Mens Magazine – Not the Same

I thought this was interesting. Now, I have read Men’s Health magazine and other men’s magazine, not Playboy, but other magazine. Any how, lately I have been reading Cosmopolitan, yah I have been reading that. You know I think I even posted about an article I read in it a few blog post ago. Anyhow, so I come to realize when doing a comparison that women magazine provide their reader, which is women targeted, with more information on how to court a man, keep a man or simply make a man happy. Now, there are some articles that directly tell women on what to say to their man in order for the women to get her thing on…or even have a fantastic “O”.

So, I was reading and I started comparing and I realize that the men’s magazine’s don’t provide that kind of insight or articles. It would be great to have article that tell men on experiences that other men have had, maybe dealing with sexual issues, or dealing with kids, or things that are on every mans mind, when they are single and when they are married or in a relationship. You been in my forties, I have had the opportunity to hear a lot of men’s issues with heir girlfriends, or wives and seriously they always seems to be similar issues among all the men I talked to. So if there are men out there that have been able to get through these concerns, then why not right an article about it…maybe not everyone might agree with the idea, but that’s what it would be, and idea, and options…some kind of light at the end of the tunnel.

I mean…women complain that men’s mind are simple, or single minded…only on sex, well, I hate to break the news to you ladies, but that is not completely true. We enjoy sex…heck…I know most women also. But there are other things that we would like as well. I am pretty sure if you just hang out with your guy, and talk to him, and not about your friends, or kids, but about him and you…sit with a glass of wine, a cold beer or heck a glass of water and talk, and listen. The thing is don’t sit at the dinning table, but in a loveseat that’s why the couch was giving that name it is all about the LOVEseat. Use it to sit next to each other and talk, but most importantly cuddle…I promise your guy will definitely enjoy the time together and it doesn’t necessarily need to lead to sex, but if it does…I am pretty sure it will be all the better.

The thing is that men’s magazine don’t need to always teach a guy to look good, to attract the ladies, but they need to provide information on how to be yourself, how not to be nervous about talking to a women, and if they put you down for whatever reason learn to talk it through and let them know how it made you feel…or simply brush it off…but gracefully. Just because we are men, doesn’t mean we can’t be a man and still shed a tear.

I don’t know…but maybe I am completely wrong and maybe I haven’t seen or read all the articles in those Men’s magazine…the thing is that there should be articles written for men, to provide them with insight on the many issues that men experience while in a relationship. Men helping men…providing advice, experiences or even just knowing that you are not the only “Man” going through what you are going through.

My Perspective:
Maybe we need something out there for Men, to share information, ideas, thoughts, experiences and some advice. We can get the older generation to provide what they been through and have the younger generation prove insight on what they are going through…together, maybe we can share options on how to deal with all the issues that we as men are going through or been through.

I appreciate the read, till next time Latino Man signing off.

Gentlemen's Club - Past / Present
 The Gentlemen’s club, has change quite a bit since I have been to one in 15 plus years. I hate to say this, but about 6 months ago I went to one here in San Diego, with my brother-n-law. Now, he came down to visit from Los Angeles (LA), so I was sort of surprised when he asked me to take him to one. Since I have heard that the gentlemen’s club in LA are a whole lot better than those in San Diego…for the very simply reason that the women seen in San Diego…are pretty ugly compared to those in LA.

In either case we went to one and he was not satisfied…first of all, they did not serve alcohol, which he told me they do In LA. Now I told him they don’t here because it is totally nude, well in came back telling that were he goes they serve alcohol and the women are completely nude…so I was surprised…there must be a lot of fights or trouble…he said that the times he had gone only once did he see a group of guys get a little out of hand, but that they were immediately take out by a group of Security guards…then everything went back to business. So he wasn’t to happy with the setup here; he ended up stepping out and going next door to grab a drink, then he would come back and see a few dances and this routing would continue for about three or four times.
The funny thing is that some of the women would attempt to come up on him and he would tell them he needed a drink…they would get extremely flustered and tell him he didn’t and he would laugh…which was the ladies queue to move on. He later told me there were a whole lot of older women in the club and quite a few ugly ones. The few that were worth looking at were simply crowded by tons of guys…it was hard to get to them…lol.

Now the thing is, he got a lady that he liked and got a lap dance…I guess they have a Non VIP and a VIP…he went to VIP section…of course it was 5 song minimum at $20…so you are looking at $100 minimum spent. He did said that the girls got a lot of Hands-on him and he was totally surprised, and of course said it was well worth it. Now, my thing is that I fairly recall that the guys had to keep there hands to the sides at all times and were not allowed to touch the ladies, unless the ladies moved their hands. So when he told me that he got a lot of hands on…I was surprised to here that. I guess that the whole gentlemen’s club scene has progresses or well…hmmm not sure what to say…a lot in the past 15 years.

Now the thing is that since the internet has become a whole lot accessible to these types of things, of course some control is in place, but the accessibility is there…and I am surprised that these clubs have not slowly disappeared. Now, one thing that was interesting was the fact that a whole lot of older ladies were doing this. The thing is you could tell that this was not a choice, but more of a necessity…because most of them, seriously, did not know how to dance, talk or well simply looking at them you could sense that they really did not belong there and were only doing it for economic reasons. You see back in the day it would be the joke that I know where my money was going…to help someone through college…lol…which was usually the case. Now it seems your money is helping to put food on the table and a roof over some ones head…wow. Yah…some of those ladies…had kids…and even married.

Now, like I said just reading on the subject on the net in amazing what you read and find out the gentlemen’s club and how sometimes they comes out in the news about bribery, corruption…etc.. The thing is what happens inside them is an eye opener. Now, I am a guy and heck if this happen back in the day…that would be fantastic…Yah I am sure a lot of people reading would throw something at me…but hey…it wasn’t like that and right now I have other things to do with my money…kids, mortgage, etc….maybe I could be like one of those 60 yea old going in there to get there taste and spend their social security money…lol. Not sure of the ladies would like that…but money is money, where it comes from…I guess.

My thing is…is there a reason for the ladies to go past the line…is it because they are not performing enough lap dances, where they make there money, to sustain them financially; so they need to revert to drastic measures and sometimes they might not be exactly what they would like to do, but in order to make some money they need to? I don’t know…there could be other reasons’, maybe the ladies are taking to like a more hands on approach to there job…who knows.

My Perspective:
It’s not the most liked job in the world, and unfortunately there are people out there that bad mouth these ladies and some men on what they do, but people need to make a living and as long as you have 2 consenting adults, I think what happens inside these Gentlemen’s Club should stay inside. Many of us may not agree with this industry or job, but then again, there are thousands of jobs out there that many of us would agree with either…simply said that there is always someone to fill the needs, demands of a service or product that others look down upon. Don’t hold it against them…they are trying…just like many of us are.

Thanks for reading till next time Latino Man signing off

Female Traits That Men Can't Resist
by YourTango.com

Women know what they want, they just don't know always how to tell us men. One thing women as a rule do not want is this guy: Jack McJerkface. While irresistible women will likely still attract the McJerks, she'll also attract the Mr. Perfects.

There's a lot of conflicting dating and pickup advice out there: play hard to get, don't play hard to get, be yourself, be a sports fan, be sexy but still down to earth, the list goes on. Here I've compiled 7 traits any straight man undoubtedly finds irresistible. 3 Secrets To Exuding Sexy

So, do one or all of these things to get our attention... and then keep us calling you for date after date.

1 She's Funny. One of the easiest (and surprisingly least-practiced) methods of convincing us we made the right choice in talking to you is when you respond to our jokes instead of simply laughing at them. If you're heehawing at our wisecracks, wonderful—just make sure you don't leave a dead silence at the end of each one or we're going to think you're expecting a stand-up routine. We want a woman who's our conversation partner—not just an adoring fan.

2. She's Somewhere Between Aloof And Instantly In Love. As the law of supply and demand goes, we want to crave your attention before we get it. Once we have it, though, it's nice to be reminded that you only have eyes for us.

3. She's Fashionable—But Not Obsessively. If you spend most of your time and energy on clothes and shoes, we may suspect you are a bit superficial. Can we not sit around in our underwear once in a while if we're feeling depressed? (OK, a very rare "once in a while," fine.) We like a woman who minds her appearance but who also knows that being attractive is more about confidence than owning Manolos. Surprise: Men Primp As Much As Women Do

4. She's Healthy—But Not Obsessively. Obviously men dig a woman with a kickin' body, but not if it means she spends more time in the gym than she does with us. Likewise, we'll forgive you for eating a salad on a first date but not every date for the rest of our lives. Remember, men like curves and women who can bench-press us are somewhat frightening.

5. She's Down To Earth. The type of attention a drama queen demands from men is not the sort of genuine, will-love-you-forever attention women deserve. We like a woman who forgives the occasional stupid move. If we say the wrong thing in a casual conversation and it wasn't racist or an otherwise idiotic remark, she remembers that, as humans, we are going to disagree with at least 25 percent of everything anybody says, and so, she lets it go. Signs You're Just Not That Into Him

6. She Resists Adding Us On Facebook. Where do you want this relationship to go? If you answer, "I'm not sure" or anything other than "to the friend zone with you!" then you should not be friending us on Facebook until it's established that we are more than chummy. I recently had to unfriend two women I dated because they friended me before we ever went out and it didn't work out with either. Don't make us the bad guys.

7. She Returns Our Phone Calls. I know it seems like calling a woman is no big deal because we are grown men, but every time we dial a number for the first time, we are terrified that one of the following things will happen: a) you won't remember us, b) we have to think of something witty to say on your voicemail. Unless we were total jerks to you (in which case you shouldn't have given us your real number), call us back ASAP.

8. She's Passionate But Isn't A Zealot. TomFoolery blogger Tom Miller says: "It's inspirational when anyone is really into something. Whether it's a cause, a hobby or a job, seeing what gets a lady fired-up makes her more attractive (unless it's dog fighting). Zeal does have its limits, however. Fifty hours of work per week plus another fifty hours of decoupage doesn't leave much time for dating or finding new passions as a couple"

9. She Has Friends. Another one from TomFoolery: "While approaching a gaggle of gals is a little intimidating, dating the lone shewolf is even scarier. It's nice to know that we can spend some guy time or alone time and not have someone lonely, disappointed and thinking of revenges for this slight. Plus maybe one of your friends will like one of our friends, and who doesn't like people helping people? The downside is when your friends are jerks, jealous of our time or totally up in our couple business." Being Popular Makes You More Attractive.

My Perspective:
Be yourself, don't over do it, and yes...guys may be guys, but deep down inside we like the cuddling, the birthday fuss and there isn't one guy out there that doesn't. He might now show it or he  might seems the tough guy, but you ladies know, when he is behind closed doors, you know him. Ladies be approachable, give it a go, don't think all guys are assholes...because you might just...might let the one get away.

Till next time, thanks for reading and have fun...Latino Man Signing Off.