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Same ‘O Same ‘O– Communication

This is an interesting topic and one that still baffles me is the thing about intimacy and communication. Yah we read and hear and people tells us always that “Communication” is an important factor in a relationship and most importantly in the intimacy of the relationship. The thing is that no one really does it or most people really only say it but never follow through.

Now, when you first meet someone people always try and please the other person, and pretty much only worry about there needs, wants and well everything, but they really never think about their own needs, which in fact are important in the relationship because if you are not feeling it, then it will show through and your better half will eventually notice. This will bring, angry, resentment, among other feelings that will or could eventually lead to a breakup. This all could have been resolved with some simply communication – right up front – when you first meet or better said when you first are intimate.

Now, the thing is that we all know that hardly ever happens, meaning that two people communicate about anything, so we end up seeing couples that have been together for years, even decades and they have the same issue…you can tell that neither individual is happy with the relationship but yet they stay together. Does that make us creatures of habit? I think many of us if not all of us, including myself, when we settle in and get comfortable we sort of stay there whether it is bad or good. I don’t know the thing is, maybe there are some individuals that can communicate what they need or want, but I think the majority of us don’t have real good listening skills…or we simply just don’t listen.

So why do we see articles on this and why does every one tell their friends and love ones that listening is important in any relationship and in all aspect of the relationship…yet they don’t follow their own advice. Now with all that said, if there are issues any part of your relationship, seriously, please talk to your partner. Whether it is about money, which we all know it is a very touchy subject and many times could lead to huge fights, but if you can learn to talk about it, maybe you both can come to an agreement. Now if it has to do with household chores, talk about it, if any one of you feels that you are doing more then talk. Another thing that I saw worked is trade chores, between man and women, such as cooking, cleaning, and such as mowing the lawn, pruning the trees, fixing the computer, etc. Sometimes seeing what the other person does will shed a light on the whole chore thing. But you know what the best piece of advice that I can give in regards to household chores or family life…is ask for HELP…simply ask your significant other to do something in particular, you will be amazed that if you ask nicely they will be glad to do it

The whole communication thingy in relationships seems to only work if the two people involved do it together, any other way does not work and will more than likely lead to problems.

But back to the intimacy thingy, which I find to be a very important part of any relationship, because intimacy not only is good sexually, but emotionally it has its affects…it brings people together, if you communicate. And if you think about it, intimacy is when everyone is most vulnerable and usually let go of their inhibitions. So if you want it to be a certain way or you like it a certain way…they tell them. You are just as important or better said you should be satisfied sexually as much as the other person, and believe if you are a women, guys want to make their women happy…and they – we – men - will listen, believe me…we will. So guys and gals, talk, tell each other what you like and it will be great.

Heck…I probably blogged about this same topic a million times, but everyday as I wake up and go to work, go to the gym go to the store or just go out…I see that people never really communicate about anything and nothing ever gets resolved, it saddens me…to see our society go “Texting”, emailing and never physically talking anymore.

My perspective:
Communication has been an essential part of any relationship, lovers, friends, family, and yet it is so hard for anyone of us to do, yet it can seriously fix a lot of personal problems or at least clear them up…so do it. The next time you are intimate with your significant other and there is something she or he is not doing right or maybe they are doing right, let them know. It will be great for you and them and everyone will be happy. Talk don’t yell, breath don’t hyper-ventilate, listen – really listen and say good morning, afternoon or evening instead of texting.

Thanks for reading till next time Latino Man signing off.