The other day I was reading Cosmopolitan, yah I was reading Cosmo. Any ways there was an article on women having children and how 1 out of 5 women are now deciding that having children is not as important in a marriage or to them as it was back maybe in 1990’s when it was 1 out of 10 women on the topic of children. Many women are deciding in pursuing their careers or establishing themselves financially first and maybe having children later in their lives, but what’s happening is that later in their lives they are comfortable and content with their lives. Child bearing is not at the top of the list anymore.
Another thing too is that besides not being at the top of the list, the few that decide to go ahead and have children are doing so at a later age than it’s normal to. With today’s medical advances, it is easier for women over 35 or even 40 to have children. But the amount of women doing so has reduced. Now, of course I am not a women, but have been married for a long time and have two children.
Getting there was tough, we had to go through a lot of infertility programs over a span of 5 years, before we finally gave up and bam we had our first child. It wasn’t until my son was 7 when we were surprised with our daughter, not something we were expecting especially after seven years. But we did think about maybe not having kids at one point and trying to get ahead financially and maybe get situated a bit better, then try again. The thing is during that time there was a hesitation in having kids, coming from my significant other, and as she got older she was a bit more nervous and concern health wise, so I guess I did experience some of the feeling or thoughts that many women are having now, specifically through my significant other, but my question is in our instance it was different, so why is it that many women are now having second thoughts on the whole thing about having kids?
Is it really that they wish to move ahead in their career or is it that they cannot find the right partner to move forward with it…yah there are millions of single moms out there doing just find, but it seems that more and more women don’t want to do it alone anymore, not because they can’t simply because they do not want to…they want to share in the upbringing and of course share in the responsibility. It seems now more and more men are getting more involved in raising their children, changing diapers, feeding, hospital visits, school functions, after school sports, etc. it’s not all the women anymore you can begin to see more and more men at these places. So I think that the career thing is not the only reason why there is a jump in women not having kids…1 out of 5…I think there are other variables involved.
My Perspective:
We can read all these articles, studies or whatever we see, but the thing is that you need to look into it further and not take everything you read as strong facts. I think that we as couples participate more, communicate more then we will see an increase of women getting back into the maternity thinking…it’s a strong feeling, child and mother…I just can’t believe that it’s been replaced with Career. Those are my thoughts, thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing off till next time.
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