Pick Up Lines - Dating

You know I always wonder this whole thing about pickup lines, you know things guys or gals say to the person they like in order to pick them up. Now, when I was on the dating scene I really wasn’t all that good on approaching women, especially coming up with a witty line to pick them up. Most of the time I would scope the place and if I came across one that we had eye contact, and she smiled, well I moved in, well wait, I didn’t move in right away, I would look again and make sure it was me and then move in.

My conversation usually consisted of “Do you come here often”, “Do you live here in San Diego”, etc. simply and many times I usually only got a “Yes” or “No”, of course other times they would extend the response and we would hit it off. But I would sometimes hear some of the guys come up to say a women that happen to be sitting next to me and MAN I said to myself they actually say those things…Now the women sometimes would laugh and talk to the guy, but most of the time if there was another women in the group they would tell the guy to bug off. Then they would talk amongst themselves saying, “Can you believe that guy, what a clown”.

Anyhow, the whole dating thing sometimes drive me bananas, especially hearing the younger generation talk about it, how hard it is and the new ways that they are dating or meeting. The whole Internet social networks such as Face Book or Twitter and others…people no longer meet face to face and instead look for it online…if you think about the rate this is becoming more common, in a decade or so, we will no longer have to physically meet people, just go online and select what you want from a menu and Bam…there is your ideal mate….ready for delivery.

Anyhow, I think about it and with all the social networks and the different generation of kids dating, it seems that it really has become a society where people simply look on line…now…not all countries…there many that don’t have this new easily accessible internet and their traditions are still in-tact. People’s lives haven’t change and when you think about it…we simply say that they are third world countries and they are behind the times. When in fact…if you think about it…I think we are going with the times, which is not all bad, but how far do we take it and how much of it is taken by our personal lives…technology seems to take over every aspect of it and we tend to loose our selves

My Perspective:
Dating has become a thing of the past, Online Social Dating is in…but don’t go to a country where Internet is not as accessible, because you’ll be force to use your Mouth and words and it might not work for you. Pickup lines now include, are you on FaceBook…yah…and to think what sort of values do we have if we never really talk.

Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing off.

Same ‘O Same ‘O– Communication

This is an interesting topic and one that still baffles me is the thing about intimacy and communication. Yah we read and hear and people tells us always that “Communication” is an important factor in a relationship and most importantly in the intimacy of the relationship. The thing is that no one really does it or most people really only say it but never follow through.

Now, when you first meet someone people always try and please the other person, and pretty much only worry about there needs, wants and well everything, but they really never think about their own needs, which in fact are important in the relationship because if you are not feeling it, then it will show through and your better half will eventually notice. This will bring, angry, resentment, among other feelings that will or could eventually lead to a breakup. This all could have been resolved with some simply communication – right up front – when you first meet or better said when you first are intimate.

Now, the thing is that we all know that hardly ever happens, meaning that two people communicate about anything, so we end up seeing couples that have been together for years, even decades and they have the same issue…you can tell that neither individual is happy with the relationship but yet they stay together. Does that make us creatures of habit? I think many of us if not all of us, including myself, when we settle in and get comfortable we sort of stay there whether it is bad or good. I don’t know the thing is, maybe there are some individuals that can communicate what they need or want, but I think the majority of us don’t have real good listening skills…or we simply just don’t listen.

So why do we see articles on this and why does every one tell their friends and love ones that listening is important in any relationship and in all aspect of the relationship…yet they don’t follow their own advice. Now with all that said, if there are issues any part of your relationship, seriously, please talk to your partner. Whether it is about money, which we all know it is a very touchy subject and many times could lead to huge fights, but if you can learn to talk about it, maybe you both can come to an agreement. Now if it has to do with household chores, talk about it, if any one of you feels that you are doing more then talk. Another thing that I saw worked is trade chores, between man and women, such as cooking, cleaning, and such as mowing the lawn, pruning the trees, fixing the computer, etc. Sometimes seeing what the other person does will shed a light on the whole chore thing. But you know what the best piece of advice that I can give in regards to household chores or family life…is ask for HELP…simply ask your significant other to do something in particular, you will be amazed that if you ask nicely they will be glad to do it

The whole communication thingy in relationships seems to only work if the two people involved do it together, any other way does not work and will more than likely lead to problems.

But back to the intimacy thingy, which I find to be a very important part of any relationship, because intimacy not only is good sexually, but emotionally it has its affects…it brings people together, if you communicate. And if you think about it, intimacy is when everyone is most vulnerable and usually let go of their inhibitions. So if you want it to be a certain way or you like it a certain way…they tell them. You are just as important or better said you should be satisfied sexually as much as the other person, and believe if you are a women, guys want to make their women happy…and they – we – men - will listen, believe me…we will. So guys and gals, talk, tell each other what you like and it will be great.

Heck…I probably blogged about this same topic a million times, but everyday as I wake up and go to work, go to the gym go to the store or just go out…I see that people never really communicate about anything and nothing ever gets resolved, it saddens me…to see our society go “Texting”, emailing and never physically talking anymore.

My perspective:
Communication has been an essential part of any relationship, lovers, friends, family, and yet it is so hard for anyone of us to do, yet it can seriously fix a lot of personal problems or at least clear them up…so do it. The next time you are intimate with your significant other and there is something she or he is not doing right or maybe they are doing right, let them know. It will be great for you and them and everyone will be happy. Talk don’t yell, breath don’t hyper-ventilate, listen – really listen and say good morning, afternoon or evening instead of texting.

Thanks for reading till next time Latino Man signing off.

Office Dress Attire –

I wanted to touch on this topic, I found it interesting to see how different people react to what different people are wearing, especially ‘Women’. Its amazing how women eye-ball other women or better said how women judge, criticize or well…you know…check them out from head to toe.
So anyways, I noticed not only at my current job, but of course when I look back I realized that, and please don’t take this the wring way, but…when a women that is big & voluptuous…wears a low-cut blouse…no one really says anything. But if a slim & voluptuous woman happens to wear a low-cut blouse….they get pulled into the office and asked to cover up or go home and change.

My thing is WHY? I mean seriously in a professional office on should dress professionally, there is nothing of course wrong with a women or man dressing a little provocative, but in a tasteful manner. If a woman has her friends hanging out or nearly falling out…whether they are big or slim it should not  be allowed….of course that statement comes with also whom is in charge. Now, if it so happens that management is a male, most women that happen to dress that way will be allowed to…of course if a female co-worker complains then we know what happens, but once again if that is the case usually if it is a slim & voluptuous women the co-worker, being a women will complain…but if she is big & voluptuous…it’s allowed…other women would see it as, “You Go Girl”. But if she is slim its more like, “That tramp, see how she flaunts everything, that’s degrading to all women”. Yah…you know it is true. Now, women bosses of course depending can go either way…but once again if the boss happens to be a big women and a slim women happens to wear something…she gets called in…I see this enough through my 20 years of office jobs.

So my thing is that why is that so…if a women big or small & possibly voluptuous happens to wear something provocative but in a tasteful manner…let them…heck if it does not affect their work…why not. I come to realize that women when they feel good about what they have on, they usually have a great day and it shows. Anyhow…my whole issue here or complaint or whatever you want to call it…is why the stereo typing or labeling. And you know this isn’t a new thing…it’s been around for a long time…heck…we have all seeing it or have participated in it somehow or other.

My Perspective:
Everyone should follow the rules or better said…the same rules and if someone happens to break them…approach them…only if it affects the job duties or process. Only saying that the clothing does not perform the job, it is the person inside them…but I understand all to well that we live in a society where everyone is different and we can never make everyone happy.

Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing off.