Now, I know I have touch on this topic a few other times, but this is on the other side of the spectrum. You know we always hear about the cheating husband, boyfriend, wife, or girlfriend…and how horrible it was to find out. Now, my question is:
“If you cheated, why did you cheat? What made you cheat?”
Now, I have heard a few responses and here is one that I found to be very common…now the percent of men to woman that response in this way is different…more men than women responded this way. Ok, so…the reason they cheated was because their significant other was not satisfying them, either by not performing at all or if performing then there was no passion.
Let me elaborate; one man said that his partner was giving it to him maybe once a month and even when it came down to it…she just did it…no fore-play, no oral, nothing…just that she got on top and that was it. Now, one woman explains that she has had a rough day, with the kids, cleaning, cooking and running errands. Then her husband comes home and relaxes, which she doesn’t mind, and as soon as the kids are in bed…he wants to get between sheets…all she wants is a little time to her self. Now, of course she gives in and when it comes down to it…he wants to get all freaky and do things she just doesn’t want to do or is to tired to do and it ends up being a wham-bam thank you mam night. Ok, I also got a response from a woman that says her husband doesn’t want to do it as much as he use to and well…upfront she is a horn-dog and well…she started looking else where. The scenarios are many, but the most common thing I noticed between all these cases is…they just don’t get satisfied with their partner…whether it is was a quickie or nothing or the missing play time…they just don’t get satisfied and the look else where for that satisfaction. Te thing that gets to me is when you first meet someone…its on…bedroom, coffee table, this way, that way…with lingerie, in the shower…well you get the point…you can’t keep your hands off of each other…where does it go. Ok…now some people tell me it’s hard when you have children…you never know when they might burst in on you…well…lock the door…leave them at your mother’s house…find a way to have a night of passion with your significant other…you will both feel better…your relationship will improve…find the time.
Ok, now here is the funny thing…in one of the responses…the woman caught her husband having an affair with another woman, the thing is the wife was having an affair with the other woman’s husband…somehow they had swapped…without knowing…of course later it all came to light. Now what’s even funnier that each complained about each others lack of their partner doing fore-play, oral or trying new things, yet they were doing it with each others husband or wife…so then I have to say that all this cheating is probably caused by one thing…the lack of being attracted to your partner…hmm…could that be it.
“So, If you cheated, why did you cheat? What made you cheat?”
My Perspective:
This could be a touchy perspective but I’ll put it out there and see what you think…remember this is my perspective and it could mean nothing…without all the variables of the relationship. Ok, so…”Don’t Cheat”…that’s my perspective…if you are thinking about it…talk to your partner…ask them what happen to the bedroom romance…you might be surprised. If it was the lack of you not performing or doing the things they want…then change….listen…if you want some loving…then you better satisfy them and in return it will satisfy you…or at least you’ll be getting some. Now, please this goes to both male and females…I totally understand about having an exhausting day and you probably are extremely tired…but marriage/relationship do take some work, which means tired or not…dress up, shower, keep fit for your partner. I mean don’t come home after a hard days work and not shower and expect some loving…and please don’t come out in a XXXXL T-shirt and baggy sweats and expect your partner to make love to you as he did when you first met. Not saying to go out and buy hundreds of dollars of lingerie…but you know something simple for the ladies could be…a shower, then come out a bit wet…wearing a tank-top (white) and some black or red panties (preferably a thong)…that will drive any sensible man crazy. No need for costly lingerie.
Guys…come one…take a shower, come out in some satin briefs or PJs, a tank top or open shirt. Now the fit thing…that’s an optional thing…I think…you know it’s always nice to stay fit, but if you and your partner have some love-handles…I am sure you can get past that and straight to the…well…you know. So…don’t cheat…you’ll get caught eventually…it always happens…always…whether a week, month, year…you’ll get caught and more than likely the person you are cheating with will probably get tired.
Talk to your partner…come to a compromise…she might like it this way…you might like it that way…compromise…and if toys are needed..come on guys…suck it up…take my word for it…if she wants a toy…let her have it…watch her use it…believe me she will get satisfied and there is anything more exotic than seeing a women and a toy…hey…you’ll get your chance and by then she would have been to the moon and back…so…you know.
Shower – Talk – Take care of each other.
Till next time, thanks for reading and I look forward to your responses,
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