I Have the Issue - ???

So I wanted to get your opinion, or well, maybe not an opinion, but I wanted to share my situation. This was brought up during a heated discussion, just like many couples people argue about different things and one of the most common things is finances. Now, I have already moved on, but in a recent discussion, this was brought up…more of a blame on me for what was happening, but like I shared with her I wanted to share with you…see if maybe I was in the wrong, so please read on.

So, let’s just say…your significant other build widgets and after all costs, make a profit of $100 dollars. Ok, so you really don’t know what the make, but if you see 10 widgets shipped per week, then you can conclude that they are selling 10 widgets a week for $100 dollars each, and this is continuous…ok. So you guess-timate $1000 per week, but when it comes time to deposit into your mutual bank...it is 1500 every 2-weeks…so you ask yourself…what is going on with the other $500…so you ask and they tell you that NO, they deposited all the money…and other reasons. But I ask, I work a full-time job, bust my hump and I am a Realtor and Loan specialist, I also have my Notary license and I run a website business…so I believe that I have the right to get cranky, because every month if you struggle to make ends meet…you end up getting tired and frustrated, because you know there are an additional 1000 a month that you have no clue where it is going. Wait…I am using this as an example, in my case it is thousands of dollars a month un-accounted for…and when I ask…they get defensive and worst of they wonder why I am in such a PISSY mood everyday.

So I ask, if you had a partner that you could guess pretty darn close what the make and you noticed they don’t deposit a lot of it…wouldn’t you be a little PISSY? Especially if you BUST your hump to provide...towards the family. That was the last discussion I was in, why was I always in a bad mood and it wasn’t nice to live with someone that was always in a bad mood…so…I guess I was the problem in this relationship.

You know though, I hear her talking to her friends and I hear some conversation about the husbands…I heard one where the husband got upset and threw out the wife in her underwear and bra in the middle of the night…she had to walk/run more blocks to get to her moms house. Ok, then I hear one where the husband won’t change a diaper, won’t cook, won’t clean, won’t do a single thing around the house to help and they both work. He comes home late or whenever he likes and expects a warm dinner and a warm bed, then I heard one of the husbands does not allow her to wear lowcut shirts, short dresses or tight dresses, no shorts, no bathing suites, no makeup, she cannot go out with friends, unless he is there…wait…the best part is, he goes out with his friends and stays out late hours of the night…no..wait, he sometimes does not come home, he verbally abuses her..seriously…pretty much she is locked up in a 10,000 square foot mansion…with no outside connection…so you tell me…I was the issue here.

Now, I am not perfect at all, I have a temper, but it takes a lot to get that out, but I don’t care what she wears, I prefer sexy, I don’t mind she goes out with friends, she can come home whenever…I trust her, she can pretty much buy anything, within reason, I don’t argue over petty things, I work hard, as I said, I have a fulltime job, make good money, I am a realtor, close deals, I have my notary, have provided services, run a website, pays for itself and provides a little money..which all goes directly into our mutual account…come…I guess I am the problem. So with that said, I decided to move on and make everyone happy…by removing the problem from the equation.

But what drives me bananas is all those other husbands or boyfriends getting away with it and I have a problem…the problem of being lied to in the face…I guess being lied to is not wrong…if no one really pays attention to it…I guess. Anyhow, thanks for reading and I hope to write some more.
For now, Latino Man signing off...wishing you a calm day, one where you can maybe ignore the issues for just a little while.

Size of His Wallet = Size of her Orgasm

Ok, I seriously could not resist this topic, I am so amazed that everyday you hear and see something new…and sometimes it is so funny or not. Well, anyhow, I wanted to share this topic and see what you think. You know that old saying that, “Size Does Matters”, when it comes to intimacy, well, the “Size Does Matter” has gone to a whole new level and well…direction.

This is how it goes, size matters but in regards to the size of the man’s wallet, ok…it seems that the bigger the man’s wallet the better and bigger the women’s orgasms…interesting huh. Now, we all know that money and economy are the biggest culprits when it comes to dissolved marriages. Couples fight about money. Straight and simple. The thing is that when that happens women stress, not that the man doesn’t right, well it seems that women stress and when this happens they really don’t want to have any intimacy and if they do, mostly not by choice, they either fake an orgasms, 90% of the women do this or they simply do not enjoy it. Now, if a man can provide, a house, car, spending money (spending money seems to be the key here) and the woman not work then the women will have better and bigger orgasms…huh.

Now here is an interesting part, every woman that commented on the subject…totally agreed…ok. They said, of course if I did not have to work, but also had money to spend as I please, of course I would rock my hubbies world. Now, several men…actually most of the men with the exception of one…and I’ll get to him; stated that they are the sole providers and provided plenty of spending money for the wives candi4es; the thing is that when the man got home, if they did not have a maid, the house would be a mess, there was no food and the women either has a headache or had a busy day with the kids, if kids were involved. The women that had maids always had a great excuse as why they did not feel like having sex. Now, the one man that stated this was true, was a business owner…he said that it was totally true, he had been married before for 10 years, got divorced and afterwards made himself a name with his own business, well he met a younger women, about 20 years younger…he met her through his business, well, they dated briefly, married, she doesn’t work, she drives a nice car and has spending money. Now they do not have kids, he does from his first marriage, so when he gets home she has the house clean, food ready and of course the evenings are, what was that word he used?, “Incredible”. Now sure if it is the age difference, the money or the fact that they do not have kids.

The thing is, that I personally know of a guy, who works his own business, his wife does not work, they have three kids and well, they are as happy as can be. She maintains the house clean, takes care of the kids, drives a nice car, has money to spend and still has dinner ready for him, and actually waits to eat with him…he gets home a bit late. She puts the kids to bed while he showers or relaxes and then the evenings are well...he didn’t say…but he gets it 3-4 times a week…so that seems to work. I guess it just a matter of individuality, each person is different…of course right…the thing is finding that right person that fits in your or each other’s life style…some women prefer to work, have careers, other’s are great home makers…and yet others well they fall through the cracks…I don’t know.

I forgot to mention that all the men except one, totally said they were not that big in the men’s department, the one that said he did was the one with the younger wife, she actually confirmed…so maybe that was another plus on his side. So was it the size of the wallet and manly hood…or was it just the size of the wallet that left these men high and dry. You tell me, ladies is it the size of the wallet that counts?

My Perspective:
I think that it all depends on the couple, whom you are with. You see each of us is different, you might have two people that love to work and have careers, you might have a woman high in the corporate ladder that would rather have her husband stay at home, or of course the traditional marriage of the man being the provider and the women staying at home. The thing is, you need determine what you want out of life, do you, as a woman, want to be a home maker, take care of the home, kids and husband. Do you as a woman want to have a career and share in the duties of the family…I mean you as a woman need to find what makes you happy, so other’s are happy. First comes you, then everyone else, now that’s not being selfish, it’s the plain truth. I think it is very hard to find that exact person you can spend the rest of your life with; we all have corky things about us. So, simply finding Mr. or Mrs. Right isn’t as easy as 1-2-3. People need to determine what they really want out of life and then see if they find someone with the same plan…even if it takes a while, I think if you take your time and look and really get to know the person…it would save a lot of marriages. I know it’s hard to find the right person and when you do, they aren’t the person you fell in love with, maybe they lied, or possibly they change their plan, but all we can do is do not rush into a marriage, do not rush into having kids, take the time to know each other and what you want out of life, then everything else will fall nicely into place…I know it sounds to good to be true, but that is my perspective.

Till next time, Listen to soft sensual music, thanks for reading Latino Man signing off.

Marriage and Intimacy

Today blog is probably going to sound like a complaint…but please don’t take it the wrong way, because seriously I have to just put this down on paper…sort of speaking. This whole topic on marriage, relationships and yah sex…it's bananas…it’s incredible…and yet the same thing happens on and on and on…couple after couple, marriage after marriage…ok….sorry.


Ok, here it is…so, the other night a few days before this post…I was sitting in the family room with my wife (significant other)…and I say it that way because it is that way…anyways. So I was flipping through the channels…now under stand this is a rarity for us…actually sitting down in the same room….well I was flipping through the channels and sure enough on HBO there was a series on called “Real Sex”. I have seen a few episodes…nothing big…but that episode talked about women and how they can get back that loving feeling, if you know what I mean. These women had issues with sex in there relationships meaning they no longer wanted to have…and when they did it was more to them an obligation than something they enjoyed.

So, this therapist was showing/illustrating techniques on what a women could do to get back that mood while have intercourse, well a few of the women on the show really did not look like they were enjoying themselves at all. There were toys, lubricant, etc. but when the therapist was demonstrating on a volunteer…the women looked like well…her face looked like well…what’s the big deal…no enjoyment. Well about 2 minutes had gone by when all of sounded I heard echo through the room…”Gross, that’s sick”…so of course at that cue I changed the channel. Ok, your probably saying to yourself…yah typical man…why should I blame the women for not wanting to see that…good for her…yada…yada…yada. Why should a woman have to see such disturbing things…well it really wasn’t that bad, but lets just say for the sake of things it was.

Now, here is my beef…why is it that when a women gets older, has children they all of a sudden loose interest…now wait…of course they are married. Ok…Ok…don’t get all bent out of shape…your probably yelling at me saying it could be a number of things, self esteem, menopause, etc…etc…etc. But this is what eats me…when we first met…there wasn’t a time that she wouldn’t see me and would undress me and we would go at it…and then of course she talked about her exes and the things they did, where they did it, how they did it…hey I have an open mind…I like to know what a women likes… anyhow…and these things turned her on before…but today it grosses her out.

Now, wait…before I got married…I have met women that were older…let's just say over 40…and they had kids, been through a divorce and let me tell you…these women new and enjoyed sex very much and did things that well…probably didn’t do with their husbands’ or maybe they did (if they did…those guys are idiots) So there is my thing…do women loose interest in their husband…is it possible that women no longer finds their husband attractive. Because I have to say…that most men…if given the chance… would take sex anytime they could…you know that…lets not say that’s not true guys…if a guy has a women in front her in lingerie, big shirt or whatever and she starts the seduction…come on guys…you know before you know it…your down to your socks. Now, ok I am not putting the blame on women alone…it does happen to men to of course…- but what makes this change -.

Obviously you married the person because you thought they were sexy or gorgeous, handsome, intelligent, funny and when they came over to visit…your stomach would get all filled up with butterflies…so what happens after getting married or being in a relationship so long. My biggest question is…if anyone gets married…they should look back at the time before they got married and remember those incredible moments they had…the crazy things they did, the enjoyment of the first time…I mean yah your life changes when you get married, yah your life changes when you have kids, but your life doesn’t really change…it grows into something better…I think couples should still enjoy themselves…make time for themselves…behind close doors let the inhibitions go…just as you did when you first met. Marriage and kids should not make you life worse…getting married and having kids is just icing on that cake…that cake that you both kneaded, molded and baked during your dating years. it's not always about they kids…yah they are your life, you have a responsibility to your kids, but if you don’t take care of your marriage or relationship…you won’t be able to take care of your family or your kids and then what.

My Perspective:
You know I am probably starting to sound like a broken record, but it is all about the communication…people need to talk. But now that I am writing this again…I come to realize that the majority of the population doesn’t know how to communicate…they can’t express their feelings, their thoughts and well…that just makes things so much more difficult. All I have to say to this is…I wish I knew what makes a man or women loose interest in sex/intimacy with their significant other…and if you look closely at the statistics…this normally only happens during a marriage or a long term relationship. Maybe…it is time to move forward…move on…I am so sure that there is someone out there that will connect with you…and things will be ok.

It's time to tie up loose ends, prepare for the inevitable and move on…because your happiness is first and foremost, because if you are not happy…then you can’t make your love one happy or your children and that only continues the cycle…move out, move on…you’ll see that your happiness…even away from your kids, if you have them, will make the difference in their lives and yours.


Thanks for listening, hope to see some comments…till next time...be happy.