The Big “B” Word (Birthday)

I get to celebrate; I guess what you would call an important event, my birth date. I could possibly see a few people wishing other wise, and you know sometimes I even feel that maybe this day shouldn’t have come. But all we can do is do the best we can with what we are given and jus hope for the better. Of course somewhere in there we do need to make an effort, so let me rephrase, to I celebrate my Birthday.
So, I come into work, and of course my desk is decorated with blues, reds and whites…you see I am a huge superman fan and of course very proud to be an American. So when I walk in it’s nice to see that people remember the important dates in someone life. You see lately I have been feeling a bit under…sort of like a mummy…all bandaged up with no sense of real direction…you get that “old” feeling…well at least I do. The thing is it’s really nice to see decoration and someone making a fuss over your birthday…since I really don’t get much from anyone else. Yah of course my kids wish me a happy birthday, and I truly appreciate it, but you know…I wish a little more fuss was made. I guess that came with the whole marriage thing…you know, you first meet, you both celebrate your birthdays with dinner, dancing, and some end with a passionate evening. Then the marriage things comes into play and you sort of forget everything and direct your energy to making ends meet, it’s actually horrible, but we must do what we must do. I know…yah ok…guys don’t like the fuss…yah that’s what they say, but you want the really truth…they like the fuss.
So anyhow, I am sitting here at work…looking at my decorations, and people walking by wishing me a happy birthday…you know some of them I don’t hear a word from the whole year except on my birthday, yet they sit right next to me…go figure. Anyhow, I do welcome the happy wishes and smiles; it’s nice to actually see a smile on some of these coworkers. And its nice to ever so often get a little conversation going about my age, you know…so your 21 again, how’s that retirement looking…little comments like that…makes for a brighter morning. So, as I was saying, I am sitting at my desk looking at the decorations and thinking to myself…am I where I want to be? I mean…I make a good living don’t get me wrong, but I feel some days that I am threading water…and I am getting nowhere fast. Time seems to be going past me…with each year that goes by I look back at the year that has past me and ask what I have done to get ahead. I don’t know, I am sure lots of people out there feel the same way, and of course lots of people out there are worst of than me…I know that.

The thing is I always had plans and goals since I was about 19 or 20. You see I went to all kinds of seminars on turn-key business; I have bought from those infamous –infomercials-, I have bought hundreds of books on trading stocks, commodities, I have ran a Vending Route, I am have my Real estate license, I have my Notary, I have several on-line business that I market and run, I have flipped notes, done the cash Flow business, I mean if you saw my closet you’d think I was a library of business. I have purchased books on all kinds of marketing techniques, from off line strategies to on-line strategies, to gorilla marketing, I could go on. Any how, so I am sitting at my desk and see everything I have tried, done and attempted and I still feel that I am threading water fast NO where. I honestly feel that I don’t get a break and each year that goes by I feel that I haven’t inch ahead at all.

I don’t know, you know…I am not a greedy person, at all, I only want what other people have succeed on, and I know it is possible…people do it everyday…work hard and follow a plan, steps which leads them, eventually, to wealth. I know it is possible. I just need for something to give. Once I find it I will put all my energy into it…and hope for some growth and a more prosperous future, not just for me, but my children. So, back to me sitting at my desk…I truly enjoy the fuss…I just hate the reminder that I need to see how I am doing on my goals.

I am looking at my writing and I think I am just blabbing…oh well, I am trying to get out my thoughts on this Birthday of mine. Anyhow…ok…so…where am I in regards to my goals and hopes for my future…well…not exactly where I would like to be, and I guess this economy is not helping me at all, it’s making things a lot tougher…you know the strategy needs to change…will see. So I guess what I will do like I do every year, is complain, kick and rage about my whole goal thingy and then I’ll just go back to my everyday life until next year.

My Perspective:
Don't let the years go by without looking to see if your are on schedule with your dreams, or in other words, your goals. There is nothing worng with dreaming of where you would like to be when you retire and we all know it takes some financial buidling agenda and yes i know today's economy is very tough and putting away for retirement is very difficult for many of us, but anything, anything at all is better than nothing. Jsut budget, reduce, cut, but look at where you are with your dreams / goals.

So, till next time, thanks for the lending ear, and remember keep on track on your goals don’t let the years go by without making sure you are on schedule.

My Dream Made Me Do It

Welcome once again to another post on “Not This Blog”. Wow, hope I am not starting to sound like Casey Kasem…lol. Ok, so this is an interesting topic having to do with dreams.

After along day, you finally get into a warm cozy bed with your partner, you exchange a kiss, say good night and turn off the lights. As you head into a deep sleep and you body is nice and relaxed…you begin to see a beautiful white sandy beach; your sitting down having a drink, enjoying the sun; seeing the people talking and the children playing and then you see this one incredibly hot looking babe in a bitsy-tiny white bikini walking towards, then she reaches and with a smile she says, “Hello” in a sultry voice. Your speechless, dumb-founded, all that came out of your mouth was a bunch or babble, so she laughs and sits down next to you…of course you can’t remove your eyes from her and then she says to you, “My name is Yolanda”, you think to your self…hmmm…yummy Yolanda, then you say to her, “oh nice to meet you Yolanda”, she giggles and then leans towards you and whispers in your ear…”Who in the hell is Yolanda” and then you feel a hard slap in the head and the next thing you know your next to your partner, who at the moment is boiling hot, hands crossed in front of her…breathing hard. Once again the question is blurted out, “Who is Yolanda…or Yummy Yolanda”. Your not sure what is going on…your confused…your head hurts from the dream and the smack, so you blurt out the only thing that comes to mind, “WHO”.

Then your dearest says, “What do you mean WHO, Yolanda, the woman you called out while you were sleeping and called Yummy (sarcastically)”. So at this point you start remember parts of the dream and of course the white bikini pokes you in the ribs. At this point you don’t know what to say, and of course being a man…the only thing that comes out is, “Ahhh come on…it was only a dream…it doesn’t mean anything…I don’t know any Yolanda…go back to sleep. So you roll over and throw the covers over you and hope that your dearest does the same thing. “Hmmm”, she says and turns off the lights and lays down…of course she mumbles loud enough for you to hear, “This isn’t over yet…We’ll talk about this in the morning”.

So, I am wondering how many of you have had something like this happen to you or your love one. You know, having a dream about someone else and then mentioning the name while you sleep. I have seeing quite a few relationships broken up for things like this. So, the thing is…is it right for a love one to get upset over a dream? I mean, in many cultures dreams are taken seriously because it could have some meaning behind them. I know a few people that have to run out and look up to see what their dream meant. If you look at medical studies, or topics on dreams, it seems that dreams are manifested…ok big word…dreams come from real life experiences that have possibly impacted your day. People believe that, if you had a dramatic/impacting experience throughout the day, such as stress or excitement that can lead to a dream. I don’t know…the thing is…sometimes relationships get into trouble…because of a dream.

“What are your thoughts…have you had this happen to you, please share.”

My Perspective:
I think there is some truth behind a connection between your daily experiences and dreams. You see I recall several month ago I was having trouble sleeping…I kept having these vivid dreams…sort of scary…I kept seeing shadows.and they felt so real…so I would jump out of bed sweating. This went on for several months and I kept mentioning to my dearest that I feel something is wrong.I can’t put my finger on it…she actually didn’t say a thing…sort of brushed it off...oh well. Anyhow, I have been under a lot of pressure…my life can really get busy at times…well actually all the time it’s a crazy day. Anyhow, back to my dreams or shadows; so I kept having bad, sleepless nights and I seriously was getting tired of…comical is-in-it…so I decides to look to see what might be the cause…so I started to pay more attention to my days…to see what might be triggering these shadows that are causing me to wake up in the middle of the night sweating. So let me tell you what I finally found out the cause…I think you’ll find this interesting. One day as I was getting home from work…I ran into a neighbor…we exchanged pleasantries and went on our separate ways. Now, let me tell you this guy is over 6’7” maybe taller…he is a giant. So, anyhow…that night once again as I was sleeping I had another site of a shadow…but this time I didn’t jump up or get scared…I stared at the shadow and got a shape out of it…so you know what shape it was…it was a tall, thin shape…when I looked closer I saw the shape of my neighbor…sure enough at that moment the shadow disappeared and I went back to sleep…restful. Now I didn’t have an argument with my neighbor…I realized that all my shadows where the last (impressive) image I had seen for the day. As I look back I finally started remember the other shadows I was seeing. So, I released that my stressful days together with the last impressive thing I saw was giving me nightmares (sort of speaking). So what I am doing now before I go to sleep, I wind-down, relax, take my mind some where else…this may sound corny, but it works for me and now I actually sleep through the night. Ok let me rephrase that…I have a new born…so sleep is not an options, but at l4east I got past my shadowy nights. So, I think there is some connection between your everyday experiences and dreams.

Thanks for reading and until next time, sleep well.