Is Anyone There?

You know the other day I was talking to a friend of mine and it was weird, because I really don’t know the person that well, but we are friends. Anyways, we were just talking about the economy and the stock market and other things and during the conversation he brings this up to me. He says, hey Latino Man, well that’s not what he said, but he says, ”how long you’ve been married?”, I was taken back a little, since the weird thing is...I have been going through some issues in my marriage, those that well are not that good and anyhow I blurted out almost 13 years. He then asks me if my significant other talks to me; well that was weird…I wasn’t sure how to answer and well joking around I says, “Not much” and started to laugh. Well at that moment there was a brief silence, you know that weird silence. I told him why the question, he says, well you know I have been married a little over 5 years and I noticed that we just don’t talk anymore….weird I know he says but actually when I talk she doesn’t listen. I saw the frustration in his eyes or maybe more of a worried look, but I says to him, you know the truth we really don’t talk much. The only real conversation we have is about our kids or this may sound weird, but we talk about EQII or better said she talks. He looks at me and says what's…EQII…what’s that? So I explained that it was an online game that we…or better said she has been playing for the past 5 years. And he started laughing and said wow…ok you win. So we both just laughed.

Now, as we continued our conversation he mentions that he wishes they never got married and stayed friends, because they had so much more fun as friends and they talked about everything and anything. He remembers staying up late at night talking to her either in person or on the phone, but they just talked, lots of laughter, special words, a stolen caress…you know. Well, I told him, we get older and at some point for some reason we decide to start a family, you know we think about sharing all the fun things we talked about, the special moments we have, not just with that person but with little people, our kids. But you know I said, it's weird but for many couples that goes away after marriage…I says to him…and to be honest I don’t know why. He mumbles something and says…yah…I don’t know why either. We began talking about our kids, he has a 9 month old and is seriously proud…well…I can’t imagine one dad out there that doesn’t get that funny felling about there first born…yah we brag. But he then says something weird, but it made sense…in someway. He says, you know, maybe people should NOT get married, you know, just live together and have kids…I thinks, he says, it could be that darn “I do” that kills everything, maybe people feel locked or cornered and once the years go by they start living in there own little world just to get by each day…they might care but they are not really there anymore, I just looked at him and nodded my head…hmm you might have something there.

I mention to him that the other day I was trying to talk about something and my significant other just read a magazine and nodded as I spoke…I stopped talking and disappeared into another room. Later that night when everyone was saying there good nights…she says, hey were you not saying something or other…I mumbled and said, “nothing important” and walked away. Long story but I am having some issues in my marriage, something I could touch on later. Anyhow, so it was time to head out and we said our goodbye's…as he walked to his car and just before he got there…he says, could you not mention this to anyone…I grinned and said of course…then he says…hey you up for some coffee tomorrow…I grinned again and said of course.

So why is it that so many marriages or couples just stop talking, weird, but the other day I was talking to a lady friend of mine and I think that was the most I have spoken to someone in years and you know the funny thing…she listened…and that really made me feel good. Anyhow, I think that most women have a misconception of men, yah we might be horn dogs but when it comes down to it…we like someone to listen to what we have to say…I mean really listen…lol. Ok, well I wanted to share that with you before I forgot.

Thanks for reading and please stop by again, I am starting to do some Pod casts, you can get to them by navigating to the right top corner of your screen where you’ll see the links.

Latino Man signing off…till next time…"listen closely you might be amazed at what you hear”.