5 Tips For Outdoor Sex
By YourTango, on Tue Apr 20, 2010 1:00pm PDT

Ah, spring. Sweat, sunshine, Earth Day and jacket-less evenings of pasty limbs and exposed toes always makes us think of…outdoor sex! Here's a handy list to ensure the romp doesn't turn into a nasty public nudity ticket or unfortunate rash.

1. Be alert.
Getting frisky al fresco is all fine and dandy, but nothing turns a saucy romp in the grass from titillating to mortifying quicker then locking eyes with a small child and disapproving mother. Depending on where you're getting down and dirty, it would behoove you to be extra alert to your surroundings. If you're on a hike and decide to be one with nature, fine, but be extra paranoid about a rustle of leaves or serenade of breaking twigs. It's better to be safe (and unfinished) then sorry (with your pants down).

2. Dress appropriately.
Ladies: make it easy and wear a skirt or dress. And men, avoid belts or tight pants. If you want to go commando, even better. But select your outfit carefully and be prepared to disrobe, get busy and then get presentable fast.

3. Bring a blanket.
We learned the hard way to avoid getting sand tucked into certain crevices where it doesn't belong, so if you want sex on the beach bring a generous-sized blanket. Likewise, rocks, sticks, burrs and other parts of nature are prettier to look at than to grind on—trust us.

4. Otherwise, best to do it standing up.
If you have the stamina, standing up is probably the best position for knocking boots outdoors. The shrubbery always looks much more comfortable than it actually is.

5. Come prepared.
Outdoor sex is more about novelty than having the best sex ever, but you might as well up your pleasure quotient with a few easy tricks. Namely, bring lubrication. Getting it on outside is challenging enough without trying to navigate foreplay, so let lube works its magic instead (scentless—no need to attract bugs). Likewise, being one with nature is no excuse not to protect yourself. Bring condoms or your choice of contraceptive, and please take them with you when you're finished. Nothing ruins a good time like happening upon someone's used Trojan.

My Perspective:
Anywhere, anytime, just remember enjoy.
Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man Signing Off.

Size of His Wallet = Size of her Orgasm

Ok, I seriously could not resist this topic, I am so amazed that everyday you hear and see something new…and sometimes it is so funny or not. Well, anyhow, I wanted to share this topic and see what you think. You know that old saying that, “Size Does Matters”, when it comes to intimacy, well, the “Size Does Matter” has gone to a whole new level and well…direction.

This is how it goes, size matters but in regards to the size of the man’s wallet, ok…it seems that the bigger the man’s wallet the better and bigger the women’s orgasms…interesting huh. Now, we all know that money and economy are the biggest culprits when it comes to dissolved marriages. Couples fight about money. Straight and simple. The thing is that when that happens women stress, not that the man doesn’t right, well it seems that women stress and when this happens they really don’t want to have any intimacy and if they do, mostly not by choice, they either fake an orgasms, 90% of the women do this or they simply do not enjoy it. Now, if a man can provide, a house, car, spending money (spending money seems to be the key here) and the woman not work then the women will have better and bigger orgasms…huh.

Now here is an interesting part, every woman that commented on the subject…totally agreed…ok. They said, of course if I did not have to work, but also had money to spend as I please, of course I would rock my hubbies world. Now, several men…actually most of the men with the exception of one…and I’ll get to him; stated that they are the sole providers and provided plenty of spending money for the wives candi4es; the thing is that when the man got home, if they did not have a maid, the house would be a mess, there was no food and the women either has a headache or had a busy day with the kids, if kids were involved. The women that had maids always had a great excuse as why they did not feel like having sex. Now, the one man that stated this was true, was a business owner…he said that it was totally true, he had been married before for 10 years, got divorced and afterwards made himself a name with his own business, well he met a younger women, about 20 years younger…he met her through his business, well, they dated briefly, married, she doesn’t work, she drives a nice car and has spending money. Now they do not have kids, he does from his first marriage, so when he gets home she has the house clean, food ready and of course the evenings are, what was that word he used?, “Incredible”. Now sure if it is the age difference, the money or the fact that they do not have kids.

The thing is, that I personally know of a guy, who works his own business, his wife does not work, they have three kids and well, they are as happy as can be. She maintains the house clean, takes care of the kids, drives a nice car, has money to spend and still has dinner ready for him, and actually waits to eat with him…he gets home a bit late. She puts the kids to bed while he showers or relaxes and then the evenings are well...he didn’t say…but he gets it 3-4 times a week…so that seems to work. I guess it just a matter of individuality, each person is different…of course right…the thing is finding that right person that fits in your or each other’s life style…some women prefer to work, have careers, other’s are great home makers…and yet others well they fall through the cracks…I don’t know.

I forgot to mention that all the men except one, totally said they were not that big in the men’s department, the one that said he did was the one with the younger wife, she actually confirmed…so maybe that was another plus on his side. So was it the size of the wallet and manly hood…or was it just the size of the wallet that left these men high and dry. You tell me, ladies is it the size of the wallet that counts?

My Perspective:
I think that it all depends on the couple, whom you are with. You see each of us is different, you might have two people that love to work and have careers, you might have a woman high in the corporate ladder that would rather have her husband stay at home, or of course the traditional marriage of the man being the provider and the women staying at home. The thing is, you need determine what you want out of life, do you, as a woman, want to be a home maker, take care of the home, kids and husband. Do you as a woman want to have a career and share in the duties of the family…I mean you as a woman need to find what makes you happy, so other’s are happy. First comes you, then everyone else, now that’s not being selfish, it’s the plain truth. I think it is very hard to find that exact person you can spend the rest of your life with; we all have corky things about us. So, simply finding Mr. or Mrs. Right isn’t as easy as 1-2-3. People need to determine what they really want out of life and then see if they find someone with the same plan…even if it takes a while, I think if you take your time and look and really get to know the person…it would save a lot of marriages. I know it’s hard to find the right person and when you do, they aren’t the person you fell in love with, maybe they lied, or possibly they change their plan, but all we can do is do not rush into a marriage, do not rush into having kids, take the time to know each other and what you want out of life, then everything else will fall nicely into place…I know it sounds to good to be true, but that is my perspective.

Till next time, Listen to soft sensual music, thanks for reading Latino Man signing off.

Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women - at an Older Age?

I had just left work and was listening to the radio, there is a show I listen to very day that most of the time has some very good and interesting topics, after which they take in callers and let them give their opinion on the topic, which sometimes leads to some very funny comments from their callers.

So the show is hosted by a Latino man and a Latina woman and in today’s show the man brought up an article he found on the internet that talked about how men that are older, and he did mention 40…enjoyed sex more than women of the same age. He said that, men as they get older enjoy sex more and of course look for more sex than women of the same age. Now, to me that’s weird because it’s always the male or man that is looking to get into some panties. He says that the article stated that women as they get older, and of course it mentions kids, marriage and work as the variable to these findings…that these women do not enjoy sex any more and really prefer to avoid the whole sexual thing if they can.

So, I did a search on the net as follows, I typed in Who enjoys more sex men or women at an Older age?, and low and behold almost every header on websites or articles found had the heading as Men enjoying sex more than women as they get older. I mean Time magazine had an article, Fox news from San Diego and Chicago, Yahoo news and a lot more articles from medical researches that had been done…I was really amazed…but then it hit me…it is true…well…at least in my marriage...if we can call it that…the first few month of marriage was amazing…surprising, fun, adventures…and the past 5-6 years it has been more of a job, task…I don’t know…actually the last time I did anything was sometime in May of 2008…and before that it had been wow…2003…maybe…hmmm…well you get the picture. Anyhow…its been a horrible rollercoaster in my relationship…that well that’s a whole other story…but back to the decline in sexual frequency…yah in any relationship…whether you are married or just dating for maybe 3-5 years…it happens…it goes down the tubes or drain or wherever it goes…but it goes.

But why…ok…so in some of these articles it talks about the soccer, PTA, cooking, working, costume making…mother and how well…she is simply to tired…but wait…most of those article also mentioned that a huge percentage…and I really can’t remember the exact percent, but it was somewhere in the upper 60’s…that women actually aren’t tired, but rather they are not happy with their own bodies…they don’t feel comfortable and when it comes to taking of the clothes…if and when they do they prefer the darkness and most of the time they want it over quickly…but the whole not liking myself is the real culprit here…well…that’s according to many articles. Go ahead and do a search you’ll be amazed at what you fine.

The thing is most men…really…seriously don’t look at what you look like not that they don’t think your beautiful…but…its more of what you DO…oh yah…if you get a little wild…do things that will totally catch them of guard…believe me…you’ll get back twice over. Men like the whole, blow job, doggy-style, rid’em high cow girl thing…if he walks in the room and your fresh out of the shower in a robe…knelt down…an you stop him and just pull out his man-hood and start giving him a blow-job…oh yah…not only will you drive him insane, but I believe you’ll really find it hot…watching him get all hot and bothered…it’s a big turn on for both of you.

So, anyhow, sorry got of the topic there, Oh wait…I read one article…this was very interesting and it came from a person placing a comment on the article…so like I said sometimes callers, reader will say some amazing things anyhow…ok…so she writes in the comments section of this article. I have been married for 18 years…she realized that she had so many things to do in her life that sex had become a distant thing that was rarely ever done…I mean she said they might have had sex once every 2-3 months…yah…wow…ok. So she realized this and she saw that their lives became a routine, monotone…plain…simply boring life…they loved their kids, their job and well that was pretty much it. So here is the interesting thing she wrote, her husband was turning 40…so she decided to give him an unusual gift for his 40th. She was going to give him the gift of sex, everyday for one year. So she told him about it, and to her surprise he declined…she was taken back by his rejection. The thing is he thought it was just not a realistic thing for a couple of parents…she didn’t give up and finally convenience him that she wasn’t joking and that she would make the effort to make sure they had sex every day for one year…that’s 365 days…ok. So, she continues to write, they did have sex everyday for one year…during which time they earned a lot from one another and there whole sexual intimacy. Their sex lives became exactly what each wanted…they were fulfilled completely and now they have sex 3-4 times a week. So, there you have it…wow…ok I am not saying that everyone could follow her lead, but it was definitely interesting what she had done.

Anyhow, please read the article below, I found it interesting:
Marital Sex - The Decline of Sexual Frequency over Time.

The frequency with which couples engage in sex is affected both by the partners' ages and by the duration of their relationship. In general, older couples have sex less frequently than younger couples. For example, sociologist Vaughn Call and colleagues (1995) surveyed over six thousand married people living in the United States and reported that sexual activity was highest among the youngest respondents (those ranging in age from nineteen to twenty-nine, who had sex approximately ten to twelve times per month), became progressively lower in older age groups (e.g., four to seven times a month among forty- and fifty-year olds), and reached its nadir among respondents in their seventies (who engaged in intercourse with their spouses less than twice a month). The majority of studies also find that the longer couples have been married, the less often they have sex (Rao and DeMaris 1995; Samson et al. 1991). This decline may be greatest during the first year or the first few years of the relationship. For example, William James (1981) analyzed diaries kept by newlywed couples over the course of their first year of marriage. Couples reported having sex on seventeen or more occasions during their first month of married life; however, by the end of the year, their rate of intercourse had declined to approximately eight times a month. Because these two age-related factors are linked—as a relationship ages, so do the partners—it is difficult to know for certain whether it is chronological age that causes the decline in sexual frequency or habituation from being with the same sex partner year after year. Both factors probably play a role in producing lowered levels of sexual activity. For example, as men and women age, changes in their physical abilities, increased incidence of illness, and negative attitudes about sex in the elderly may contribute to a less active sex life. At the same time, the loss of novelty that results from having sexual intercourse with the same individual may reduce levels of activity.

Various events that occur during the course of a couple's relationship also are associated with changes in sexual frequency, including factors related to birth control and pregnancy (e.g., lack of interest during pregnancy), to children and child care (e.g., lack of privacy, fatigue), and to work (e.g., heavy work schedules, fatigue) (Greenblat 1983). All of these factors may play a role in limiting a couple's desire and opportunity for sex. Of course, some couples return to previous levels of sexual activity once they adjust to their circumstances or after the situation resolves itself. Other couples, however, become comfortable with the lowered levels of intercourse; they may cease to have sex altogether and/or they increasingly may engage in nonsexual forms of affection and contact.

Credits: Marital Sex - The Decline Of Sexual Frequency Over Time At http://family.jrank.org


My Perspective:
I know we all have different lives and live through different situations and not everyone fits nicely into a sex-love mold, but I think for those that are just starting out in their relationship, please don’t loose that loving feeling, find the time…there is always time…get plenty of rest…and put in the effort…I know we are all going to difficult times…but we need to stick together and making love is the best prescription anyone can take. If you are beyond repair...then move on…and be kind to yourself and enjoy life…kids…friends…family…but most importantly…make love.

Thanks again for reading…Latino Man signing off…till next time.

To Wear or Not to Wear Lingerie

So, today something popped into my mind…crazy I know. I guess I really shouldn’t be thinking of that in the middle of work during the afternoon, but for some crazy reason it did. So I wanted to write it down while it was hot on my mind…sort of speaking…lol.

So, I have being in conversations, over heard conversations, and it’s been a topic of conversations on some of my dates…not a usual first date topic, but you know eventually will get to it. But I even brought this up with a few friends, both male and females and it was interesting to hear the responses. Ok, so…the topic is what do you prefer, lingerie or not. Now, obviously there isn’t one guy out there that doesn’t like intimate and revealing lingerie. But when it comes down to it…most guys actually find it sexier for women to wear simple, casual things than lingerie. So out of 15 men I asked all but three said they like the following on a women…it necessarily doesn’t have to be just before the main event…lol…but it will set the mood for them.

A Tank-top with no bra and a pair of panties, and actually thongs wasn’t the big request, but some lacey undies and even a few said the small boy shorts, but a tank-top with no bra will get 12 of the 15 men I spoke to juices running. So need to purchase expensive lingerie, not to say they don’t mind but that’s what they like. So, my questions was Lingerie or not, and as I found out men prefer, not that they mind lingerie, but prefer a simple tank-top and undies…go figure.

Now I asked several women, friends I know and a few I didn’t….yah I dared…but come to realize that many of them find it time consuming and sometimes a pain to put on the lingerie. It could take a few hours to get prepare and for what…maybe 10-15 minutes at the most of wearing it…before their mate tears it off. Some said that their loved ones actually find them sexy coming out of the shower in a robe, wearing underneath simply undies…the whole ambiance gets their lovers going. So, I ask everyone out there, what do you prefer, man or women, do prefer Lingerie or simpler things?

I do have to say one thing…this was a big pet peeve from the guys I talked to…guys that have been in long relationships…hate it…really…should have seeing there faces…when women try and get intimate while wearing big giant sweats and a overly huge t-shirt…yah it blows the mood and for some reason they feel it really isn’t worth it…so they don’t put their all into it…weird…I know but they sort of slack of during the you know what and afterwards the women complain and the gus take it in one ear and out the other. That’s stinks…really…but I was surprised on that response from the guys. So, my suggestion ladies, if you want your man to perform (a little longer)…I would suggest taking off those huge sweatpants and overly large t-shirt before you seducing your man…lol…then maybe you’ll be in for a surprise….I am only saying. I believe it goes for men as well…so guys don’t expect a night of pasion if you are not looking all that sexy either…so guys step it up, clean up and enjoy.

My Perspective:
A s for me, I prefer the simpler things…not saying I wouldn’t enjoy a baby-doll, but if I see a women walking around in a Tank-top with undies…that really drives me bananas…the second thing that would do it…would be the out of the shower, robe and undies underneath only scene…yah…that would work. And if you think about it, It is true…about 10-15 minutes the clothing stays on…so …if we are on budgets…as most of us are…I think…we can go simpler and you’ll still set the mood. I hope to hear comments on this topic, so until next time, thanks for reading.

Marriage and Intimacy

Today blog is probably going to sound like a complaint…but please don’t take it the wrong way, because seriously I have to just put this down on paper…sort of speaking. This whole topic on marriage, relationships and yah sex…it's bananas…it’s incredible…and yet the same thing happens on and on and on…couple after couple, marriage after marriage…ok….sorry.


Ok, here it is…so, the other night a few days before this post…I was sitting in the family room with my wife (significant other)…and I say it that way because it is that way…anyways. So I was flipping through the channels…now under stand this is a rarity for us…actually sitting down in the same room….well I was flipping through the channels and sure enough on HBO there was a series on called “Real Sex”. I have seen a few episodes…nothing big…but that episode talked about women and how they can get back that loving feeling, if you know what I mean. These women had issues with sex in there relationships meaning they no longer wanted to have…and when they did it was more to them an obligation than something they enjoyed.

So, this therapist was showing/illustrating techniques on what a women could do to get back that mood while have intercourse, well a few of the women on the show really did not look like they were enjoying themselves at all. There were toys, lubricant, etc. but when the therapist was demonstrating on a volunteer…the women looked like well…her face looked like well…what’s the big deal…no enjoyment. Well about 2 minutes had gone by when all of sounded I heard echo through the room…”Gross, that’s sick”…so of course at that cue I changed the channel. Ok, your probably saying to yourself…yah typical man…why should I blame the women for not wanting to see that…good for her…yada…yada…yada. Why should a woman have to see such disturbing things…well it really wasn’t that bad, but lets just say for the sake of things it was.

Now, here is my beef…why is it that when a women gets older, has children they all of a sudden loose interest…now wait…of course they are married. Ok…Ok…don’t get all bent out of shape…your probably yelling at me saying it could be a number of things, self esteem, menopause, etc…etc…etc. But this is what eats me…when we first met…there wasn’t a time that she wouldn’t see me and would undress me and we would go at it…and then of course she talked about her exes and the things they did, where they did it, how they did it…hey I have an open mind…I like to know what a women likes… anyhow…and these things turned her on before…but today it grosses her out.

Now, wait…before I got married…I have met women that were older…let's just say over 40…and they had kids, been through a divorce and let me tell you…these women new and enjoyed sex very much and did things that well…probably didn’t do with their husbands’ or maybe they did (if they did…those guys are idiots) So there is my thing…do women loose interest in their husband…is it possible that women no longer finds their husband attractive. Because I have to say…that most men…if given the chance… would take sex anytime they could…you know that…lets not say that’s not true guys…if a guy has a women in front her in lingerie, big shirt or whatever and she starts the seduction…come on guys…you know before you know it…your down to your socks. Now, ok I am not putting the blame on women alone…it does happen to men to of course…- but what makes this change -.

Obviously you married the person because you thought they were sexy or gorgeous, handsome, intelligent, funny and when they came over to visit…your stomach would get all filled up with butterflies…so what happens after getting married or being in a relationship so long. My biggest question is…if anyone gets married…they should look back at the time before they got married and remember those incredible moments they had…the crazy things they did, the enjoyment of the first time…I mean yah your life changes when you get married, yah your life changes when you have kids, but your life doesn’t really change…it grows into something better…I think couples should still enjoy themselves…make time for themselves…behind close doors let the inhibitions go…just as you did when you first met. Marriage and kids should not make you life worse…getting married and having kids is just icing on that cake…that cake that you both kneaded, molded and baked during your dating years. it's not always about they kids…yah they are your life, you have a responsibility to your kids, but if you don’t take care of your marriage or relationship…you won’t be able to take care of your family or your kids and then what.

My Perspective:
You know I am probably starting to sound like a broken record, but it is all about the communication…people need to talk. But now that I am writing this again…I come to realize that the majority of the population doesn’t know how to communicate…they can’t express their feelings, their thoughts and well…that just makes things so much more difficult. All I have to say to this is…I wish I knew what makes a man or women loose interest in sex/intimacy with their significant other…and if you look closely at the statistics…this normally only happens during a marriage or a long term relationship. Maybe…it is time to move forward…move on…I am so sure that there is someone out there that will connect with you…and things will be ok.

It's time to tie up loose ends, prepare for the inevitable and move on…because your happiness is first and foremost, because if you are not happy…then you can’t make your love one happy or your children and that only continues the cycle…move out, move on…you’ll see that your happiness…even away from your kids, if you have them, will make the difference in their lives and yours.


Thanks for listening, hope to see some comments…till next time...be happy.

How Did Your Mate Make you Cheat?

Now, I know I have touch on this topic a few other times, but this is on the other side of the spectrum. You know we always hear about the cheating husband, boyfriend, wife, or girlfriend…and how horrible it was to find out. Now, my question is:

“If you cheated, why did you cheat? What made you cheat?”

Now, I have heard a few responses and here is one that I found to be very common…now the percent of men to woman that response in this way is different…more men than women responded this way. Ok, so…the reason they cheated was because their significant other was not satisfying them, either by not performing at all or if performing then there was no passion.

Let me elaborate; one man said that his partner was giving it to him maybe once a month and even when it came down to it…she just did it…no fore-play, no oral, nothing…just that she got on top and that was it. Now, one woman explains that she has had a rough day, with the kids, cleaning, cooking and running errands. Then her husband comes home and relaxes, which she doesn’t mind, and as soon as the kids are in bed…he wants to get between sheets…all she wants is a little time to her self. Now, of course she gives in and when it comes down to it…he wants to get all freaky and do things she just doesn’t want to do or is to tired to do and it ends up being a wham-bam thank you mam night. Ok, I also got a response from a woman that says her husband doesn’t want to do it as much as he use to and well…upfront she is a horn-dog and well…she started looking else where. The scenarios are many, but the most common thing I noticed between all these cases is…they just don’t get satisfied with their partner…whether it is was a quickie or nothing or the missing play time…they just don’t get satisfied and the look else where for that satisfaction. Te thing that gets to me is when you first meet someone…its on…bedroom, coffee table, this way, that way…with lingerie, in the shower…well you get the point…you can’t keep your hands off of each other…where does it go. Ok…now some people tell me it’s hard when you have children…you never know when they might burst in on you…well…lock the door…leave them at your mother’s house…find a way to have a night of passion with your significant other…you will both feel better…your relationship will improve…find the time.

Ok, now here is the funny thing…in one of the responses…the woman caught her husband having an affair with another woman, the thing is the wife was having an affair with the other woman’s husband…somehow they had swapped…without knowing…of course later it all came to light. Now what’s even funnier that each complained about each others lack of their partner doing fore-play, oral or trying new things, yet they were doing it with each others husband or wife…so then I have to say that all this cheating is probably caused by one thing…the lack of being attracted to your partner…hmm…could that be it.

“So, If you cheated, why did you cheat? What made you cheat?”

My Perspective:
This could be a touchy perspective but I’ll put it out there and see what you think…remember this is my perspective and it could mean nothing…without all the variables of the relationship. Ok, so…”Don’t Cheat”…that’s my perspective…if you are thinking about it…talk to your partner…ask them what happen to the bedroom romance…you might be surprised. If it was the lack of you not performing or doing the things they want…then change….listen…if you want some loving…then you better satisfy them and in return it will satisfy you…or at least you’ll be getting some. Now, please this goes to both male and females…I totally understand about having an exhausting day and you probably are extremely tired…but marriage/relationship do take some work, which means tired or not…dress up, shower, keep fit for your partner. I mean don’t come home after a hard days work and not shower and expect some loving…and please don’t come out in a XXXXL T-shirt and baggy sweats and expect your partner to make love to you as he did when you first met. Not saying to go out and buy hundreds of dollars of lingerie…but you know something simple for the ladies could be…a shower, then come out a bit wet…wearing a tank-top (white) and some black or red panties (preferably a thong)…that will drive any sensible man crazy. No need for costly lingerie.

Guys…come one…take a shower, come out in some satin briefs or PJs, a tank top or open shirt. Now the fit thing…that’s an optional thing…I think…you know it’s always nice to stay fit, but if you and your partner have some love-handles…I am sure you can get past that and straight to the…well…you know. So…don’t cheat…you’ll get caught eventually…it always happens…always…whether a week, month, year…you’ll get caught and more than likely the person you are cheating with will probably get tired.
Talk to your partner…come to a compromise…she might like it this way…you might like it that way…compromise…and if toys are needed..come on guys…suck it up…take my word for it…if she wants a toy…let her have it…watch her use it…believe me she will get satisfied and there is anything more exotic than seeing a women and a toy…hey…you’ll get your chance and by then she would have been to the moon and back…so…you know.
Shower – Talk – Take care of each other.

Till next time, thanks for reading and I look forward to your responses,