What Should I Do?

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So, here is today’s post topic,

“What Should I do if My Relationship is Not Working?”

Now, this is an incredible topic and I am still amazed that SO many people stay in bad relationships. Ok, I understand that there may be different circumstances and that ok…yah I don’t know you attitude sets in, but please why would you seriously put yourself through such unhappiness…why. Ok, now maybe some situations are not as bad as others, case proven, and maybe there is an agreement between the couple and staying together is for the better of the situation, kids are involved or maybe financial. The thing is I think those need to step back and evaluate there situation and ask themselves is this really necessary…some will probably answer yes, but before you do, make sure that you are not being abused physically or mentally…please…that’s not worth anything.

Now people every where are in bad relationships, whether it is an abusive one or one where the love is no longer there. You know it is possible for people to fall out of love…really…that’s a real thing. So if you are in that situation, then before it gets any worse…move on. Some are in those relationships where children are involved and a possible separation could scar the children so there needs to be an understanding between the two of you on working out a plan that will eventually lead to a clean separation and the children are not affected…at least not as much as a all out war. But each couple that maybe going through hard times…they need to all step back and evaluate the relationship…either work it out or go your separate ways.
There are 6, 773,540,914 people in the world and 306,222,923 people in the US...there is someone out there that will love you for you and care about you and not want to hurt you emotionally or physically…it starts with you and like I always say…communication is the key ingredient.

I can’t lay out all the possible scenarios, because I will miss one or two or three, so my only suggestion is to think it through.

My Perspective:
Each couple or relationship is different…I…understand, but I honestly there is no need to go through life suffering. Step back and evaluate your relationship…talk…get help…if everything else fails…move on. Only example I can give is this…and I ain’t one to preach because I am guilty of not following my own advise sometimes…hey I don’t follow the advice of others for that matter, but…say you have been married 10+ years and you have 2 children…and you both just don’t have that passion, love might be there, but its not the same love. You both realize that your separation will definitely affect the children or maybe just one…the older one. You have tried talking, asked for counseling, sacrificed your own needs and wants, but your other half just won’t do their part…and it only seems to be getting worse…the children…the children. I guess it would be time to talk it out…and hopefully both come to an agreement of the best possible solution to go your separate ways, but see what can be done to lessen the affect to the children. You both love your kids dearly, but your happiness or lack of…will be seeing by your children. Come on…when your child asks why you don’t kiss daddy or mommy…you know they notice something different. Or why is mommy or daddy always mad…another indication of an unhappy relationship. No, don’t let your kids piece together what they think…catch it before it gets worse.

I appreciate you reading this post…I would like to see your comments…till next time, “love yourself first”.