I Have the Issue - ???

So I wanted to get your opinion, or well, maybe not an opinion, but I wanted to share my situation. This was brought up during a heated discussion, just like many couples people argue about different things and one of the most common things is finances. Now, I have already moved on, but in a recent discussion, this was brought up…more of a blame on me for what was happening, but like I shared with her I wanted to share with you…see if maybe I was in the wrong, so please read on.

So, let’s just say…your significant other build widgets and after all costs, make a profit of $100 dollars. Ok, so you really don’t know what the make, but if you see 10 widgets shipped per week, then you can conclude that they are selling 10 widgets a week for $100 dollars each, and this is continuous…ok. So you guess-timate $1000 per week, but when it comes time to deposit into your mutual bank...it is 1500 every 2-weeks…so you ask yourself…what is going on with the other $500…so you ask and they tell you that NO, they deposited all the money…and other reasons. But I ask, I work a full-time job, bust my hump and I am a Realtor and Loan specialist, I also have my Notary license and I run a website business…so I believe that I have the right to get cranky, because every month if you struggle to make ends meet…you end up getting tired and frustrated, because you know there are an additional 1000 a month that you have no clue where it is going. Wait…I am using this as an example, in my case it is thousands of dollars a month un-accounted for…and when I ask…they get defensive and worst of they wonder why I am in such a PISSY mood everyday.

So I ask, if you had a partner that you could guess pretty darn close what the make and you noticed they don’t deposit a lot of it…wouldn’t you be a little PISSY? Especially if you BUST your hump to provide...towards the family. That was the last discussion I was in, why was I always in a bad mood and it wasn’t nice to live with someone that was always in a bad mood…so…I guess I was the problem in this relationship.

You know though, I hear her talking to her friends and I hear some conversation about the husbands…I heard one where the husband got upset and threw out the wife in her underwear and bra in the middle of the night…she had to walk/run more blocks to get to her moms house. Ok, then I hear one where the husband won’t change a diaper, won’t cook, won’t clean, won’t do a single thing around the house to help and they both work. He comes home late or whenever he likes and expects a warm dinner and a warm bed, then I heard one of the husbands does not allow her to wear lowcut shirts, short dresses or tight dresses, no shorts, no bathing suites, no makeup, she cannot go out with friends, unless he is there…wait…the best part is, he goes out with his friends and stays out late hours of the night…no..wait, he sometimes does not come home, he verbally abuses her..seriously…pretty much she is locked up in a 10,000 square foot mansion…with no outside connection…so you tell me…I was the issue here.

Now, I am not perfect at all, I have a temper, but it takes a lot to get that out, but I don’t care what she wears, I prefer sexy, I don’t mind she goes out with friends, she can come home whenever…I trust her, she can pretty much buy anything, within reason, I don’t argue over petty things, I work hard, as I said, I have a fulltime job, make good money, I am a realtor, close deals, I have my notary, have provided services, run a website, pays for itself and provides a little money..which all goes directly into our mutual account…come…I guess I am the problem. So with that said, I decided to move on and make everyone happy…by removing the problem from the equation.

But what drives me bananas is all those other husbands or boyfriends getting away with it and I have a problem…the problem of being lied to in the face…I guess being lied to is not wrong…if no one really pays attention to it…I guess. Anyhow, thanks for reading and I hope to write some more.
For now, Latino Man signing off...wishing you a calm day, one where you can maybe ignore the issues for just a little while.

Who Starts the Fights in Your House?

Welcome back to another post. I know…I know it’s been some time since I have posted, but I am here now and I have an interesting topic. I was at the store picking up some things and I over heard…hey…when you have a blog you need to keep an ear out for any interesting topics…lol. Ok so I heard these two ladies talking about their husbands and the arguments they are always in…well one of them said something interesting…she asked the other, “So who starts the fights in your House?”. I was intrigue because now a days you always hear about the arguments between couples and its is becoming more and more common in relationships. So, me having a blog and wanting to hear what the average population thinks about this I went about and asked. So, here is the question:

“Who starts the fights in your house?”

Now, this was interesting, but all but 1 of the women I asked said they start the fights…they giggled a bit…actually they all did when they said it. Now as for the men, all except one, again, said their wife, girlfriend start the fights. I was surprised. So I went about telling some folks what I found out and the people I told started thinking and once again all the women, in this series, said they start the fights and it made them think…once they finished thinking…again they giggled. I was surprised to the results and most importantly the honesty…it was a very interesting topic and results.

So I ask you, “Who starts the fight in your house?”

My Perspective:
Ok so I stood back and started thinking about my fights or better said arguments in my household and sure enough…most of them were started by my significant other…hmm. I am not saying that I didn’t start a few, but the majority of them were started by my significant other…very interesting. I brought this to my dearest and she started giggling, get that response from most of the women, and she agreed…I was TOTALLY surprised on her response…because that’s the first time she has ever agreed on something…lol. So what do I think, well most of these fights or better said arguments I believe could be handled or resolved with no need to argue/yell….because all that does is bring up lingering past issues and that could lead to a whole other fight. My perspective…talk….communicate, I think with some inter changing of a civilized conversation it could get resolved…yah…yah…I know…talking in you house or anyone’s house…nope…it all ends up being a huge yelling fest…go figure.

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