on her face was one to send into “Americas Funniest Videos” and win the grand price. He turned around and walked away. Now, as we were talking, his phone rings and sure enough it was his ex-girlfriend…he didn’t pickup, but he just looked at me and said, “You know I don’t understand why she had to go through my phone, it's my personal space, I never hid anything from her and never gave her a reason to ever doubt me, but going through my phone was totally uncalled for and the worst part of it was, she never let me explain anyone of her accusations…so why…he asked”.

My Perspective:
I believe that a relationship is built on trust and communication and without these two things a relationship will not work. I personally don’t think someone should go through some else’s phone, wallet or personal items. If you feel they maybe cheating on you, because that’s the main reason anyone would look through someone else’s things, then ask them…talk. If you still don’t get the satisfaction and you don’t believe them…then there is no trust and no real communication and you need to move on. Why would you waste you life trying to catch someone in a lie…if you have doubts...it won’t work. Believe me…there is someone out there that will truly be the one where you can be happy, live without doubt and just love. So, no I don’t think it's right for someone to go through some ones cell phone; if there is no trust…there is no need.

Thanks for reading, I look forward to your responses and until next time.