Ok…this might not be the best of all topics right now…but this is my blog…just kidding. Like I said, in today’s economic times, this is probably the last thing on anyone’s mind, but actually, when you come to think about it… this is a great time to talk about it…whether here in a post or with your significant other. I mean…ok…well…you know some say that money is not everything…yet we still need it…unless we live like Grizzle Adams…we still need. Yah the topics among couple is economic hardships…and these are the times that most couples forget about the most important thing in that relationship…and that is them.
Now, you need to talk about how to get through these tough times…that’s important for the future, but…we can’t forget the individuals involved…you and your significant other…that make up the team, pair, or couple that are trying to make it through these tough times. So let’s talk about taking a break from the media and all the negative talk out there about the economy and focus some of that energy on you - the couple.
One topic that is touched on between couples is, “How to spice up the sex Lives”. When you first meet someone…the natural attraction takes over and the first time you make love is hopefully, extra-ordinary, unforgettable. Both of you can’t keep your hands off of each other the first several weeks, maybe months…or maybe it’s not that passionate, but you truly enjoy each other. Now, sometimes…well wait…I have to say most of the times that go away over the years, whether in a marriage or a long relationship. And I hear this from friends, acquaintances or I see it on talk shows, news, internet and other blogs that, "my husband or wife doesn’t make love to me anymore." I look and listen, and 9 times out of 10…they are opposite in questions of their sex drive…either the man is overly sexed or the woman, but for some reason…and they have their reasons, they are match up with a complete opposite of their sexual desires…and unfortunately that puts strain on there relationship. Not that I am suggestion it is the most important thing in a relationship, but it is the number one cause for adultery or broken relationships...it's true and unfortunate.
I mean I have people tell me…well yah I don’t want to have sex with him anymore because he is not as passionate as before, or he just jumps on top and bam wham thank you mam. Ok…if that is the case…then talk…tell him how you feel…let him know that you want that passion back….not just sex, but the whole thing that should come with making love…passion. Of course I have some men telling me that they are passionate, bring flowers, open the door, cook, and make love as if it was the first time, but the woman just lays there…and then it seems more like a obligation…like I said…everyone has there story to tell…but if you don’t talk no one will know...especially your significant other.
Maybe the fire isn’t there anymore…but the love is…so what in this case. Say you are married and are totally in love…and would never change anything about the relationship…but one of you does enjoy making love…then come to a compromise…talk about it…maybe you can both come to an agreement on the topic where you both are satisfied, so that there is no feeling of obligation or frustration, but of mutual agreement/enjoyment. You are 2 adults and you do care for one another…so then…take the time to talk.
My Perspective:
I see communication being at the root of many of these issues. It seems people do not communicate anymore. Many families now have both parents working and no time to just talk. So for me...my perspective is...communicate with your significant other and talk things out...if that doesn't seem to be working...I think moving on is the best for both parties. I know that children maybe in the middle...but when it comes down to it...your relationship also affects them...so talk to them on your decision...communication I think is a great solutions for amny things.
Once again thanks for reading, till next time.
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