What Should I Do?

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So, here is today’s post topic,

“What Should I do if My Relationship is Not Working?”

Now, this is an incredible topic and I am still amazed that SO many people stay in bad relationships. Ok, I understand that there may be different circumstances and that ok…yah I don’t know you attitude sets in, but please why would you seriously put yourself through such unhappiness…why. Ok, now maybe some situations are not as bad as others, case proven, and maybe there is an agreement between the couple and staying together is for the better of the situation, kids are involved or maybe financial. The thing is I think those need to step back and evaluate there situation and ask themselves is this really necessary…some will probably answer yes, but before you do, make sure that you are not being abused physically or mentally…please…that’s not worth anything.

Now people every where are in bad relationships, whether it is an abusive one or one where the love is no longer there. You know it is possible for people to fall out of love…really…that’s a real thing. So if you are in that situation, then before it gets any worse…move on. Some are in those relationships where children are involved and a possible separation could scar the children so there needs to be an understanding between the two of you on working out a plan that will eventually lead to a clean separation and the children are not affected…at least not as much as a all out war. But each couple that maybe going through hard times…they need to all step back and evaluate the relationship…either work it out or go your separate ways.
There are 6, 773,540,914 people in the world and 306,222,923 people in the US...there is someone out there that will love you for you and care about you and not want to hurt you emotionally or physically…it starts with you and like I always say…communication is the key ingredient.

I can’t lay out all the possible scenarios, because I will miss one or two or three, so my only suggestion is to think it through.

My Perspective:
Each couple or relationship is different…I…understand, but I honestly there is no need to go through life suffering. Step back and evaluate your relationship…talk…get help…if everything else fails…move on. Only example I can give is this…and I ain’t one to preach because I am guilty of not following my own advise sometimes…hey I don’t follow the advice of others for that matter, but…say you have been married 10+ years and you have 2 children…and you both just don’t have that passion, love might be there, but its not the same love. You both realize that your separation will definitely affect the children or maybe just one…the older one. You have tried talking, asked for counseling, sacrificed your own needs and wants, but your other half just won’t do their part…and it only seems to be getting worse…the children…the children. I guess it would be time to talk it out…and hopefully both come to an agreement of the best possible solution to go your separate ways, but see what can be done to lessen the affect to the children. You both love your kids dearly, but your happiness or lack of…will be seeing by your children. Come on…when your child asks why you don’t kiss daddy or mommy…you know they notice something different. Or why is mommy or daddy always mad…another indication of an unhappy relationship. No, don’t let your kids piece together what they think…catch it before it gets worse.

I appreciate you reading this post…I would like to see your comments…till next time, “love yourself first”.

Where Diets Go Wrong

When we discover that we are heavier than we want to be, we have a natural invlination to eat less food. We may skip lunch or eat only a tiny amount of our dinner in the hope that if we eat less our body will burn off some of its fat. But that is not necessarily true. Eating less actually makes it more difficult to lose weight.

Keep in mind that the human body took shape millions of years ago, and at that time there were diets. The only low-calorie event in people's lives was starvation. Those who could cope with a temporary lack of food were the ones who survived. Our bodies, therefore, have developed this built-in mechanism to help us survive in the face of low food intake.

When researchers compare overweight and thin people, they find that they ear roughly the same number of calories. What makes overweight people different is the amount of fat that they eat. Thin people tend to eat less fat and more complex carbohydrates.

Losing weight is not something one can do overnight. A carefully planned weight loss program requires common sense and certain guidelines. Unfortunately, there's a lot of misinformation floating around and lots of desperate people are easily duped and ripped off.

Every day one can open a magazine or newspaper and see advertisements touting some new product, pill or patch that will take excess weight off quickly. Everyone seems to be looking for that "magic" weight loss pill. Millions of Americans are trying to lose weight, spending billions of dollars every year on diet programs and products. Often they do lose some weight. But, if you check with the same people five years later, you will find that nearly all have regained whatever weight they lost.

A survey was done recently to try and determine if any commercial diet program could prove long-term success. Not a single program could do so. So rampant has the so-called diet industry become with new products and false claims that the FDA has now stepped in and started clamping down.

Being seriously overweight and particularly obesity can develop into a number of diseases and serious health problems, and it is now a known fact that when caloric intake is excessive, some of the excess frequently is saturated fat.

The myth is that people get heavy by eating too many calories. Calories are a consideration it's true, but overall they are not the cause of obesity in America today. Americans actually take in fewer calories each day than they did at the beginning of the century. If calories alone were the reason we become overweight, we should all be thin. But we are not. Collectively, we are heavier than ever. Partly, it is because we are more sedentary now. But equally, as important is the fact that the fat content of the American diet has changed dramatically.

People who diet without exercising often get fatter with time. Although your weight may initially drop while dieting, such weight loss consists mostly of water and muscle. When the weight returns, it comes back as fat. To avoid getting fatter over time, increase your metabolism by exercising regularly.

Select an exercise routine that you are comfortable with and remember that walking is one of the best and easiest exercises for strengthening your bones, controlling your weight and toning your muscles.

Once again thank you for visiting, till next time.

The Positive Weight Loss Approach

Once you have made up your mind to lose weight, you should make that commitment and go into it with a positive attitude. We all know that losing weight can be quite a challenge. In fact, for some, it can be downright tough. It takes time, practice and support to change lifetime habits. But it's a process you must learn in order to succeed. You and you alone are the one who has the power to lose unwanted pounds.

Think like a winner, and not a loser - - remember that emotions are like muscles and the ones you use most grow the strongest. If you always look at the negative side of things, you'll become a downbeat, pessimistic person. Even slightly negative thoughts have a greater impact on you and last longer than powerful positive thoughts.

Negative thinking doesn't do you any good, it just holds you back from accomplishing the things you want to do. When a negative thought creeps into your mind, replace it reminding yourself that you're somebody, you have self-worth and you possess unique strengths and talents. Contemplate what lies ahead of you. Losing weight is not just about diets. It's about a whole new you and the possibility of creating a new life for yourself. Investigate the weight loss programs that appeal to you and that you feel will teach you the behavioral skills you need to stick with throughout the weight-loss process. First you should look for support among family and friends. It can be an enolmous help to discuss obstacles and share skills and tactics with others on the same path. You might look for this support from others you know who are in weight loss programs and you can seek guidance from someone you know who has lost weight and kept it off.

There are success stories across the country today. On television and in newspapers, magazines and tabloids about people who have miraculously lost untold pounds and kept it off. In all instances they say their mental attitude as well as their outlook on life has totally changed.

Diets and weight loss programs are more flexible now than they once were and there are many prepared foods already portioned out. They are made attractive and can be prepared in a matter of minutes. Low-fat and low-calorie foods are on shelves everywhere.

You will probably need to learn new, wiser eating skills. You will want a weight loss regimen that gives you some control, rather than imposing one rigid system. Look for one that offers a variety of different eating plans, so you can choose the one that's best for you.

Keep in mind, too, that your weight loss program will most likely include some physical exercises. Look at the exercising aspect of your program as fun and recreation and not as a faint of grueling and sweaty work. The fact is that physical fitness is linked inseparable to all personal effectiveness in every field. Anyone willing to take the few simple steps that lie between them and fitness will shortly begin to feel better, and the improvement will reflect itself in every facet of their existence.

Doctors now say that walking is one of the best exercises. It helps the total circulation of blood throughout the body, and thus has a direct effect on your overall feeling of health. There are things such as aerobics, jogging, swimming and many other exercises which will benefit a weight loss program. Discuss the options with your doctor and take his advice in planning your exercise and weight loss program.


Thanks for reading and I hope some of this information is helpfull...remember always talk to your doctor before attempting any new exercise routines or diets. Till next time

SENSIBLE DIET TIPS

Start your diet with a food diary, record everything you eat, what you were doing at the time, and how you felt. That tells you about yourself, your temptation, the emotional states that encourage you to snack and may help you lose once you see how much you eat.

Instead of eating the forbidden piece of candy, brush your teeth. If you're about to cheat, allow yourself a treat, then eat only half a bite and throw the other half away. When hunger hits, wait 10 minutes before eating and see if it passes. Set attainable goals. Don't say, "I want to lose 50 pounds." Say, "I want to lose 5 pounds a month." Get enough sleep but not too much. Try to avoid sugar. Highly sweetened foods tend to make you crave more.

Drink six to eight glasses of water a day. Water itself helps cut down on water retention because It acts as a diuretic. Taken before meals, it dulls the-appetite by giving you that "full feeling." Diet with a buddy. Support groups are important, and caring people can help one another succeed. Start your own, even with just one other person.

Substitute activity for eating. When the cravings hit, go to the "Y" or health club if possible; or dust, or walk around the block. This is especially helpful if you eat out of anger.

If the pie on the counter is just too great a temptation and you don't want to throw it away, freeze it. If you're a late-night eater, have a carbohydrate, such as a slice of bread of a cracker, before bedtime to cut down on cravings. Keep an orange slice or a glass of water by your bed to quiet the hunger pangs that wake you up.

If you use food as a reward, establish a new reward system. Buy yourself a non-edible reward. Write down everything you eat - - everything - including what you taste when you cook. If you monitor what you eat, you can't go off your diet.

Weigh yourself once a week at the same time. Your weight fluctuates constantly and you can weigh more at night than you did in the morning, a downer if you stuck to your diet all day. Make dining an event. East from your own special plate, on your own special placemat, and borrow the Japanese art of food arranging to make your meal, no matter how meager, look lovely. This is a trick that helps chronic over-eaters and bingers pay attention to their food instead of consuming it unconsciously.

Don't shop when you're hungry. You'll only buy more fattening food. Avoid finger foods that are easy to eat in large amounts. Avoid consuming large quantities of fattening liquids, which are so easy to overdo. And this includes alcoholic beverages. Keep plenty of crunchy foods like raw vegetables and air-popped fat-free popcorn on hand. They're high in fiber, satisfying and filling. Leave something on your plate, even if you are a charter member of the Clean The Plate Club. It's a good sign that you can stop eating when you want to, not just when your plate is empty.

Lose weight for yourself, not to please your husband, your parents or your friends. Make the kitchen off-limits at any time other than mealtime. Always eat at the table, never in front of the TV set or with the radio on. Concentrate on eating every mouthful slowly and savoring each morsel. Chew everything from 10 to 20 times and count! Never skip meals.

Steps to Relaxing

1. Think positively. Focus on the beauty in everything.
2. Avoid people that are constantly complaining or angry. Stress can be contagious, so avoid transmitters.
3. Avoid toxic people. Spend less time with people who try to guilt you into doing things or tell you that you're not good enough. Yes, even if they're family.
4. Stop feeling guilty. Guilt is a potent source of stress. Get rid of the source of guilt by behaving yourself; stop engaging in behaviors that make you feel guilty. Seek professional help, if necessary, but don't allow destructive behavior to escalate and sabotage your life and health.
5. Learn to prioritize. Make a list of tasks for the day. Organize the list by importance. Learn to be proactive and take care of things before they become a big problem. Time spent more productively means more free time to relax.
6. Make healthy food choices.
- Avoid excessive sugar found in granola bars, pastries or soda. Carbohydrates, such as pasta, convert easily to sugar. These can cause severe ups and downs and agitation, upsetting your body's ability to efficiently utilize energy.
- Avoid excessive coffee. Instead of regular coffee, switch to decaf or an herbal tea with little or no caffeine.
- Eat fresh fruits, vegetables and whole grains that are free of refined sugar, such as apples, grapes, carrots, broccoli, brown rice or whole grain breads.
- Eat plenty of low-calorie protein, such as chicken, fish, whole grains, legumes, dark leafy vegetables or low-fat dairy. These proteins are a better source of energy.
- Take a multi-vitamin. Some vitamins relieve stress.
7. Exercise every day. This is the best known, scientifically proven way to significantly reduce stress. You'll be amazed at how much easier it is to overcome stress if you exercise regularly.
- Try at least thirty minutes per day of moderate activity.
- Walk in the park, woods or on a treadmill.
- Take the stairs instead of the elevator.
- Park a little further away from the entrance of a store.
- Ride a bike.
- Go swimming. Try your local pool, a nearby lake or a friend or relative's home.
- Increase your activity, once you've built endurance, if desired.
- You don't need to work out like a body builder or celebrity.
8. Find a quiet place when you are feeling overwhelmed.
- Draw a warm bath. Light candles around the tub, dim the lights, add bubbles or lavender, if desired.
- Lay on your bed or sofa. Play some soft music or nature CDs. Relax listening to ocean waves, waterfalls or birds.
- Read a good book. Curl up on the couch with a blanket and a cup of chamomile tea.
- Imagine a personal paradise. Close your eyes and envision a different setting. What do you see around you? Is there a breeze? What do you hear - birds or water? Imagine the calming sound of ocean waves reaching the shore. Enjoy a moment in your special place.
- Even the stall of a bathroom will work if you have no other place to go.
9. Download ebooks on relaxation. Use controlled breathing, muscle tensing and relaxing, affirmations (which become your own subliminal messages to your subconscious), and visualization to experience the full impact of total relaxation.
10. Do yoga. It relaxes your body and clears your mind of the stress and rush of the day.
11. Practice meditation. Remove all thoughts and emotions from your mind by concentrating on your breathing. It takes a little practice, but is very rewarding. Some Buddhist monks use this practice throughout their lives!
12. Breathe more slowly. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Inhale deeply, count to five, then exhale slowly, counting to five. Do this ten times to relax your muscles and nerves.
13. Try a massage. Go to your local spa for a great massage.
14. Lower your shoulders to help relax. Be more consciously aware of the tension that is quick to accumulate in your shoulders.
15. Perform self-hypnosis. Focus on something, take a few deep breaths and let yourself become hypnotized. If you have trouble with self-hypnosis, go to a licensed hypnotherapist. Do not allow an amateur to try to hypnotize you. Beware of subliminal messages.
16. Be calmed by water. Assemble a small fountain in your bedroom or yard. Walk near a beach or lake. The calming sounds of water are very soothing.
17. Do activities or hobbies that relax you. Get your mind off the things that normally stress you out. You may just need a break every now and then.
- Go fishing
- Sew
- Sing
- Paint
- Take photographs
- Weird as it sounds, try singing a song using numbers instead of words. This helps to distract you from stress to suddenly relax.
18. Spend time with your pet. Cuddle or play with your pets. They'll love it and so will you. Talk to your pet about all the stress and anxiety you've been going through and you'll feel a lot better.
19. Read a book or an article that makes you think. Read about a leader, such as Martin Luther King or Frankl's writings about the mind. Inspirational thoughts can lead to a more positive outlook on life and add new energy.
20. Work! Although this may sound counteractive to your goal, procrastination never feels as good as having nothing to do. Get it done now and truly relax.
21. Smile and laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. Rent, buy or see a hilarious movie. This is guaranteed to help. Smiling and laughing releases endorphins, which fights stress, helps to relax and reminds you that life is more than just work. Even if it feels strange at first, make it a point to smile more often.

Do Women Today Like the Courtship – Flowers, Love Notes, Opening the Door?

This might be a totally weird topic, and honestly ‘Chivalry’ should not be dead, but I wanted to find out because I had a friend of mine (woman) tell me that she really doesn’t need a guy to open the doors for her, pick-up the check, send her flowers, leave little love notes…she actually said yuk to that. So I wanted to ask and see the responses I got. It seems that there are a lot of women out there that are so independent that the need for Chivalry is not part of there thoughts. Now, this might be contracting but interesting…women look for stability, financially and mentally. They look for kindness, but not in the form of opening the door, picking up the check or leaving love notes, they want a man to be kind towards them in the form of, listening, sharing, having the same values and having somewhat the same overall goal of being stable in their golden years. They want a man not to buy flowers, but to teach their children how to grow flowers, they don’t look for fancy jewelry, but things that will make there lives more efficient. They want a man not to leave love notes, but to be there and tell them in person what they feel, of course any women would love to receive gifts, flowers, but not at the cost of there relationship. Flowers come and go, but communication can die and a lot of times it does. Men feel that flowers can solve all problems, but they don’t.
I was interested in finding out that a lot of the women I talked to prefer to talk to there man, they feel no need to spend hundreds of dollars on things that are not important as there family is. The economy is tough today and couples have hunkered down on there spending…and many couples have come to enjoy more communication today as they did when they first met. Many women don’t need all that courtship, then prefer to have a man true to there relationship, concentrating on there future together…ok yah maybe when you first meet its not all about getting marriage, settling down, but we all look for some stability and courtship is great…but if there is nothing behind it…no solid desire to be together..then it’s simply a courtship…of gifts and material things and never a commitment.

So I was surprised that many women don’t need all the things that come with be a Chivalry man, but a few qualities and the stability would do just fine. So the next time you think about giving flowers, maybe you should plant a few for your home so that you both nourish it to growth as your relationship, the next time you think of leaving a little note, why not tell her in person, the next time you think about going out for dinner, why don’t you cook for her. There is nothing wrong with buying her things, giving her flowers, leaving her notes, but when that’s all it becomes….then the relationship looses the bond, the connection, the communication.

My Perspective:
As I said before, it’s all up to the individual. Each person is different and each culture is different. I think if you both “communicate” before hand or during the time you are getting to know each other, whether it is courtship or friendship, if you talk about it, then there won’t be any misunderstandings…communication…I am telling you…it is the vital ingriedient in any relationship. As for, I try my best to listen and watch the other person reactions; I like to open doors pick up the check, but if I noticed that maybe it bothers her, then I ask if she is ok with it…communicate…and if she smiles and enjoys the attention then I know its ok. You need to listen, and watch to people give out body language to different situations, sometimes they don’t notice and maybe you don’t either, but if you communicate there won’t be any misunderstanding. Imagine, if you learn to talk early in your relationship and make it a habit, part of your lives, I am sure it will make a huge difference in your future lives together, if there is one. Always be a gentlemen, but watch for the body language and talk…men…there isn’t anything wrong with talking.

This was a great topic I hope to see some comments…till next time.

How Long Should You Date Before Getting Married?

Ok…this is one topic I will definitely leave “My Perspective” on, of course before I do, here is the question:

“How Long Should You Date Before you Get Married?”

Now, this is probably going to be long and I am sure that everyone has an opinion on this and I did ask a few people, out of curiosity, and this is what I gathered. Many people believe in that old saying, “Love at First Site”…oh yah and they actually said it to me and many are definitely stuck on that and believe it will happen or did happen to them. So, the thing is…that honestly you do not know someone until you live with them. Now, come on…this goes for you guys and gals as well; how often are you…you when you first meet someone or are just dating try to be the perfect gentlemen or lady…ok…ok…there are some freaks out there…whoo hooo. But honestly most of us always want to put out our best first…most of the time…I don’t think that if you have a bad habit that you would be displaying it on your first date…hey you never know…some probably do…then again this question would not pertain to them…I would hope.
So, as I said, many of us always put our best first, yah…you bring flowers, leave little notes, holding hands, a stolen kiss…yah…the good old days…huh. Well, then it could even lead to spending the night…of course nothing happens right…just a pajama party…right…yah…ok.
Here is the thing how long should you be dating/seeing each other when you decide to get married? I noticed that the answer always depends on the person’s age, social status, career. Now, many younger singles…if not in college would say that 6-9 months is enough. For those that are in college feel that marriage should not happen until after college…you could date for about 4-6 years. Now, there are some singles that are between the ages of 30-35…give an take…that think dating for about 3-6 months should be more than enough to get to know each other. Most of these people told me that living together usually leads to a (Too Long) relationship and no marriage. Only a few people mentioned to me that they should first live together before they get married, that way you usually know what little habits they might have…and you don’t mind dealing with.

Now most of these people did tell me that they had the experience of, “Love at First Site”…leading to dating then marriage. Now, a very large percent of those that told me “Love at First Site”…also told me that they have many issues with their relationships and that there is a strain on their marriage. Here are the causes of those strains, bad and annoying habits, different values and the intimate life. Those things could have been resolved or known if you had lived with the person. I totally understand that some religions do not allow a couple to live together before marriage…and I respect that…so…you need to make it a longer courtship/dating period…get to know the person well.

So the question is how long is long enough? I don’t claim to know the answer even with a poll taken…there is so many variables involved and you know…people answer what they wish, but most of the time they do something else. So I guess it all depends…as well as anything in life…everyone is different, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be happy.

My Perspective:
Ok…this is definitely my perspective/opinion…nothing more. I totally understand about religion and the importance to believe in something or someone higher; how I see it though is…the Pastor, Priest, Reverend are not going to live with your significant other. You go to church, temple or place of worship and pray, give homage to a higher being…they whom ever you are looking up to…is not going to live with your significant other. Yes your church, temple or place of worship can help you find a gentler side to you, help you through tough times, allow for inner peace, but once again…they will not live with your significant other. I am sure you can always ask your Priest, Pastor, or Reverend this question, does your God, higher being, or whom ever you look towards for answers or help…wish only happiness for you. The questions is happiness, you and the other person deserve it and I have to say…that living with that person for sometime…6 months to a tear…no more…will definitely help in your long term marriage.
From experience…I met my significant other…2-weeks later I asked her to marry me. I was nearly 30 and she was older…I felt the time to settling down was necessary, I had a good career, I was financially stable, I felt I was mentally ready for a relations and everything that came with it and 4-weeks after I had met her…we were married. The first year was an absolutely nightmare…for both of us. I have to say that before you marry…you need to be willing to take on anything that comes at you…you need to live with the person…believe things come out into the light when you are living together…oh yah they do…I have asked and I have been told. Live with the person for 6 months to a year…no more…if you are over 30…if you are under 30…maybe a little more time…another 6 months. Marriage is a monster commitment and you both need to be aware of what comes with it…its not holding hands, kissing, flowers, dinners…yah you should keep those, but marriage comes many more things, pooling of finances, there are 2 people that need to decide on something…not just you. And there are the questions of kids…that’s another big thing that many have a hard time dealing with, because if you have a child with someone that has an annoying habit that you just can’t deal with…that won’t only affect you, your significant other, but the child that was brought into the world. Think about it…how long should you date before getting married…live together first.

Thanks for reading and please leave a comment, opinion; I would love to read it…till next time.

FIFTY USEFUL TIPS FOR BETTER SLEEP

DISCLAIMER: The is article or information does not give tax advise, legal advise or health advise. Please consult a professional before attempting or doing any of the information in this article.

You can sleep without pills and still beat insomnia "The fifty" following tips will help you to have a better night's sleep

1. Try to relax before bedtime; take a walk or read a newspaper; just do something which is not stressful.
2. Do your paperwork or other work-related activities early in the evening.
3. Make sure your bedroom is not noisy.
4. If your bedroom is noisy and you can't correct it, wear earplugs.
5. Think of places you fell asleep easily and try to copy those places; set your room up the same way.
6. Check the medicines you are taking to see that they aren't nervous system stimulants.
7. Make sure your bedroom is well-ventilated but not too cold.
8. Don't use too many or too few blankets.
9. Don't tuck your sheets in too tight at the bottom of the bed; your feet should feel free and unrestricted.
10. Your mattress should not sag.
11. Have a big enough bed for yourself; if you're 6'8", don't try sleeping in a single bed.
12. Your pajamas or nightgown should be comfortable, not too tight.
13. Use a pillow that suits you, soft or firm, whichever you prefer; or not at all, if that's what you prefer.
14. If you like a soft light on while you sleep, have one on.
15. If you prefer to sleep in darkness make sure your blinds are thick.
16. Rise at the same time seven days a week, no matter what.
17. Do not linger in bed when you wake up; instead, get up right away and start moving on with your morning routine.
18. Avoid napping in the afternoon.
19. Do some sort of physical exercise each day which will tire you out.
20. Cut down on smoking and drinking alcohol at least two hours before bedtime.
21. Don't drink coffee or soft drinks containing caffeine after dinner.
22. If you like to watch TV before going to bed, keep it light; watch a comedy instead of a drama.
23. If you like to read before going to bed keep it light. Read to a logical stopping point, so you won't lie awake wondering what's going to happen.
24. Don't socialize with friends with whom you are likely to argue in the evening. Nighttime arguments are like poison to an insomniac.
25. Establish a regular bed-time.
26. Avoid eating too much salt with your dinner and in any after-dinner snacks.
27. Try eating snacks high in calcium and protein before retiring; small amounts of cheese and nuts contain Tryptophan, an amino acid which promotes sleep:
28. Take bone meal tablets or some other form of calcium regularly after dinner.
29. Herbal teas such as chamomile and valerian induce sleep.
30. Try a teaspoon of brewer's yeast and a tablespoon of molasses in a glass of milk.
31. Don't forget about a glass of warm milk before bed; it does work.
32. A teaspoon of honey in a cup of hot water is said to induce sleep.
33. Another old-fashioned remedy is to take two teaspoons of cider vinegar with two
teaspoons honey in a glass of warm water.
34. Ask your spouse which sleeping position you sleep most soundly in; try to assume that position upon retiring.
35. Don't go for 8 hours of sleep; you may only need 4 to 6 hours.
36. Spend no more than 3 minutes thinking about the day's problems when you are in bed.
37. If you find it difficult to sleep with your spouse, try getting twin beds or separate bedrooms.
38. The optimum temperature for sleep is 60 to 64 degrees F.
39. Relax before bed in a warm bath.
40. Buy a humidifier to keep your room warm in the winter without drying out the air too much.
41. Add a tablespoon of dry mustard powder to your before-bed bath.
42. Add baking soda to the bath water,
43. Footbaths before bed help.
44. Before bed, listen to relaxing music.
45. When you are in bed, recall the happiest experiences of your life.
46. Ask someone to read aloud to you in bed before you go to sleep.
47. Lie on your back in bed and relax each muscle in your body.
48. Visualize various parts of your body relaxing.
49. Concentrate on doing some deep breathing as you lie in
50. If all else fails, try counting sheep; it's an age-old cure and has helped many an insomniac get a good nights sleep.

Who Starts the Fights in Your House?

Welcome back to another post. I know…I know it’s been some time since I have posted, but I am here now and I have an interesting topic. I was at the store picking up some things and I over heard…hey…when you have a blog you need to keep an ear out for any interesting topics…lol. Ok so I heard these two ladies talking about their husbands and the arguments they are always in…well one of them said something interesting…she asked the other, “So who starts the fights in your House?”. I was intrigue because now a days you always hear about the arguments between couples and its is becoming more and more common in relationships. So, me having a blog and wanting to hear what the average population thinks about this I went about and asked. So, here is the question:

“Who starts the fights in your house?”

Now, this was interesting, but all but 1 of the women I asked said they start the fights…they giggled a bit…actually they all did when they said it. Now as for the men, all except one, again, said their wife, girlfriend start the fights. I was surprised. So I went about telling some folks what I found out and the people I told started thinking and once again all the women, in this series, said they start the fights and it made them think…once they finished thinking…again they giggled. I was surprised to the results and most importantly the honesty…it was a very interesting topic and results.

So I ask you, “Who starts the fight in your house?”

My Perspective:
Ok so I stood back and started thinking about my fights or better said arguments in my household and sure enough…most of them were started by my significant other…hmm. I am not saying that I didn’t start a few, but the majority of them were started by my significant other…very interesting. I brought this to my dearest and she started giggling, get that response from most of the women, and she agreed…I was TOTALLY surprised on her response…because that’s the first time she has ever agreed on something…lol. So what do I think, well most of these fights or better said arguments I believe could be handled or resolved with no need to argue/yell….because all that does is bring up lingering past issues and that could lead to a whole other fight. My perspective…talk….communicate, I think with some inter changing of a civilized conversation it could get resolved…yah…yah…I know…talking in you house or anyone’s house…nope…it all ends up being a huge yelling fest…go figure.

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CONQUERING THE SMOKING HABIT

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CONQUERING THE SMOKING HABIT

Most smokers sincerely want to quit. They know cigarettes threaten their health, set a bad example for their children, annoy their acquaintances and cost an inordinate amount of money.

Nobody can force a smoker to quit. It's something each person has to decide for himself, and will require a personal commitment by the smoker. What kind of smoker are you? What do you get out of smoking? What does it do for you? It is important to identify what you use smoking for and what kind of satisfaction you feel that you are getting from smoking.

Many smokers use the cigarette as a kind of crutch in moments of stress or discomfort, and on occasion it may work; the cigarette is sometimes used as a tranquilizer. But the heavy smoker, the person who tries to handle severe personal problems by smoking heavily all day long, is apt to discover that cigarettes do not help him deal with his problems effectively.

When it comes to quitting, this kind of smoker may find it easy to stop when everything is going well, but may be tempted to start again in a time of crisis. Physical exertion, eating, drinking, or social activity in moderation may serve as useful substitutes for cigarettes, even in times of tension. The choice of a substitute depends on what will achieve the same effects without having any appreciable risk.

Once a smoker understands his own smoking behavior, he will be able to cope more successfully and select the best quitting approaches for himself and the type of life-style he leads.
Because smoking is a form of addiction, 80 percent of smoker who quit usually experience some withdrawal symptoms. These may include headache, light-headedness, nausea, diarrhea, and chest pains. Psychological symptoms, such as anxiety, short-teilu depression, and inability to concentrate, may also appear. The main psychological symptom is increased irritability. People become so irritable, in fact, that they say they feel "like killing somebody." Yet there is no evidence that quitting smoking leads to physical violence.

Some people seem to lose all their energy and drive, wanting only to sleep. Others react in exactly the opposite way, becoming so over energized they can't find enough activity to burn off their excess energy. For instance, one woman said she cleaned out all her closets completely and was ready to go next door to start on her neighbor's. Both these extremes, however, eventually level off. The symptoms may be intense for two or three days, but within 10 to 14 days after quitting, most subside. The truth is that after people quit smoking, they have more energy, they generally will need less sleep, and feel better about themselves.

Quitting smoking not only extends the ex-smoker's life, but adds new happiness and meaning to one's current life. Most smokers state that immediately after they quit smoking, they start noticing dramatic differences in their overall health and vitality.

Quitting is beneficial at any age, no matter how long a person has been smoking. The mortality ratio of ex-smoker decreases after quitting. If the patient quits before a serious disease has developed, his body may eventually be able to restore itself almost completely.

Thanks for reading, till next time.

Dare to go Bare or Leave the Hair -

Ok…I needed to put this post in on this topic; sometimes among the guys we do talk about this (among other things)…come on…you ladies do too…I’ve heard you and plus I do have friends that are woman. The questions are:

“Do you prefer Hair or Going Bare on Yourself”
“The other question is; do you prefer bare or hair on your partner?”

So, anyways you are in a relationship and you know how it goes…you meet, fall in love, date, have dinner, movies and the day comes when you are both passionately kissing and one thing leads to another.

So you start of on the couch. Light music in the background and you begin to get into the mood; lots of hugging, kissing, touching and well…the clothing begins to come off slowly and before you know it your headed towards the bedroom or maybe not. As you both are getting overly excited and anticipation takes control, you begin to vigorously started tearing of the remaining pieces of clothing…you slowly begin to lay down either on a bed, couch or floor (ouch). As one of you begins to head south (for those that do)…you make sure to travel slowly, stopping along the way at every beautiful section of the body. Now, you arrive at your destination and low and behold bam…you see a big patch of fur or a maybe you see an isolated area. “So what’s your preference…a little, a lot or completely bare?” Now,now…don’t turn red, but think about it.

Now I went ahead and made a poll on this topic and I was amazed to see that people actually responded, but I am glad they did. So I’ll get into the numbers or percentage in a bit, I did want to share some of the thoughts behind these preferences.

Now, I have heard a few guys say that going bare (on themselves) makes that are a lot more sensitive. Now, I am not sure if that’s necessarily a good thing for some guys… but hey you never know. Now for the majority of the men, they say they would never do it…that it isn’t a manly thing to do. Now, I did get this same response from both men and women, “Going bare means less flossing”…Ok…you know what I mean. A majority of the women did say that they do keep it trim. The thing is…if they could, they would go completely bare? That for those women that do go completely bare…say that they really like it a lot more and that there partner is more entitle to perform orally. The only drawback to it is that going completely bare, if not done professionally it could lead to a lot of itchiness…when the hair grows back. Now, this was an added plus, some women even went as far as to say that they would shape the area out, some would make a heart shape, others would make a landing strip…wow…I was astonished by these little extra comments, but as I said most would prefer bare. So…let’s see what the people think on this topic…share...and answer honestly…no one will know it’s you. The question is:

“Do you prefer the Hair or going Bare on Your Self”
“Another question is, do you prefer bare or hair on your partner?”

Now, let me wrap this up with some percentages. The interesting thing is that most of the guys on the poll, about 85%…prefer that the lady be bare. About 10% said a little hair is ok…and about 5% of the men said they like the hair (lots of it). Now for going bare on themselves the guys…90% of the men said “No way”. The other 10% said they would. There was actually no in betweens…no one said they would trim themselves. Now as for the women, 80%, said they prefer to go bare on themselves…yah that’s strange, but they do…it seems that it’s just a lot more…what’s the word they used…”FUN”. 15% percent said they would only keep it trim and not go complete bare, the thing is, about ½ of the women in the 15 percentile…said they keep it very…very trimmed. Now I was surprised thatsome woman prefer to go natural…and no trim at all.

My Perspective:
Now I know you are wondering my perspective on this, and for some of you that know me…not mentioning any names…I will answer…so sit back and read on. I believe that it all depends on your preference, like it says in my post and what the people said. The majority of the women did prefer bare on both themselves and their partner, the majority of the men preferred bare on their partner, not on themselves. It's all a preference. As for me, I don’t have a set preference…I do have to say that I rather have it bare, but keeping it trim is definitely ok. As for myself, well...honestly I like to go bare...because I dare. That's my perspective.

So let’s hear what you prefer, once again thanks for reading…till next time.