Who is Nicer…a Step Mom or a Step Dad?

"…Ma…Pa…I’m hungry…I’m bored…are we almost there yet”

Now, as parent we sometimes forget how much work it really is to raise kids…I mean maybe not forget, but ever so often we get into those moments where we just want to pull out our hair. But, of course those great moments always out-weigh the bad ones or do they.

Now, as parents we build tolerances and we adjust to our kids every whim and cry, but is it because we have that connection with our child, I mean, what about a step father or step mother…do they have that same tolerance with kids that are from other marriages?

Actually that’s my topic for today, “who is nicer a step mom or step dad”. I did some research through out our wonderful internet and I was totally amazed at what I read, found regarding this topic. I mean, go ahead and do some research…I am sure you’ll be surprised at what you find. Now, during my search, I found that about 75% of the articles, discussions, blogs, etc. leaned towards the Step father being nicer. Yah…sort of weird I guess, well at least for me it is, because I always heard or understood of the ‘Motherly’ intuition or the ‘Mother – Child” bond being stronger than anything we know, so…when it comes to a step mother, why would it be different?

Now, I would not be able to put in my experience personally, I only grew up with my mother…but I do recall friends and some of the things they talked about, when there was ever a step mother or father involved. Now, most of the time I heard more about the step father, since kids usually end up with their mom and the mom most of the time re-married…and let me tell you…most of the steps fathers, that I heard about, were pretty darn mean. So, when I did my research I was surprised to find what I did.

I do recall one friend, actually I couldn’t forget…you see a close friend of mine in high school, lost his mom in a car accident, the father re-married and actually remarried to a very young wife. Let me tell you, she was HOT…ok…hey even my friend thought so…yah it was his mom…or step mom, but still she was hot…but besides that she was totally cool…seriously. Any time anything happen at home that my friend would cause, she would take the blame, if my friend stayed out late she would sooth my friends father and always said to him, :Come on honey, were you a teenage once”. Yah she was totally cool, so once again I was surprised to read so much about a step mom being the meaner of the two.

My Perspective:
I think that a motherly instinct is always on, whether it’s her child or not. Now, ok, we do here stories about mom’s gone bananas…but of course life always has its bad apples. Anyhow, I think a mom or step mom would for the most part always look after the welfare of a child, it’s part of being a women. So, if anyone of you has a story to share, please do…I would like to hear from you.

Thanks for reading, till next time, Latino Man signing off.