Same ‘O Same ‘O– Communication

This is an interesting topic and one that still baffles me is the thing about intimacy and communication. Yah we read and hear and people tells us always that “Communication” is an important factor in a relationship and most importantly in the intimacy of the relationship. The thing is that no one really does it or most people really only say it but never follow through.

Now, when you first meet someone people always try and please the other person, and pretty much only worry about there needs, wants and well everything, but they really never think about their own needs, which in fact are important in the relationship because if you are not feeling it, then it will show through and your better half will eventually notice. This will bring, angry, resentment, among other feelings that will or could eventually lead to a breakup. This all could have been resolved with some simply communication – right up front – when you first meet or better said when you first are intimate.

Now, the thing is that we all know that hardly ever happens, meaning that two people communicate about anything, so we end up seeing couples that have been together for years, even decades and they have the same issue…you can tell that neither individual is happy with the relationship but yet they stay together. Does that make us creatures of habit? I think many of us if not all of us, including myself, when we settle in and get comfortable we sort of stay there whether it is bad or good. I don’t know the thing is, maybe there are some individuals that can communicate what they need or want, but I think the majority of us don’t have real good listening skills…or we simply just don’t listen.

So why do we see articles on this and why does every one tell their friends and love ones that listening is important in any relationship and in all aspect of the relationship…yet they don’t follow their own advice. Now with all that said, if there are issues any part of your relationship, seriously, please talk to your partner. Whether it is about money, which we all know it is a very touchy subject and many times could lead to huge fights, but if you can learn to talk about it, maybe you both can come to an agreement. Now if it has to do with household chores, talk about it, if any one of you feels that you are doing more then talk. Another thing that I saw worked is trade chores, between man and women, such as cooking, cleaning, and such as mowing the lawn, pruning the trees, fixing the computer, etc. Sometimes seeing what the other person does will shed a light on the whole chore thing. But you know what the best piece of advice that I can give in regards to household chores or family life…is ask for HELP…simply ask your significant other to do something in particular, you will be amazed that if you ask nicely they will be glad to do it

The whole communication thingy in relationships seems to only work if the two people involved do it together, any other way does not work and will more than likely lead to problems.

But back to the intimacy thingy, which I find to be a very important part of any relationship, because intimacy not only is good sexually, but emotionally it has its affects…it brings people together, if you communicate. And if you think about it, intimacy is when everyone is most vulnerable and usually let go of their inhibitions. So if you want it to be a certain way or you like it a certain way…they tell them. You are just as important or better said you should be satisfied sexually as much as the other person, and believe if you are a women, guys want to make their women happy…and they – we – men - will listen, believe me…we will. So guys and gals, talk, tell each other what you like and it will be great.

Heck…I probably blogged about this same topic a million times, but everyday as I wake up and go to work, go to the gym go to the store or just go out…I see that people never really communicate about anything and nothing ever gets resolved, it saddens me…to see our society go “Texting”, emailing and never physically talking anymore.

My perspective:
Communication has been an essential part of any relationship, lovers, friends, family, and yet it is so hard for anyone of us to do, yet it can seriously fix a lot of personal problems or at least clear them up…so do it. The next time you are intimate with your significant other and there is something she or he is not doing right or maybe they are doing right, let them know. It will be great for you and them and everyone will be happy. Talk don’t yell, breath don’t hyper-ventilate, listen – really listen and say good morning, afternoon or evening instead of texting.

Thanks for reading till next time Latino Man signing off.

Office “Wife” or “Husband”



You know I think this topic has to be extremely common and one that I am certain others are going through or have gone through. You see many of us work in an office environment or restaurant or anywhere that we would intermingle with people. Now, since we spent a very large amount of our day at work it is very common that we end up with some close friends or at it is commonly known as, Work Husband” or “Work Wife”. These are people that well act like your spouses but are not really married and most of the time it is done out of fun.

These individuals usually just give you crap but when you think about it, sometimes they borrow money, a buck here a buck there or when happy hours come along you buy them a drink or share in your appetizers. The biggest thing is sometimes these types of relationships go a bit beyond and we end up sharing intimate things with them that we use to share with our spouses but no longer do. On many occasions these types of harmless acting can lead to some kind of relationship that could well you get my point.

The thing is I ask myself why does this happen? Is it that marriage or relationships become monotone…for a better word? I mean when you first meet someone there was that extreme chemistry, lust, attraction and well it seemed that you were both meant to be, so then why after say 5-7 years does it become monotone? I am not making excuses I am trying to see why things like this happen and if we see the signs, why doesn’t anyone of the two try and change things.Well wait…let me rephrase that. There is always one in a relationship that tries and makes things better, but it takes the both of you to make it work. So why let it go there. Is it possible that the one that does not try…simply not interested anymore and doesn’t know how to tell the other and well waits for something crazy and stupid for the other to do…it sort of sounds like the one that doesn’t care anymore simply washing there hands to the relationship.

I don’t know, but the reason I am bringing this up is well…I have been in this company for nearly 7 years, now I am married…times are tough but I am sure I am not the only one. The thing is…and I say this liberally…there is a woman at work that as funny as it sounds…I like her voice. Now, to say the least, she is very pretty…cute pretty and she seems to be a down to earth fun person. Someone you can joke with, and probably a woman that you can sit with and watch a sport and have a cold one. Now, I don’t really talk to her, its one of those hi and bye things, but once in a while we chat a little. She is married and has two children, like me…and when exchange pleasantries about our children…nothing more. But, the thing is lately and I am not the only one to notice…she has begun dressing very nice…very eye catching…nice…you know what I mean guys and some ladies. And well…I think she is hot…straight up.

Now, like I said she is married and so am I, but what happens with other people that maybe fall in this area…they sometimes pursue the relationship and well things happen…but why. Shouldn’t people in relationships tell the other that they are done trying and they need to move on…before being infidel? Why leave a relationship as the bad person, because the excuse that she or he made me do it…well doesn’t cut it. So why not break it off clean and move one clean?

So, how many relationships start in the office, probably a lot more than anyone knows and how many of those new relationships break up other relationships? Sometimes I wonder if the cycle continues with those new relationships…scary. Well…I wanted to bring this up because I hoping to see if get any comments regarding this post. I wanted to bring this up because I was thinking about that women in my office….she started to dress very nice…is that a sign that maybe her marriage is on the rocks? I don’t know but with my experience and what I hear and see…it surely does.

So, if we all know that these types of things could happen in a relationship…then why do we let it get to that point? My theory is that there are two kinds of people in a relationship, the one that move the relationship and the one that follows. Usually the one that follows gets bored and wishes to move on but has no clue on how to communicate that to their significant other. So, two things happen. The one that move the relationship ends up doing something stupid or the one that doesn’t do a thing just lives with it. Then two things could happen with that relationship, either it is a bad break up (sometimes good) or the relationship remains and drags on till death do them apart.

My Perspective:

Communication is the most important thing in a relationship…for those that can communicate…you might have to do it for the both of you, but do it. Don’t end up doing something stupid that you might regret…a few simple words can make things better, maybe not right away but I can truly believe that taking the time to talk and break it off will eliminate a huge headache or pain that could last longer than the words. So if your significant other doesn’t talk and the signs are there…do you and the other a favor…talk? Now, I know times are tough and trying to start fresh on your own, specially with kids can be a financial obstacle, but if you see the signs, start saving money on the side and prepare your self…you can do it yah maybe you won’t have that 50 inch TV or nice back yard to BBQ, but you’ll be a better person for it and so will your significant other…not to mention any kids that maybe involved because believe me they know when mom & dad are not getting along…they maybe young and inexperience, but love is love and when it is not there…they know it.

Thanks for reading and till next time…remember communication is it. Latino Man signing off.

When You 1^st Meet – What To Talk About?

You know I was sitting in my truck the other day during lunch and I was just looking out the window looking at the clouds get darker and the wind pick, but what was interesting was that and a few couples or better said people…man and women, probably not yet together, you know the first stage of meeting and getting to know one another. Well, I was thinking to myself, I remember when I was first out on the scene you know dating or playing the field sort of speaking, but anyhow…so I remember that when I first approached a women, I thought to myself what in the heck am I going to say to her. Of course you always hear about the famous pickup lines, but I could never bring myself to using any of them. I thought well to be honest I thought they were stupid and when I got together with some my friends we talked about them and could not believe that they sometimes worked, whether the line actually worked or the women thought it was so cute or well pathetic that they obviously had to talk to the guy. Anyhow, so I never used the lines and well a large percentage of the times I tried…well it did not go well.

I was shot down; the thing is I always started out with either a hello, what’s your name or in some clubs I would ask them to dance. Now, the thing is I started thinking what actually works in order for anyone to actually meet someone, but not just meet, but keep the conversation going. I guess when I thought about it, it actually never came down to what the pick up line was, but actually of the individual, girl/guy, liked you. You see, I really don’t care what anyone says, the first thing that brings your attention to someone is their Looks, of course everyone has different flavors, but there is something that you will find attractive about the person before you even begin to talk to them.

So I believe that first you need to attract someone; then once you do approach them and they find you attractive they will allow the conversation to continue, whether you gave a corky pickup line or not. So this hwole thing about what should I say, really should not concern you, because either case what ever you say, it really comes down to you attracting someone, from there everything else falls in place.

So, as I go back and look at some of these couple walking around the office building, I say to myself, they found each other attracted and they began their courtship. Because looking at the couples, there were all flavors, some that would make you think, that everyone has there other half, but you know what the real thing is that everyone has a different flavor; for example some guys like them big, some like them tall, some short some dark hair, etc…but whether the guys looks totally hot to you and he is walking around with a big lady…don’t wonder why she got him, instead tell yourself that that is his flavor.

Hey I am just throwing that theory out, but when I think about it, and I talk to friends, colleagues, strangers, I think back and recall always hearing that they remember her or him looking hot walking into the club, or store or whatever…but the physical attraction was the key component in I believe 95% of al relationships…think about it…what made you talk to that boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. I could talk for most guys, usually it was some physical attribute…plain and simple…don’t deny guys…you know it and I know it.

My Perspective:
The next time you are out clubbing or looking for love and you walk up to that guy or gal and they shoot you down, don’t take it personally because it isn’t you, it’s them…because they are attracted to another flavor and eventually you will…after much tasting…find your flavor. Be Safe, Be Adventures, and always remember things will get better. Thanks for reading Latino Man signing Off.

Married – Living Separately
You know I wanted to touch on this subject, and while doing some research…you know…looking around the internet at forums, tweets, etc, I come to find out that this is a norm, I mean even back when my parents were around, the thing is that back then no body knew your business or they didn’t have Face Book or Tweeter…to share your stuff.
The thing is that marriage is so different, I mean well…since people are more open about their marriage you start finding out things about what couples go through within their marriage, the good and the bad. The thing that drives me crazy is that even though we know these things happen in marriages, it seems that individuals don’t really try and make certain it doesn’t happen to their marriage. What I am talking  about is the whole intimacy and closes couples had before they got married…remember you would talk on the phone for hours, hold hands while walking down the street and well talk. Nowadays after getting married that all goes out the window…maybe not right away, but it eventually does. Couples stop talking because of kids, their busy schedule, etc. and the relationship becomes more of just being Roommates. You say hello on your way out the door or when you go to a birthday party. I remember asking a couple that had been married for 25 years what their secret was, you know what they both said, without missing a beat, they sleep in separate rooms…go figure.
So why has marriage come to this? Why is there a need to sleep in separate rooms? Why would you prefer to use the guest bathroom, what happen to those intimate showers, the laughter, the glass of wine or beer while talking about…who knows what you talked about…you just did. I mean it probably has been like this for as long as anyone would care to talk about, but why do we allow it to get to that point. I mean I think there has to be something that would allow either the Man or Woman to stay attracted to one another. Because beside been finances one of the major issues in a marriage, so is intimacy. So, for finances I will talk about that in a minute, but for the intimacy, as adults, which I hope we are, we should be able to focus on each other and what attracts us to one another, then make sure to point those things out to each other and then make the necessary adjustments. Now, wait, when you point those things out the person that delivers needs to make certain to do so appropriately, and the person receiving the suggestion should take it as exactly that a suggestion that will keep your marriage flaring…both need to work together.

Now, let me give my opinion about finances and marriage, ok, since I was a kid and now in 2011, married couples have had there own separate bank accounts, why, simple, as long as the bills, are paid, the children are taken care and you have money for retirement, then if each one has a separate account to buy other items, maybe due their hair, buy that new power drill whatever the case may be, I think there is nothing wrong with it. The problems start when bills start falling short, there is no savings towards retirement, and when there is no unity in the finances…then of course there begins to be doubt and with doubt…grows anger…which can lead to discontent, divorce or separation.
I think it is healthy to each have a bank account, it allows for independence, a sense of individuality, something that now-a-days makes people feel empowered. So, I still think that intimacy is a HUGE issue in married couples, and no just because I am a guy I am stating this, I have actually heard this from girl-friends, sister-n-laws and well doing a little research on the net, women have wonder why their man find the need for him to go else where. So it’s not my deal, but I believe it is a very important part of marriage, well a healthy marriage.
So I ask, why does that happen…when does that lust go away…you heard of the 7-year itch, well not sure if you have heard but that is not a 5-year itch can you believe that  does marriage have less of a chance to make it during the first 5 years. I know that they said making it through your first year usually is a great sign, but well, yah that first year can be hell, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll have a happy marriage…and it could become a “Roommate” style marriage.
My Perspective:
Communication as I have always said is importantly in a marriage or even a couple. Yah you can try and talk to your significant other, but that doesn’t mean they will listen or maybe they will listen but they really won’t do anything about it. So you’re right back at where you started. But if you at least give it a try, then you can move on and dissolve the marriage and at least you’ll know you tried and of course eventually you will find one person that wants what you want and you’ll make it work out. Don’t sleep in separate rooms, don’t separate your lives because only discontent will grow in its place and you’ll be miserable, which will show in your life, work and friends. Communicate, or try at least…everyone’s life has enough to deal with…without having to be miserable. Till next time, thanks for reading, listening and hope to see some comments, but for now, take care, talk and if that doesn’t work move on…life is precious and I am sure we all have enough headaches with our everyday lives to have to come home to one more.

Adding Spice to Your Marriage Sans The Extra Marital "Spice"
by Kevin, 13 hours ago

Variety helps a relationship move forward and helps keep it interesting. A woman can add variety to a relationship through various means. She should also be aware of the various ways to turn on the man. Find some useful tips here.

It’s a fact that men are more prone to boredom than women. This fact could spell disaster in the bedroom if a woman is not careful. If they can give a man variety in a relationship, there is nothing like it. Women could start off, by learning about the man’s anatomy and how to go about stimulating its various parts to stimulate him to a state of arousal. Don’t think that a man’s anatomy is only about his penis. It’s much more than that. By knowing these parts, doesn’t mean reading about them. Knowing, in this case is about knowing how to caress, lick and kiss in the right places.

Couples, relationship and boredom
A relationship needs its share of spice to keep afloat. If there is no spice, the relationship becomes monotonous. A couple can soon become bored of such a relationship and boredom is the silent killer of a relationship. A small amount of boredom is acceptable as one can’t bring variety in a relationship all the time. If a couple does not find the relationship interesting enough, they see no point in going forward with it. The trick is to keep adding a bit of interest quotient now and then. Both the man, as well as, the woman in the relationship, are responsible for it and should try making it exciting by adding some fun now and then to the proceedings.

Variety - Why is it needed?
Variety is the spice of life. This is true for a relationship, as well. Variety is an important facet of relationship. Variety could come in many forms and can also be a part of your sexual activity. A woman should know how to turn her man on, and use this knowledge to spice up the relationship. All good things come in small packages, so should variety in sex. Much as it is important to know the turn ons for a man, it is even more important to know the turn offs. If a woman adds variety, there is no doubt that the man will come to appreciate her better and will never want to let go of her. Variety can be regarded as the foundation of a healthy and a successful relationship. It’s the fuel that propels the relationship ahead.

Tip 1: The role of a caring mother
One way of adding variety is by adopting the role of nurturing mother. You must assume the role of somebody who actually cares for him and wants him to be happy at all times. Take care of him when he is sick, make sure that he is well taken care of, and be there when he needs you. Being a mother is all about being confident of your role as a woman in his life. Men find this kind of confidence sexy.

Tip 2: The little girl
The little girl needs her daddy! Make him feel wanted and needed. Most men need to feel like a hero and your little girl approach will make him feel like the most important person of your life. You can also get naughty at times, especially in the bedroom. Of course, using the little girl approach doesn’t mean letting go of all the responsibilities, but it’s about having some fun with your man. Say he likes baseball; hang out with him when he is watching the game. The little girl needs to take interest in her man’s hobbies.

Tip 3: The seductive lover
Every man loves a seductive lover; somebody who is uninhibited and knows just how to arouse and satisfy him. She can heat things up for him and give him some unforgettable sexual experiences. By not being inhibited, it will give you an opportunity to try new thing together with your partner. It could include role playing, enacting your most private fantasies, giving the man quickies and of course, oral sex.

Turn on your man - Tips
It doesn’t take much to turn on the man. But this doesn’t mean that you don’t make an effort turn him on. Here are a few pointers that can help you turn him on:

• Through communication. You need to be able to tell him what you need and what he wants
• Initiate a sexual adventure. Identify some exciting locations for having sex surprise him by seducing him, when he least expects it
• Men will definitely be turned on by a woman masturbating for him
• Sexy apparel, especially lingerie is a surefire turn on for a man
• Initiate an erotic conversation with him. If he likes talking dirty, talk dirty for him

It’s a process
Infusing variety in a relationship is a process. It’s not necessary that a man will appreciate it the first time that you try it. He might or might not like it. Patience is the key here, as a bit of trial and error will help you get the perfect mix of variety.

My erspective:
I enjoy writing, I do it all day long at work, well maybe not this exciting, but I do. Now, as I think about my topics i also do quite a bit of research and see what other's think about it, and believe me when I say there is a lot of people out there thinking the same way I do. So I find these articles and think to myself, self, why not share these since they represent a bit of what I think. Now, I do not want to change them, common courtesy, so I need to give my perspective at the end and cover the areas I think hit closes to me.

Anyhow, I might sound like a broken record, but I am always on the whole subject of communication, but you know, I thought that this article hit an area I honestly believe needs to be kept up in any relationship. Need to keep the "Spice", need to keep it interesting. Yah some of us loose interest, but you know, if you just open up your mind and allow your self to let loose and imagine the things that would turn you on, then do it; I am sure that your love one will be more than happy to oblige. Now, keep it within reason and before doing anything crazy, make sure you BOTH talk about it before adventuring out and doing it, OK. Surprises are fun, but if one really doesn't like it, then it more than likely will flop, so keep those open lines of communication between the two of you.

Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing off.

How Soon is Too Soon to Have Sex?
Editor by Liz Brody, Shine Staff, on Wed Apr 14, 2010 4:29pm PDT

"Benefits" used to mean life insurance and 401Ks. Now it means sex.

And, yes, Friends With Benefits is so much more fun than actuaries. But here's the question: If he's a friend, and you're, the benefit—or visa versa, or either way—will it go anywhere? I guess what I mean is, if you like him, will you ruin things by being just a benefit rather than the investment? When Elaine tried it back in the Seinfeld days with Jerry, the whole thing was a big nada, nada, nada.

Anthony Paik, PhD, a sociologist at the University of Iowa, set out to answer that question in his new study. Using 1995 data on 783 adults ages 18 to 60, Paik found that one out of five had gotten together with their most recent partner via friends-with-benefits or hook-up sex. He also found that these weren't particularly faithful couplings. "For women, if you start with casual sex, there's a 44 percent higher chance you'll end up in a non-exclusive relationship in comparison to those who start out in a serious relationship," says Paik. By that he means that you'll have multiple lovers; your partner is even more likely (48 percent) to cat around. Jumping into bed within the first week of meeting a guy similarly predicted a non-monogamous future.

Mind you, this is data from 1995. Today, supposedly, FWBs and hookups are even more rampant. And if drive-through sex is not the best route to the altar, as Paik's study suggests, you can just see the writing on the spreadsheet.... husbands going the way of pay phones, Father Knows Best returns as The Orgy Bunch, the whole, sad, "demise of dating," as one New York Times op-ed put it...

"I don't agree."
Hello? That's Helen Fisher, PhD, on the line. One of the best-known love scientists around (and a biological anthropologist at Rutgers), she's written five books on the subject, the last of which is called Why Him? Why Her?

So why, then, doesn't she agree?

THE WHOLE HOOKUP HYSTERIA: It's ridiculous, Fisher sighs. First of all, people have been hooking up for millions of years as a way of starting long-term relationships. "I'm doing a research project myself now with a graduate student at SUNY, Binghamton," she says, "and he has asked 551 college students why they initiated a hookup. Half of the women and 52 percent of the men said they went into it hoping to trigger a longer relationship. And one third of them succeeded."

THE ONE NIGHT STAND: Fisher explains that any kind of sexual stimulation drives up dopamine in the brain. And dopamine is associated with feelings of romantic love. On top of that, orgasm releases hormones that cause attachment. And then there's the learning curve, or curves as the case may be: "You learn a HUGE amount about somebody when you to sleep with him—just a kiss activates 5 of the 12 cranial nerves," she says referring to the senses. "You see his body, feel his rhythms, discover whether he cares enough for you to listen to your needs."

AN IMPORTANT ASIDE: Condoms, ladies.

BACK TO COURTSHIP: "Basically," Fisher says, "there are two ways to get the boy. Either you bed him right away and try to jump-start these brain systems for romantic love and attachment. Or you spend you spend a lot of time getting to know him and hope you can trigger those systems in other ways; then sleep with him. Each one works."

BOTTOM LINE: As a scientist and girlfriend, what does she suggest? "I've tried both," she tells me, laughing, pointing out that in a FWB situation one partner is probably wishing it will turn into something. "You really have to go with your gut. But personally, I think it's wise to wait a few dates. Get to know him a little. Make sure he won't just dump you. And make sure you actually like him. Something happens in the brain when you sleep with someone. Having sex is playing with fire. You could fall in love."

My Perspective:
This is interesting, you see I could definitely give you my opinion and it may sound exactly like a "Guy", but you know, I think if you are two adults, that understand each other completely, are smart, and keep the communication lines open, mutual encounters aren't so bad, because in the end, if the communication is there, then the sex will only be the icing on the cake, and come on...how many of you out there honestly can't say that once you reach orgasm with that someone...it doesn't feel out of this world. I am only saying, it may not be right, it feels right, but as along as the communication is there...there is nothing wrong as far as I could see.

Latino Man signing off, till next time...thanks for reading till next time.

Do Women Today Like the Courtship – Flowers, Love Notes, Opening the Door?

This might be a totally weird topic, and honestly ‘Chivalry’ should not be dead, but I wanted to find out because I had a friend of mine (woman) tell me that she really doesn’t need a guy to open the doors for her, pick-up the check, send her flowers, leave little love notes…she actually said yuk to that. So I wanted to ask and see the responses I got. It seems that there are a lot of women out there that are so independent that the need for Chivalry is not part of there thoughts. Now, this might be contracting but interesting…women look for stability, financially and mentally. They look for kindness, but not in the form of opening the door, picking up the check or leaving love notes, they want a man to be kind towards them in the form of, listening, sharing, having the same values and having somewhat the same overall goal of being stable in their golden years. They want a man not to buy flowers, but to teach their children how to grow flowers, they don’t look for fancy jewelry, but things that will make there lives more efficient. They want a man not to leave love notes, but to be there and tell them in person what they feel, of course any women would love to receive gifts, flowers, but not at the cost of there relationship. Flowers come and go, but communication can die and a lot of times it does. Men feel that flowers can solve all problems, but they don’t.
I was interested in finding out that a lot of the women I talked to prefer to talk to there man, they feel no need to spend hundreds of dollars on things that are not important as there family is. The economy is tough today and couples have hunkered down on there spending…and many couples have come to enjoy more communication today as they did when they first met. Many women don’t need all that courtship, then prefer to have a man true to there relationship, concentrating on there future together…ok yah maybe when you first meet its not all about getting marriage, settling down, but we all look for some stability and courtship is great…but if there is nothing behind it…no solid desire to be together..then it’s simply a courtship…of gifts and material things and never a commitment.

So I was surprised that many women don’t need all the things that come with be a Chivalry man, but a few qualities and the stability would do just fine. So the next time you think about giving flowers, maybe you should plant a few for your home so that you both nourish it to growth as your relationship, the next time you think of leaving a little note, why not tell her in person, the next time you think about going out for dinner, why don’t you cook for her. There is nothing wrong with buying her things, giving her flowers, leaving her notes, but when that’s all it becomes….then the relationship looses the bond, the connection, the communication.

My Perspective:
As I said before, it’s all up to the individual. Each person is different and each culture is different. I think if you both “communicate” before hand or during the time you are getting to know each other, whether it is courtship or friendship, if you talk about it, then there won’t be any misunderstandings…communication…I am telling you…it is the vital ingriedient in any relationship. As for, I try my best to listen and watch the other person reactions; I like to open doors pick up the check, but if I noticed that maybe it bothers her, then I ask if she is ok with it…communicate…and if she smiles and enjoys the attention then I know its ok. You need to listen, and watch to people give out body language to different situations, sometimes they don’t notice and maybe you don’t either, but if you communicate there won’t be any misunderstanding. Imagine, if you learn to talk early in your relationship and make it a habit, part of your lives, I am sure it will make a huge difference in your future lives together, if there is one. Always be a gentlemen, but watch for the body language and talk…men…there isn’t anything wrong with talking.

This was a great topic I hope to see some comments…till next time.