The Pondering Question

"What if we get to the end of our life and realize it was all wrong?"

I had to share this, I was speaking to a very close friend and in our communications the following comment was presented to me, “So I read this question in an email early this morning and I can't get it out of my head.” Now, I read the question and was very intrigued by it…I mean I had to stop and think about my crazy-busy life and where I stood. You know I have heard this so many times before…”why am I here, what’s my purpose” and believe me…I hear this a lot, “ I shouldn’t have been born or I wish I was dead”. Yah those are very discerning statements and are hard to swallow. But there are millions of people that feel this way and it is something that I wanted to touch on.

As you read the question, above, I want you to be sitting (probably are) and have a note pad and pencil handy…ok...it’s strange, but I wasn’t you to try this. Read the question and then on your note pad…write two columns….and label each column as follows: “Positive” and “Negative”…now make sure not to write your name or anything…this is just something for you personally. I would highly recommend that you do this over a few days or weeks span…because if you try and write everything down in one sitting…you will probably skip a lot of things and the purpose here is to write down as much if not everything that would go in either column.

Now, think about the question. On the “Positive Column” write down all the things that you are happy with, things that had a positive impact on you or are having a positive impact on you. Now it could the smallest thing, such as my coffee was great today. So start writing things that might have impacted your childhood, your adolescent, your college, your first job, your perfect attendance award. Just write down the things that are positive…it could be a huge list…actually it should a huge list. Now on the “Negative column”, write down the things that have had or are having a negative impact on your life, it could be a small thing, such as my coffee was horrible today…etc. Write down everything, bad relationships, a childhood bully or your first date…things that have had or are having a negative impact.

Once you have completed or feel that you could not write any more, then don’t even look at the list…put it away…whether you have had more negative things in your life than positive…I am certain that you have had some positive things in your life and those whether few or a lot…should be enough to let you know that you are just like many people in this world…and that you are part of it and it is ok to have some negative things in our lives. Maybe this is the time for you to check on your path…see if you are doing what you can to move forward…because I have to say…if you have taken the time to read up to this point of my blog…then that means you understand and you see that its possible that you need to reflect and see where you are at. I could continue on this subject…and it is interesting, but everything aside…I think we are all doing just fine with our lives…yah some us take a bad path, make bad choices, and sometimes it seems we can get out of a bad situation…but everyday that you wake up…its another opportunity for you to try again.

My Perspective
You know if we start living each day as a “Question of why”…then are whole life will be just that…I see each day as a new day, an opportunity, a chance to do the right thing or to do the things we want to. Yah sometimes it feels like we get thrown under a bus, but as you can tell…we continue on…we move forward.

Yah sometimes we make bad choices, but then again if we made all the right choices and did all the right things…I honestly would think life would be boring. That’s what is great about life…the choices we have…they are ours to make and live with, of course, we have to think of each past experience as a learning experience…and seriously learn from it…that’s what makes us so unique…we can evolve and it has shown throughout existence of humankind.

For all the reasons people might think that their life was not right…I bet that somewhere in there existence are things that were right, their children, their friends, their first love, that first taste of chocolate. You know if at the end of my time I realized my life was all wrong…I would have to disagree…and you know why…because I could never say that meeting those people I call friends was wrong. I have indirectly touch your life with one of my posts or maybe made you laugh, or think or maybe it is just a way to eat up some time at work, the things is those people I call friends are in my life and I think that makes up for all the bad choices I may have made.

Now, if someone reads that question and has doubts…I think that’s a reality check for them….and maybe it’s time to analyze their prospective on their life and what they want out of it. It made me think and I certainly don’t want to start getting negative at this point…maybe it’s time to adjust to the things around us and start being happy.

Thanks for reading, see you soon,