Bedroom Tricks That Take Practically Zero Effort
by John Ortved, Single-ish, Glamour Magazine, on Fri May 7, 2010 2:10pm PDT

"She came up behind me, and all of a sudden my shorts were on the ground and I was in her mouth--I didn't even have time to put my toothbrush down!" This was recounted to me by my friend Ty (though he won't let me see his birth certificate, he insists that it's just "Ty"--not short for Tyler or Tyrone--just "Ty"), who's been dating the same woman for three years, and is as amazed as I am that their sex life is still fantastic.

Ty thinks that the biggest problem with fading sex lives isn't disinterest, but laziness; we fall into routines and we don't want to expend the effort it takes to break them. So, from Ty, myself and our friends (both girls and guys), here are three bedroom tricks that take almost no effort at all:

1. Bathroom Surprise
This involves your own version of the above, NOT kicking down the door when he's in there with the newspaper. Couples end up spending all kinds of time together in the bathroom--while she's prepping and he's showering, brushing their teeth together at night, etc--what worked for Ty was that his girlfriend's oral gift came totally unexpectedly (not 10 minutes later, when they were both in bed and sex was expected). There was a loss of control there too, which is nice for guys, like "I'm in the middle of brushing my teeth...Woahh.....ohhhh."

2. Show Don’t Tell
Many of our friends, of both sexes, like the idea of being tied up (gently), blindfolded, or a little (or a lot of) spanking. But when he or she asks permission first, some of the magic is lost. The fun, for him is the mischievous look on her face as she puts his hands above his head, and out of nowhere come the silk neck ties, or for her the sensation of all of a sudden being over his knee. Though this isn’t to say there aren’t sexy ways to ask; my friend Sienna says it drives her boyfriend to the brink when she asks him to do very naughty things in her cutest, gentlest voice)

3. Turn Off the World The phone goes off. Same with the TV, the Internet, the alarm clock and the radio. There is something magical, and very sexy, about the only noise in the room being the sounds of contact, and each other’s grunts and moans (part of me wants to retype that sentence—there is no word less sexy than “grunt”—but let’s be frank, that’s what they are, so it stays). When you put the focus on each other, you discover whole new things about each other, and whole new ways to please each other, and if it’s not clear yet, the unexpected can be the sexiest thing of all.

My Perspective:
Don't hold back, what happens betwen a man and a women while they are making love is beyond words, if things go correctly it could and should be an expereince that neither one of you will ever forget. The touching, the caressing, the kissing, the fondeling, the oral sex, the different positions, who takes control, well taking turns is fantastic. Never forget, when it comes time to get down and dirty, don't hold back, let go and enjoy.

Thanks for reading till next time...Latino Man signing off.

5 Tips For Outdoor Sex
By YourTango, on Tue Apr 20, 2010 1:00pm PDT

Ah, spring. Sweat, sunshine, Earth Day and jacket-less evenings of pasty limbs and exposed toes always makes us think of…outdoor sex! Here's a handy list to ensure the romp doesn't turn into a nasty public nudity ticket or unfortunate rash.

1. Be alert.
Getting frisky al fresco is all fine and dandy, but nothing turns a saucy romp in the grass from titillating to mortifying quicker then locking eyes with a small child and disapproving mother. Depending on where you're getting down and dirty, it would behoove you to be extra alert to your surroundings. If you're on a hike and decide to be one with nature, fine, but be extra paranoid about a rustle of leaves or serenade of breaking twigs. It's better to be safe (and unfinished) then sorry (with your pants down).

2. Dress appropriately.
Ladies: make it easy and wear a skirt or dress. And men, avoid belts or tight pants. If you want to go commando, even better. But select your outfit carefully and be prepared to disrobe, get busy and then get presentable fast.

3. Bring a blanket.
We learned the hard way to avoid getting sand tucked into certain crevices where it doesn't belong, so if you want sex on the beach bring a generous-sized blanket. Likewise, rocks, sticks, burrs and other parts of nature are prettier to look at than to grind on—trust us.

4. Otherwise, best to do it standing up.
If you have the stamina, standing up is probably the best position for knocking boots outdoors. The shrubbery always looks much more comfortable than it actually is.

5. Come prepared.
Outdoor sex is more about novelty than having the best sex ever, but you might as well up your pleasure quotient with a few easy tricks. Namely, bring lubrication. Getting it on outside is challenging enough without trying to navigate foreplay, so let lube works its magic instead (scentless—no need to attract bugs). Likewise, being one with nature is no excuse not to protect yourself. Bring condoms or your choice of contraceptive, and please take them with you when you're finished. Nothing ruins a good time like happening upon someone's used Trojan.

My Perspective:
Anywhere, anytime, just remember enjoy.
Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man Signing Off.