Female Traits That Men Can't Resist
by YourTango.com

Women know what they want, they just don't know always how to tell us men. One thing women as a rule do not want is this guy: Jack McJerkface. While irresistible women will likely still attract the McJerks, she'll also attract the Mr. Perfects.

There's a lot of conflicting dating and pickup advice out there: play hard to get, don't play hard to get, be yourself, be a sports fan, be sexy but still down to earth, the list goes on. Here I've compiled 7 traits any straight man undoubtedly finds irresistible. 3 Secrets To Exuding Sexy

So, do one or all of these things to get our attention... and then keep us calling you for date after date.

1 She's Funny. One of the easiest (and surprisingly least-practiced) methods of convincing us we made the right choice in talking to you is when you respond to our jokes instead of simply laughing at them. If you're heehawing at our wisecracks, wonderful—just make sure you don't leave a dead silence at the end of each one or we're going to think you're expecting a stand-up routine. We want a woman who's our conversation partner—not just an adoring fan.

2. She's Somewhere Between Aloof And Instantly In Love. As the law of supply and demand goes, we want to crave your attention before we get it. Once we have it, though, it's nice to be reminded that you only have eyes for us.

3. She's Fashionable—But Not Obsessively. If you spend most of your time and energy on clothes and shoes, we may suspect you are a bit superficial. Can we not sit around in our underwear once in a while if we're feeling depressed? (OK, a very rare "once in a while," fine.) We like a woman who minds her appearance but who also knows that being attractive is more about confidence than owning Manolos. Surprise: Men Primp As Much As Women Do

4. She's Healthy—But Not Obsessively. Obviously men dig a woman with a kickin' body, but not if it means she spends more time in the gym than she does with us. Likewise, we'll forgive you for eating a salad on a first date but not every date for the rest of our lives. Remember, men like curves and women who can bench-press us are somewhat frightening.

5. She's Down To Earth. The type of attention a drama queen demands from men is not the sort of genuine, will-love-you-forever attention women deserve. We like a woman who forgives the occasional stupid move. If we say the wrong thing in a casual conversation and it wasn't racist or an otherwise idiotic remark, she remembers that, as humans, we are going to disagree with at least 25 percent of everything anybody says, and so, she lets it go. Signs You're Just Not That Into Him

6. She Resists Adding Us On Facebook. Where do you want this relationship to go? If you answer, "I'm not sure" or anything other than "to the friend zone with you!" then you should not be friending us on Facebook until it's established that we are more than chummy. I recently had to unfriend two women I dated because they friended me before we ever went out and it didn't work out with either. Don't make us the bad guys.

7. She Returns Our Phone Calls. I know it seems like calling a woman is no big deal because we are grown men, but every time we dial a number for the first time, we are terrified that one of the following things will happen: a) you won't remember us, b) we have to think of something witty to say on your voicemail. Unless we were total jerks to you (in which case you shouldn't have given us your real number), call us back ASAP.

8. She's Passionate But Isn't A Zealot. TomFoolery blogger Tom Miller says: "It's inspirational when anyone is really into something. Whether it's a cause, a hobby or a job, seeing what gets a lady fired-up makes her more attractive (unless it's dog fighting). Zeal does have its limits, however. Fifty hours of work per week plus another fifty hours of decoupage doesn't leave much time for dating or finding new passions as a couple"

9. She Has Friends. Another one from TomFoolery: "While approaching a gaggle of gals is a little intimidating, dating the lone shewolf is even scarier. It's nice to know that we can spend some guy time or alone time and not have someone lonely, disappointed and thinking of revenges for this slight. Plus maybe one of your friends will like one of our friends, and who doesn't like people helping people? The downside is when your friends are jerks, jealous of our time or totally up in our couple business." Being Popular Makes You More Attractive.

My Perspective:
Be yourself, don't over do it, and yes...guys may be guys, but deep down inside we like the cuddling, the birthday fuss and there isn't one guy out there that doesn't. He might now show it or he  might seems the tough guy, but you ladies know, when he is behind closed doors, you know him. Ladies be approachable, give it a go, don't think all guys are assholes...because you might just...might let the one get away.

Till next time, thanks for reading and have fun...Latino Man Signing Off.

Life Changing Decisions

So the time comes when you have to make probably one of the most difficult decisions you need to make. Millions of people through out the world do it, something in your life that could be a tremendous life changing experience. And the worst part is when innocent people are caught in the middle of these decisions. Whether it can be a life threatening decision, job change decision, relationship decision whatever is thrown on you. The thing is, I think that some of these life changing experience are for the better and as individuals I believe we have the knowledge and set of mind to make it through them; of course there are plenty of support groups out there for everything from death in the family, domestic violence, divorce, alcoholism, gambling, the list goes on. But with that said, if you have a life changing decision, there is help and we can usually make it through those decisions.

Anyways, history has shown that you are not the only one in whatever position you are in…in other words you are not alone, millions of people have gone through or going through what you are experiencing. Yah you can say that maybe we don’t understand what you are going through, and yah each case can be a (little) different, but the outcomes are always the same to someone else that has already gone through it. Take for instance a divorce. You either divorce on a good basis or a bad basis. You either both agree on the terms, or you both fight like wild animals in court trying to take the other for what ever they can…so two outcomes...that’s it. How you get there may be different for each marriage or relationship. Some people go through years of abuse, some are married for 20-30 years and just end up getting divorced, financial stress, intimate stress and so on. The trip to the divorce might be different, but the outcome is always the same.

Now, one thing that I have noticed more and more these days, because of the economy, that people that are getting divorce are doing so with a little twist. Now, this is not for everyone but the way it is happening for some couples is; if they have decided on a divorce, the couple agrees to a living arrangement in the interim, because of financial hardships that come with divorces. It also saves money between the couple so they do not complete the process, until the financial arrangements can be justified for them to live in separate housing. Once the time comes they can complete the divorce settlement and move forward with their lives. Now, some of these agreed living arrangements might be awkward, but the couples live their lives as though they are roommates, they each go about their lives with some of the couples actually dating. Yet the respect to not bring other boyfriends or girlfriends to the house holds. Yah, it’s not the best arrangement, but times change and adjust to whatever life is throwing at them, so even though this might have been frowned upon 10 years ago, it has become the norm. You can find articles on the internet on couples that live this way and it amazing to see, but of course eventually the day does come when they each take different housing.

But the thing I was trying to say is that millions of people have gone though or going through what ever you are going through…someone out there does understand and there are support groups to help you through these decision or experiences. So maybe it’s time to move on and do what needs to be done, yah ok…there maybe other individuals involved, maybe children, but I am pretty certain that everyone involved will be better off with the decision and time heals, communication opens doors and you are not alone…support groups are out there. So take the next step with confidence, assurance that you will be a happier person, the people around you will be happier and you life will return back to you with some kind of relief, or weight lifted off your shoulders.

You know I am probably writing all this because of me…ok yah I am…maybe I need to put these thoughts down on paper. I live in and out of my current housing…mostly out this last month…but yah I have been told to simply leave and that I am making things harder. But I am in one of those situations where it’s not all about me or her, or even the kids….it’s about doing it correctly and mostly ease into it. The economy is not helping out at all…looking for a rental is not cheap, considering the deposit, first months rent, electricity, phone, water, internet, etc. and not to mention the essential things in living such as a couch, a bed, plates etc…it all ads up and trying to do it while maintaining a house, and those expenses…it can over take your plans. Yah I could run out and let the courts work it out, but then that would affect too many people in the wrong way. And maybe that’s why I am writing this…to simply let me know that the time has come and that I seriously know I am not alone out there…others have gone through it and many more are going through it right now…so…how about we all together take that first step into that life experience changing “Decision”, whatever it maybe…we can all get through it. You know though I do have to say that they stinks…these decisions…that obviously change your life…wow.

My Perspective: Life always throws things at you, the outcome is always the same in whatever situation you are in, the road might be different getting there, but just like many have gone through them and made it…so can you or me for that matter. Just remember things, do, happen for a reason…make the best of it…we as humans have a desire to be happy, successful and survive, we can do it…I know so…just look back in history of mankind and look at your friends, cousins, family…it’s everywhere…it’s your time….it’s my time.

Good luck and stand strong, thanks for reading…till next time…Latino Man signing off.

The Big “B” Word (Birthday)

I get to celebrate; I guess what you would call an important event, my birth date. I could possibly see a few people wishing other wise, and you know sometimes I even feel that maybe this day shouldn’t have come. But all we can do is do the best we can with what we are given and jus hope for the better. Of course somewhere in there we do need to make an effort, so let me rephrase, to I celebrate my Birthday.
So, I come into work, and of course my desk is decorated with blues, reds and whites…you see I am a huge superman fan and of course very proud to be an American. So when I walk in it’s nice to see that people remember the important dates in someone life. You see lately I have been feeling a bit under…sort of like a mummy…all bandaged up with no sense of real direction…you get that “old” feeling…well at least I do. The thing is it’s really nice to see decoration and someone making a fuss over your birthday…since I really don’t get much from anyone else. Yah of course my kids wish me a happy birthday, and I truly appreciate it, but you know…I wish a little more fuss was made. I guess that came with the whole marriage thing…you know, you first meet, you both celebrate your birthdays with dinner, dancing, and some end with a passionate evening. Then the marriage things comes into play and you sort of forget everything and direct your energy to making ends meet, it’s actually horrible, but we must do what we must do. I know…yah ok…guys don’t like the fuss…yah that’s what they say, but you want the really truth…they like the fuss.
So anyhow, I am sitting here at work…looking at my decorations, and people walking by wishing me a happy birthday…you know some of them I don’t hear a word from the whole year except on my birthday, yet they sit right next to me…go figure. Anyhow, I do welcome the happy wishes and smiles; it’s nice to actually see a smile on some of these coworkers. And its nice to ever so often get a little conversation going about my age, you know…so your 21 again, how’s that retirement looking…little comments like that…makes for a brighter morning. So, as I was saying, I am sitting at my desk looking at the decorations and thinking to myself…am I where I want to be? I mean…I make a good living don’t get me wrong, but I feel some days that I am threading water…and I am getting nowhere fast. Time seems to be going past me…with each year that goes by I look back at the year that has past me and ask what I have done to get ahead. I don’t know, I am sure lots of people out there feel the same way, and of course lots of people out there are worst of than me…I know that.

The thing is I always had plans and goals since I was about 19 or 20. You see I went to all kinds of seminars on turn-key business; I have bought from those infamous –infomercials-, I have bought hundreds of books on trading stocks, commodities, I have ran a Vending Route, I am have my Real estate license, I have my Notary, I have several on-line business that I market and run, I have flipped notes, done the cash Flow business, I mean if you saw my closet you’d think I was a library of business. I have purchased books on all kinds of marketing techniques, from off line strategies to on-line strategies, to gorilla marketing, I could go on. Any how, so I am sitting at my desk and see everything I have tried, done and attempted and I still feel that I am threading water fast NO where. I honestly feel that I don’t get a break and each year that goes by I feel that I haven’t inch ahead at all.

I don’t know, you know…I am not a greedy person, at all, I only want what other people have succeed on, and I know it is possible…people do it everyday…work hard and follow a plan, steps which leads them, eventually, to wealth. I know it is possible. I just need for something to give. Once I find it I will put all my energy into it…and hope for some growth and a more prosperous future, not just for me, but my children. So, back to me sitting at my desk…I truly enjoy the fuss…I just hate the reminder that I need to see how I am doing on my goals.

I am looking at my writing and I think I am just blabbing…oh well, I am trying to get out my thoughts on this Birthday of mine. Anyhow…ok…so…where am I in regards to my goals and hopes for my future…well…not exactly where I would like to be, and I guess this economy is not helping me at all, it’s making things a lot tougher…you know the strategy needs to change…will see. So I guess what I will do like I do every year, is complain, kick and rage about my whole goal thingy and then I’ll just go back to my everyday life until next year.

My Perspective:
Don't let the years go by without looking to see if your are on schedule with your dreams, or in other words, your goals. There is nothing worng with dreaming of where you would like to be when you retire and we all know it takes some financial buidling agenda and yes i know today's economy is very tough and putting away for retirement is very difficult for many of us, but anything, anything at all is better than nothing. Jsut budget, reduce, cut, but look at where you are with your dreams / goals.

So, till next time, thanks for the lending ear, and remember keep on track on your goals don’t let the years go by without making sure you are on schedule.

Our Children Are Mirror Images of Us

The other day I was thinking about my son, he is 8 years old. Now, the thing is I really didn’t have a father when I was growing up. So trying to recall anything I could have learned from him as been a father figure, well that is out the window. The thing is my son has noticeably become more disobedient and ever so often, more than often, he is starting to lie. Now, don’t get me wrong the lies are not huge or devastation, but I would like to help stop it now before he gets older and it becomes more difficult to teach him, sort of speaking, regarding lying. Now, I understand that currently I am going through some marital problems and I pretty certain that some of the issues he is displaying are from that, but of course I do my best to explain things to him, I know he is only 8 years old and people have told me that that is the reason for his new attitude. The thing is…I don’t think that is the only reason and maybe it is difficult for me to determine what might be the cause taking the situation I am in, but I guess will never really know until possibly he gets older to find out what was all the ruckus about.

I honestly believe that our children are a mirror image of us; they mimic our actions, habits and values. Now the sad thing about this is, in my opinion, that as parents or better yet said, as adults we know we have certain unhealthy habits and we know that we would like for our children to be better people than us. You know the story, I use to have to walk for miles in the rain, snow to get to school and you get a ride. Yah ok, well that maybe true but of course times have change, technology has change and well our children are more technology savvy. Now, we provide, we teach, we encourage, we do many things for our children trying for them to be better than us. Many parents have a tendency to live through the children’s eyes, but I think that sometimes that creates many issues and frustration on the art f the children and of course the parent. What I am trying to say is that we know of our unhealthy habits, maybe exaggeration, and drama or lying and yet we teach those to our children.

Let me give you an example. I know a couple that directly lies to one child when the other child is doing something special and the other child is not included. The child getting that special occasion is told by the parents it is ok to lie to her sister, so as not to cause her to cry, etc…etc.…you know since she wasn’t invited. Now, they do this with each child, one has something going on and the other doesn’t so the parents proceed to tell that child that it is ok to lie so as not to hurt the other siblings feelings. The thing is that, the children start to believe that lying is ok; so they start to lie to other children and adults thinking it is ok to lie that to hurt someone’s feeling. The thing is that the lies, if left unchecked, begin to become made-up stories, or lies that can actually be dangerous or really hurt someone. So my thing is that if parents know, and I am sure they know, why do they do this? Parents say they want the best for their children and wish for them to be successful and a contributor to society, but if they have these habits and continue to teach them to their children then when does the cycle stop?

Why can’t we as parents and most importantly as adults see that our unhealthy habits should not be passes on to our children? I mean…I have a temper….but most of the time it is for absolutely good reason, anyhow am not justifying it. But when I get upset, really upset around my children I do my best and most of the time to show my children how to handle the anger. I will either count backwards starting from 10 and if it is something really big I start from 20, my son gets a kick out of it. Plus I do other things like if I am working on something I get upset or reading something; I step away and say out loud, “I’ll come back to that later”…you know defuse the situation. Little things that are child appropriate, but actually work. So I am trying to show my kids how to deal with different possible upsetting situation. Because you can only talk or lecture so much before any child, hey even some adults, will stop listening. I cold keep going with sample, and observations and I am so certain that many of parents are teaching or doing things that they prefer not to have their kids see or learn, yet they still do it and worse of all they get upset at their kids for doing what they do…I can’t comprehend that.

My Perspective:
Teach our children to really be better people than us. Stop before you react, make sure either your kids are not around or that you have a plan on how to deal with the situation, teach your kids good habits, teach your kids how to deal with the situation and not point fingers or react in anger. I know for some of us it is difficult to teach old dogs new tricks, but you know we are adults, we are for the most part intelligent, and I know that we all want what is best for our kids, it needs to start with you. The cycle needs to be broken, and don; use poverty, finances, marriage or anything else, because the way you handle all these things is the way your child will handle them…and if you step back and look at your reactions to those upsetting situations…you might be surprised that, man I look like that or I sounds like that or I did that…yah you did and your child will do it as well. So remember react properly or according to whom is watching, don’t smoke in front of your kids, don’t drink in front of your kids, don’t display anger towards your husband or wife in front of your kids, there is a time and place for everything…remember your child needs you to teach them the right way…the way you wish you can do…but are stick in those old habits. Your child will be a better, happier, more successful person when he grows up.

Thanks for reading till next time…Latino Man signing off.