A Latinos Blog

New Blog Name – Same Latino Man

So here I am again, I am sure many of you might have noticed my new Blog name, I felt that it had a negative ring to it, so I wanted to actually keep it more in line with who I am…a Latino, and of course I’ll continue to share my thoughts, ideas, short stories and anything else I may be inclined to share. I think reading blogs is a little safer that the Twitter, Face Book and other large social networks sites, only saying…not stating that these places are bad, just that well…you know...you’ve heard what has happened and of course it’s also my opinion to any facts.
Anyhow, so I wanted to change the sound of my blog, but nothing else will change. So let me cover a topic or discussion on something I feel is important. Over the years as I was growing up, you grow up hearing or believing or getting taught certain social do’s and don’ts. And one such thing is the whole concept of a Man or Woman that happens to stare, in a kind way, at the opposite sex, because they are either extremely indulges, beautiful, curvy, muscular, or what ever might have caused him or her to look at that other person. Of course as kids we are taught not to stare, it is not nice. But seriously, if you think about, we stare at many other things, and yah take it they maybe be not human but the concept to me is the same.

So let’s say, you are having dinner and a waiter walks by with something that smells good, as a reaction we have a tendency to follow the smell and hope to get a glimpse of the dish. Of course you are staring and the individuals that gets the dish feels your look, you smile and they may say…this is a wonderful dish…you then think…hmm…maybe I should give it a try. Now, as a guy, we have a tendency to stare at cars, whether old or new, if there is something about it that we like, we will stare. Obviously the person that owns the car, either feels the stare and smiles, and you give a thumbs up or if its in a drive way, the owner might come out and spark a conversation about the car…nothing wrong…right. Now, women…and I speak by experience; have a tendency to stare at clothing or other articles of clothing that maybe worn by other women. Now,  some women that are being stared at have an issue and maybe walk away briskly, may snap at you or you could kindly say, “Nice Dress”, what happens next is probably a light conversation of the material and where she might have purchased it…nothing wrong…right. So you could probably think of countless scenarios of such things when people stare, and most of the time is properly done; really only state that you like what you see…and nothing else comes about from it.
Now, let's use another example, “People”. Men and Women since probably the beginning of time have a tendency to look at one another as you stroll by each, because of some peculiar feature they may have. Now, some people or possibly most individuals will get insulted and either thinks something is wrong with the person staring or you maybe a pervert of some sort. Now, I see it as a total compliment, you see if I had a girlfriend and people stared at her because she was beautiful, in either having a well plump breast, nice rear or long beautiful legs, I wouldn’t mind, why…because at the time of the incident the person staring simply was attracted by something he or she, yah I said she, like about my girlfriend. And it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if a guy happens to walk by and was tall, dark, well built, nice chest, beautiful eye or even a nice rump and my girlfriend or significant other stared…hey…that is totally natural, why, because we are humans and we all like nice things…so it wouldn’t bother me at all. Now, if I or any man for that mater, happen to see a women walk by and stared,  you know in a kind way, to me that woman should feel complimented; now here comes a clarification to that last statement…and I only say these from my experience. Young women are more easily offended by a guy staring…but older women actually welcome the stare…why is that…it should be ok for all women, young and old to not be offended by a staring man or women…it should come to them  as a compliment and acknowledgement that you are attracted in some way…a good thing.
Now, the only problem I say with “Staring” is if you are actively involved with someone, and you acted on your staring…that could lead to an issue. You see…I think staring is ok, healthy and should be treated as only that, a stare and a compliment. But if you, or your significant other acted on the stare, with a flirt, smile, wave and then into a little more than…juts a hello…then of course that is where the problem is…then it leads to a totally different topic…”Cheating”.

But for now, lets stick to Staring, If you stare, your significant other stares or maybe you are being stared at…don’t worry or let it bother you…take it as a compliment and acknowledgement that you or that person is simply attracting our senses…and nice things and nice to look at.
My Perspective:If someone stares at you or your significant other stares at someone else…don’t worry…don’t let it bring down your world, because in the long run…the stare is simply as I said…an acknowledgement that you have or they have a particular feature that simply is – Eye Pleasing – . I think you should start worrying when no ones pays attention to you…even if you flaunt it…and no ones stares…that’s when you worry.
Thanks for reading, till next time keep it simple, don’t worry about all the little things and accept that stare as a compliment.