by John Ortved, Single-ish, Glamour Magazine, on Fri May 7, 2010 2:10pm PDT
"She came up behind me, and all of a sudden my shorts were on the ground and I was in her mouth--I didn't even have time to put my toothbrush down!" This was recounted to me by my friend Ty (though he won't let me see his birth certificate, he insists that it's just "Ty"--not short for Tyler or Tyrone--just "Ty"), who's been dating the same woman for three years, and is as amazed as I am that their sex life is still fantastic.
Ty thinks that the biggest problem with fading sex lives isn't disinterest, but laziness; we fall into routines and we don't want to expend the effort it takes to break them. So, from Ty, myself and our friends (both girls and guys), here are three bedroom tricks that take almost no effort at all:
1. Bathroom Surprise
This involves your own version of the above, NOT kicking down the door when he's in there with the newspaper. Couples end up spending all kinds of time together in the bathroom--while she's prepping and he's showering, brushing their teeth together at night, etc--what worked for Ty was that his girlfriend's oral gift came totally unexpectedly (not 10 minutes later, when they were both in bed and sex was expected). There was a loss of control there too, which is nice for guys, like "I'm in the middle of brushing my teeth...Woahh.....ohhhh."
2. Show Don’t Tell
Many of our friends, of both sexes, like the idea of being tied up (gently), blindfolded, or a little (or a lot of) spanking. But when he or she asks permission first, some of the magic is lost. The fun, for him is the mischievous look on her face as she puts his hands above his head, and out of nowhere come the silk neck ties, or for her the sensation of all of a sudden being over his knee. Though this isn’t to say there aren’t sexy ways to ask; my friend Sienna says it drives her boyfriend to the brink when she asks him to do very naughty things in her cutest, gentlest voice)
3. Turn Off the World The phone goes off. Same with the TV, the Internet, the alarm clock and the radio. There is something magical, and very sexy, about the only noise in the room being the sounds of contact, and each other’s grunts and moans (part of me wants to retype that sentence—there is no word less sexy than “grunt”—but let’s be frank, that’s what they are, so it stays). When you put the focus on each other, you discover whole new things about each other, and whole new ways to please each other, and if it’s not clear yet, the unexpected can be the sexiest thing of all.
My Perspective:
Don't hold back, what happens betwen a man and a women while they are making love is beyond words, if things go correctly it could and should be an expereince that neither one of you will ever forget. The touching, the caressing, the kissing, the fondeling, the oral sex, the different positions, who takes control, well taking turns is fantastic. Never forget, when it comes time to get down and dirty, don't hold back, let go and enjoy.
Thanks for reading till next time...Latino Man signing off.
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