I had just left work and was listening to the radio, there is a show I listen to very day that most of the time has some very good and interesting topics, after which they take in callers and let them give their opinion on the topic, which sometimes leads to some very funny comments from their callers.
So the show is hosted by a Latino man and a Latina woman and in today’s show the man brought up an article he found on the internet that talked about how men that are older, and he did mention 40…enjoyed sex more than women of the same age. He said that, men as they get older enjoy sex more and of course look for more sex than women of the same age. Now, to me that’s weird because it’s always the male or man that is looking to get into some panties. He says that the article stated that women as they get older, and of course it mentions kids, marriage and work as the variable to these findings…that these women do not enjoy sex any more and really prefer to avoid the whole sexual thing if they can.
So, I did a search on the net as follows, I typed in Who enjoys more sex men or women at an Older age?, and low and behold almost every header on websites or articles found had the heading as Men enjoying sex more than women as they get older. I mean Time magazine had an article, Fox news from San Diego and Chicago, Yahoo news and a lot more articles from medical researches that had been done…I was really amazed…but then it hit me…it is true…well…at least in my marriage...if we can call it that…the first few month of marriage was amazing…surprising, fun, adventures…and the past 5-6 years it has been more of a job, task…I don’t know…actually the last time I did anything was sometime in May of 2008…and before that it had been wow…2003…maybe…hmmm…well you get the picture. Anyhow…its been a horrible rollercoaster in my relationship…that well that’s a whole other story…but back to the decline in sexual frequency…yah in any relationship…whether you are married or just dating for maybe 3-5 years…it happens…it goes down the tubes or drain or wherever it goes…but it goes.
But why…ok…so in some of these articles it talks about the soccer, PTA, cooking, working, costume making…mother and how well…she is simply to tired…but wait…most of those article also mentioned that a huge percentage…and I really can’t remember the exact percent, but it was somewhere in the upper 60’s…that women actually aren’t tired, but rather they are not happy with their own bodies…they don’t feel comfortable and when it comes to taking of the clothes…if and when they do they prefer the darkness and most of the time they want it over quickly…but the whole not liking myself is the real culprit here…well…that’s according to many articles. Go ahead and do a search you’ll be amazed at what you fine.
The thing is most men…really…seriously don’t look at what you look like not that they don’t think your beautiful…but…its more of what you DO…oh yah…if you get a little wild…do things that will totally catch them of guard…believe me…you’ll get back twice over. Men like the whole, blow job, doggy-style, rid’em high cow girl thing…if he walks in the room and your fresh out of the shower in a robe…knelt down…an you stop him and just pull out his man-hood and start giving him a blow-job…oh yah…not only will you drive him insane, but I believe you’ll really find it hot…watching him get all hot and bothered…it’s a big turn on for both of you.
So, anyhow, sorry got of the topic there, Oh wait…I read one article…this was very interesting and it came from a person placing a comment on the article…so like I said sometimes callers, reader will say some amazing things anyhow…ok…so she writes in the comments section of this article. I have been married for 18 years…she realized that she had so many things to do in her life that sex had become a distant thing that was rarely ever done…I mean she said they might have had sex once every 2-3 months…yah…wow…ok. So she realized this and she saw that their lives became a routine, monotone…plain…simply boring life…they loved their kids, their job and well that was pretty much it. So here is the interesting thing she wrote, her husband was turning 40…so she decided to give him an unusual gift for his 40th. She was going to give him the gift of sex, everyday for one year. So she told him about it, and to her surprise he declined…she was taken back by his rejection. The thing is he thought it was just not a realistic thing for a couple of parents…she didn’t give up and finally convenience him that she wasn’t joking and that she would make the effort to make sure they had sex every day for one year…that’s 365 days…ok. So, she continues to write, they did have sex everyday for one year…during which time they earned a lot from one another and there whole sexual intimacy. Their sex lives became exactly what each wanted…they were fulfilled completely and now they have sex 3-4 times a week. So, there you have it…wow…ok I am not saying that everyone could follow her lead, but it was definitely interesting what she had done.
Anyhow, please read the article below, I found it interesting:
Marital Sex - The Decline of Sexual Frequency over Time.
The frequency with which couples engage in sex is affected both by the partners' ages and by the duration of their relationship. In general, older couples have sex less frequently than younger couples. For example, sociologist Vaughn Call and colleagues (1995) surveyed over six thousand married people living in the United States and reported that sexual activity was highest among the youngest respondents (those ranging in age from nineteen to twenty-nine, who had sex approximately ten to twelve times per month), became progressively lower in older age groups (e.g., four to seven times a month among forty- and fifty-year olds), and reached its nadir among respondents in their seventies (who engaged in intercourse with their spouses less than twice a month). The majority of studies also find that the longer couples have been married, the less often they have sex (Rao and DeMaris 1995; Samson et al. 1991). This decline may be greatest during the first year or the first few years of the relationship. For example, William James (1981) analyzed diaries kept by newlywed couples over the course of their first year of marriage. Couples reported having sex on seventeen or more occasions during their first month of married life; however, by the end of the year, their rate of intercourse had declined to approximately eight times a month. Because these two age-related factors are linked—as a relationship ages, so do the partners—it is difficult to know for certain whether it is chronological age that causes the decline in sexual frequency or habituation from being with the same sex partner year after year. Both factors probably play a role in producing lowered levels of sexual activity. For example, as men and women age, changes in their physical abilities, increased incidence of illness, and negative attitudes about sex in the elderly may contribute to a less active sex life. At the same time, the loss of novelty that results from having sexual intercourse with the same individual may reduce levels of activity.
Various events that occur during the course of a couple's relationship also are associated with changes in sexual frequency, including factors related to birth control and pregnancy (e.g., lack of interest during pregnancy), to children and child care (e.g., lack of privacy, fatigue), and to work (e.g., heavy work schedules, fatigue) (Greenblat 1983). All of these factors may play a role in limiting a couple's desire and opportunity for sex. Of course, some couples return to previous levels of sexual activity once they adjust to their circumstances or after the situation resolves itself. Other couples, however, become comfortable with the lowered levels of intercourse; they may cease to have sex altogether and/or they increasingly may engage in nonsexual forms of affection and contact.
Credits: Marital Sex - The Decline Of Sexual Frequency Over Time At http://family.jrank.org
My Perspective:
I know we all have different lives and live through different situations and not everyone fits nicely into a sex-love mold, but I think for those that are just starting out in their relationship, please don’t loose that loving feeling, find the time…there is always time…get plenty of rest…and put in the effort…I know we are all going to difficult times…but we need to stick together and making love is the best prescription anyone can take. If you are beyond repair...then move on…and be kind to yourself and enjoy life…kids…friends…family…but most importantly…make love.
Thanks again for reading…Latino Man signing off…till next time.
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