Nothing to Talk About – Nothing in Common

This is something I probably already touched on, on one of my last posts, but I wanted to talk or share a bit more about this issue. This is a common issue, and it not only happens in marriages, but in normal dating couples as well. For some crazy reason after a couple has been together for a while, they run out of things to talk about. There conversations consist of maybe only the children if there are children involved or just arguing about the economy. You know, couples forget those great moments when you talked on the phone for hours, or just sat out in front of the house talking about everything; future, dreams, concerns aspiration…that all goes away after you have been together for a while…maybe those topics get old…or maybe they just don’t matter.

Why is it that couples lose interest in talking to one another? Why can they just sit down or pull up a chair out in the backyard and talk…maybe a glass of wine or a cold beer and talk…but you know…I bet you some of you tried and it just didn’t work out…I could see it. So can some one tell me why…after all that courtship, laughing, dreaming of that person, wearing little lingerie, playing games…why does that go away. And you know don’t tell me it has to do with you been tired or the kids could walk in anytime or you had a hard day at work…because you know…we are all grown ups here and let me tell you, if you were stranded on a desert island you’d do everything you could to stay alive…so come on…why does that go away? Why do couples loose interest in talking to one another?
I don’t understand it…it boggles my mind… cannot comprehend…I am lost…ok…so…someone help.

My Perspective:
People make excuses…simple. And I think that if you really care, love someone…that interest will never go away. I think most of the couples out there jump into relationships without any idea of what they are doing, or expect or you know what…they jump in before they even really TALK to one another and clear the air of what they want…wait…ok…so some do, but then they LIE, flat out lie and more than likely only say what you would want to hear…never thinking that they really don’t follow that road or value…they simple just want to get into your pants…and never think about what it reall means. So before you get into a relationship…sit down and talk….really talk about what you expect and want out of the relationship…and please do not lie…you’ll only end up getting hurt or hurting someone….it could mean 5, 10 or more years of your life…don’t do it. TALK, communicate and be honest…that I believe would help.

Thanks for reading; I hope to see some comments…Latino Man Signing off.