Marriage and Relationships – More on the Subject

Welcome back to another post entry…before I start…I wanted to mention to please come back often as I am working on posting Podcasts…I will be traveling around town and interviewing people on such topics as relationships, finance, business, and well other things. I think getting the scoop straight from the streets will be something worth the while…it will be interesting to say the least.

Ok, well I get to touch on the “Marriage and Sex” topic I posted a while back…I am always looking to see what others think and most importantly say about some of the topics I have and I was able to catch this real life experience.

So I was listening to a couple and on a talk show…no not the Jerry Springer show…lol. But any how…the topic was about sex after marriage or there the lack of. The first couple laid out there story…and of course it always starts of the same…the y meet…they fell in love…the sex was great…and constant…maybe 2 or 3 times a day. They get married and “BAM”…it goes out the window. Now, this couple was interesting because in this case the man was complaining on how much his wife wanted to do the thing, he said, “I would come from work and before we even said 1-word she was already taking of my pants”. He mentioned that he came home from work and was tired and was looking forward to a hot meal…which wasn’t prepared (not that it should be).and then she wanted to use toys, do it in not-so-discrete places…such as the beach. She said that one of her fantasies was to do it on the beach with lots of people around…wow. So the host asks the man…how many times a day should they do it…he said,”3 times week”. Now here is the funny part…the host and the audience bashed the guy for not wanting it more…and then told the wife…she better get more batteries for her toys…since it was going to be a long night…poor guy…he was being bashed on not wanting to do it more with his wife…absurd…huh…yah right.

Ok…now…the next couple comes on…total opposite. The husband wants it every night and the wife says…she thinks maybe twice a week should be enough. Now the thing is the host and the audience condemned the husband on being a sex addict….go figure. One guy gets hammered for not wanting enough and the other guy for wanting it too much. I was totally taken by that, as I was watching I said to myself…maybe the couple should switch…lol…ok…not nice…but do you see what I see…I don’t know maybe since I am a guy…I could be looking into this the wrong way…but come on.

So that topic has been on my mind, so why is it that men or woman loose interest in having sex with their significant other. I mean I know there are many variable, like children, careers, and maybe a myriad of other things…but I see as…if you both enjoyed the sex before marriage why should it change…I mean two consenting adults…smart…should know balance in their life will make a marriage work. If you put more weight on one thing…that could lead to a problem. I think couples need to make time for each other…maybe a date night…alone time…no TV…no Games…glass of wine, a cold beer or what ever fancy them…and afterwards have some passionate sex….I don’t know…I could be just blowing smoke…and I know that sex isn’t everything…really I do…but that’s it…what if a couple met, and they really didn’t do much in the bedroom…maybe once a week…but you see…they consented to that lifestyle…they got married and no changes…that’s where I am coming from. It’s weird but you get couples that either the man likes it too much or it’s the woman who likes it too much and they are paired up with the complete opposite. Now, that I am thinking about it…I think that is a subject that should be discussed before marriage…so that there is a clear understanding of where the subject on sex stands between the couple. I am not saying that sex should be the reason behind a relationship…but seriously it is a topic that has broken up marriages, relationships for decades and it happened before and it is happening now.

My Perspective:
Marriage is between two people that love and cherish each other…everything about that person should be the thing you love, being with them, hugging, kissing, their values, their self being…I mean it is for ever…or at least it should be…so why not make sure that everything about that person, their habits, their hands…I mean everything you should love…enjoying each other is important…that will bring closeness and comfort to the relationship. I mean do you remember the first time you guys did it…it was amazing…it should be that way all the time…and if it starts to move away from that…talk…get it back on track…it might take some toys, some role playing…nothing out of the ordinary (I would think)…but things that you both agree on. Don’t let that passion go…yah money can’t buy happiness or money is noteverything…but is sure makes life pleasant…the same with sex…it’s not everything…but boy does it make life pleasant. So grab your significant other and go out on a date, send the kids to there grandparents, ask your roommate to spend the night somewhere else…or if all that fails rent a hotel room…but make the time…I know…it will make you both feel close again.

Now, if you are absolutely in a bad relationship…I think its time to move on…believe me its not worth it…there are so many people out there looking as you are…time heals wounds…time will be on your side…you will find that one right person. I know there is not a Mr. right or Ms. right…but darn it…if you don’t try and look and talk before taking the plunge…I mean think about it…it’s the rest of your life that you are talking about and it should be spent happy…well for the most part of.

Well, enough about that for now, I look forward to your comments and I will touch again on this subject. So many aspects of a relationship…it all has to balance and don’t tell me it can’t…we are unique creatures and we have flown to the moon, gone to the deepest part of the ocean…I think we can make a relationship work…if we put some effort into it.

Thanks for reading and see you soon