The Economy – Are You Serious

So, I am sure you seen the big bail out of Greece, nearly $1 Trillion in a rescue package. Yah the first day it was approved the stock market shot up, but now look at it, today May 14, 2010, it is down 170 points. And the news flash concerns on Greece, Spain and Portugal tightening up its economy/market. Come on now, are you serious, how much more money, that we do not have, are we going to give out. Your are telling me that there won’t be other countries asking for relief as well. That once they see that money is being given away, countries won’t be asking for a piece of the pie. But how much more pie is there, wait, ok, so really what this means is that we are borrowing from the future money, we don’t have yet, but somehow we will be paying that for the next 30 or 40 years, hey wait maybe out kids…kids will continue to pay.

I’m only saying, how many times are the Countries Governments going to dip their hands into the cookie jar? So you tell me this, when the US gets a Junk Rating, who will bail the US out, do you think that $1 Trillion dollars would do the trick for the US, by the time it happens, hopefully it never happens, but let’s assume it did happen, wouldn’t that be a scary situation.

You know everyone can point the finger and blame the housing market, then they can direct the blame to the Brokers, then everyone can point their fingers to the Lenders. Wait, why stop there, lets point the fingers to the Oil companies, oh come on…I think since there are so many people pointing fingers, hmm…let’s just say 1000 people, each with 10 fingers, hmm that comes out to 10,000 fingers that we can all point to someone else, right. Are you serious, I mean come on…people, step back and take a deep breath and let’s really get to the bottom of this. Stop listening to the Media, we all know that bad news sells, so why listen to the Media’s over inflated concerns, tactics, used to delivery news, so as to make it more dramatic…you know this and I know this.

Now, first of all the Governments need to stop handing out money like it is growing on trees, unless there is something I don’t know and it is, but really stop handing out money. Ok, I am struggling like many Americans and actually people in other countries, no raise in 3 years, hours cut, and prices of everything going up. Ok, don’t come crying to me about being out of a job, and loosing your house, car, boats, etc. Ok…just because I haven’t got there YET, doesn’t mean I won’t be soon. Let’s all just take a deep breath, again, and try to resolve the issues, real issues, and not just give out money like it’s a new fad - wait it is a new fad. I’m not all saying I could run things better, or that my ideas will work for everyone and every situation, because in life nothing is exactly the same and everything has exceptions…to exceptions. But the countries need to put a foot down, wait…no not the government…the PEOPLE need to put their foot down and demand, real solutions…remember this, Lao Tzu - "Give a Man a Fish, Feed Him For a Day. Teach a Man to Fish, Feed Him For a Lifetime".

Lets learn from this, really, lets not look back and start thinking about what we need to do for the future, a better future, the mistakes we did, who we allowed to make ridiculous mistakes, mainly our government…I am only saying. The people need to take back what is rightfully theirs…and start fresh and make things happen. One voice can make a difference, but imagine the MASSES, all our voices as one, yah ok…may sound far fetch, but we can do it.

What am I getting at, We the people need to put our foot down and stop letting these politicians make decisions that we obviously do not agree with and are obviously going to hurt us more and our children. Yah some of you are saying, yah your one to talk, how come you are not doing something, well I am, I started with this post and hope that some where someone will click and start the process. We need to stand together and stop pointing fingers and work towards a REAL solution.

My perspective:
When you point a finger, three point right back to you. so really are you serious. Lets step back and take a deep breath and stop allowing these politicians in making decision we don’t agree on. Let’s make our voice heard and put a foot down. We need real solutions, instead of all this money being giving away. That’s my thoughts, personal feelings and I could go on, but remember I am not saying I am right, or that what I am saying is concrete…only sharing my idea and hope to rile up some folks.

Thanks for reading, till next time…be safe….listen closely…don’t believe everything you read, instead actually read between lines, because if a story sounds to good to be true, it usually has a hidden agenda.

Socializing – What ever Happen to Meeting Someone for Coffee or Drinks?

Socializing

Something I have come to realize, not that I wasn’t aware of it before, just that I really did not pay attention to it. The thing I noticed, is people really do not socialize any more. Everything is done through emails, social sites, such as Face Book, My Space, Link In and many other social sites out there that maybe don’t get the media attention they should. But, I remember a time when people went out, got together with friends, for some drinks, places where you met other people, maybe leading to a date or maybe a new friend. Sometimes the club scene was a place to go and meet that possible special someone, ok, maybe that is now far behind us and maybe you can’t meet the Ms. Right or Mr. Right at clubs, but it doesn’t mean you didn’t have fun doing it. Maybe at church gatherings, or a BBQ at a friends house, something outside your home, where you actually interact with people.

See now, a day’s people use the Internet and social sites to share, pictures, thoughts, send happy birthdays and so much more. The actual human interaction is no longer there. I mean, when you are at work, how many times do you actually say “Good Morning” to someone or a simple hello. I think in years to come, people might have an issue with human interaction. Ok, I am not trying to take it to the extreme, just saying that we have come to rely on computers for everything and we simply sit at our computers and email someone a happy birthday or upload pictures to a site. Then in return we go onto friend’s and family’s site and look at pictures, comments placed by friends or family just to see what’s new in their life. I remember when cell phones were big, people were on the phone talking all the time for hours, but never bothering to actually see a friend. Now, we have Text Messaging, so forget hearing a human voice, we now see encrypted text messages, such as, “ROFL, :oP (funny faces), OMG, TMI, LOL, and so many more characters”.

Social sites and how we communicate these days, is incredible. The funny thing is, I am a HUGE person on communication between people, couples and marriage; but you know when you log into a social site and read what your loved one is thinking or doing, then I think lack of communication has been taken to a whole new level. I mean if you can’t sit with your significant other and talk person to person, but instead both of you sit at a computer looking at each others Face book and laugh about what happen to them that day, I mean all through a social network, is that now the new fad on relationships.

Does anyone remember Judge Dredd, with Sylvester Stallone, in the movie if you recall Sandra Bullock character explained that intimacy was no longer required/allowed and it was a whole Utopia kind a of world; well don’t be surprised if we continue on this path to social sites and no human interaction, that we will end up just like that. Oi.

So come folks, Peeps, Homies, Compadres, distinguished ladies and gentlemen…lets get out and mingle with live humans. So, everyone get up and go out…don’t be shy and share your thoughts, pictures and happy birthdays - in person.

My Perspective:
Social sites are great, and I am not knocking them out…ok. I just think that people need not replace these sites with actual human interaction. I know sometimes family or friends are far away in other cities, other states maybe other countries, but you know. If you can take a few hours to drive to visit with them, do so, take with you a photo album, share your ideas and experiences. Ok some of us don’t get along with family or maybe friends for that matter and actually sitting with them can lead to huge arguments, but we can’t let a few bad apples push us away from interacting with people or letting someone shoot you down because you believe in something else than they do…I mean everyone is entitled to their opinion, belief, can you imagine how boring it would be if everyone agreed on everything, one color, one type of drink, one channel…no…variety makes life interesting and how we handle the criticism, the arguments or the lemons that are thrown at us is what makes us stronger and more open minded to the many wonderful things that life has to offer. Enjoy Face Book, enjoy the email and text messages, but don’t forget how enjoyable it is talking to someone in person, laughing, seeing there facial expressions, their reactions and just simply enjoying their company….I would rather sit in person, and talk to a person, have a drink, maybe a cup of coffee, a beer, a glass of wine, what ever makes each person happy…talk, listen, laugh, learn and most importantly enjoy the company.

Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing off, and remember, next time you think about emailing, texting, or placing a post on your Face Book Wall, stop and call the person, get together with them and enjoy each others company.

Bedroom Tricks That Take Practically Zero Effort
by John Ortved, Single-ish, Glamour Magazine, on Fri May 7, 2010 2:10pm PDT

"She came up behind me, and all of a sudden my shorts were on the ground and I was in her mouth--I didn't even have time to put my toothbrush down!" This was recounted to me by my friend Ty (though he won't let me see his birth certificate, he insists that it's just "Ty"--not short for Tyler or Tyrone--just "Ty"), who's been dating the same woman for three years, and is as amazed as I am that their sex life is still fantastic.

Ty thinks that the biggest problem with fading sex lives isn't disinterest, but laziness; we fall into routines and we don't want to expend the effort it takes to break them. So, from Ty, myself and our friends (both girls and guys), here are three bedroom tricks that take almost no effort at all:

1. Bathroom Surprise
This involves your own version of the above, NOT kicking down the door when he's in there with the newspaper. Couples end up spending all kinds of time together in the bathroom--while she's prepping and he's showering, brushing their teeth together at night, etc--what worked for Ty was that his girlfriend's oral gift came totally unexpectedly (not 10 minutes later, when they were both in bed and sex was expected). There was a loss of control there too, which is nice for guys, like "I'm in the middle of brushing my teeth...Woahh.....ohhhh."

2. Show Don’t Tell
Many of our friends, of both sexes, like the idea of being tied up (gently), blindfolded, or a little (or a lot of) spanking. But when he or she asks permission first, some of the magic is lost. The fun, for him is the mischievous look on her face as she puts his hands above his head, and out of nowhere come the silk neck ties, or for her the sensation of all of a sudden being over his knee. Though this isn’t to say there aren’t sexy ways to ask; my friend Sienna says it drives her boyfriend to the brink when she asks him to do very naughty things in her cutest, gentlest voice)

3. Turn Off the World The phone goes off. Same with the TV, the Internet, the alarm clock and the radio. There is something magical, and very sexy, about the only noise in the room being the sounds of contact, and each other’s grunts and moans (part of me wants to retype that sentence—there is no word less sexy than “grunt”—but let’s be frank, that’s what they are, so it stays). When you put the focus on each other, you discover whole new things about each other, and whole new ways to please each other, and if it’s not clear yet, the unexpected can be the sexiest thing of all.

My Perspective:
Don't hold back, what happens betwen a man and a women while they are making love is beyond words, if things go correctly it could and should be an expereince that neither one of you will ever forget. The touching, the caressing, the kissing, the fondeling, the oral sex, the different positions, who takes control, well taking turns is fantastic. Never forget, when it comes time to get down and dirty, don't hold back, let go and enjoy.

Thanks for reading till next time...Latino Man signing off.

Adding Spice to Your Marriage Sans The Extra Marital "Spice"
by Kevin, 13 hours ago

Variety helps a relationship move forward and helps keep it interesting. A woman can add variety to a relationship through various means. She should also be aware of the various ways to turn on the man. Find some useful tips here.

It’s a fact that men are more prone to boredom than women. This fact could spell disaster in the bedroom if a woman is not careful. If they can give a man variety in a relationship, there is nothing like it. Women could start off, by learning about the man’s anatomy and how to go about stimulating its various parts to stimulate him to a state of arousal. Don’t think that a man’s anatomy is only about his penis. It’s much more than that. By knowing these parts, doesn’t mean reading about them. Knowing, in this case is about knowing how to caress, lick and kiss in the right places.

Couples, relationship and boredom
A relationship needs its share of spice to keep afloat. If there is no spice, the relationship becomes monotonous. A couple can soon become bored of such a relationship and boredom is the silent killer of a relationship. A small amount of boredom is acceptable as one can’t bring variety in a relationship all the time. If a couple does not find the relationship interesting enough, they see no point in going forward with it. The trick is to keep adding a bit of interest quotient now and then. Both the man, as well as, the woman in the relationship, are responsible for it and should try making it exciting by adding some fun now and then to the proceedings.

Variety - Why is it needed?
Variety is the spice of life. This is true for a relationship, as well. Variety is an important facet of relationship. Variety could come in many forms and can also be a part of your sexual activity. A woman should know how to turn her man on, and use this knowledge to spice up the relationship. All good things come in small packages, so should variety in sex. Much as it is important to know the turn ons for a man, it is even more important to know the turn offs. If a woman adds variety, there is no doubt that the man will come to appreciate her better and will never want to let go of her. Variety can be regarded as the foundation of a healthy and a successful relationship. It’s the fuel that propels the relationship ahead.

Tip 1: The role of a caring mother
One way of adding variety is by adopting the role of nurturing mother. You must assume the role of somebody who actually cares for him and wants him to be happy at all times. Take care of him when he is sick, make sure that he is well taken care of, and be there when he needs you. Being a mother is all about being confident of your role as a woman in his life. Men find this kind of confidence sexy.

Tip 2: The little girl
The little girl needs her daddy! Make him feel wanted and needed. Most men need to feel like a hero and your little girl approach will make him feel like the most important person of your life. You can also get naughty at times, especially in the bedroom. Of course, using the little girl approach doesn’t mean letting go of all the responsibilities, but it’s about having some fun with your man. Say he likes baseball; hang out with him when he is watching the game. The little girl needs to take interest in her man’s hobbies.

Tip 3: The seductive lover
Every man loves a seductive lover; somebody who is uninhibited and knows just how to arouse and satisfy him. She can heat things up for him and give him some unforgettable sexual experiences. By not being inhibited, it will give you an opportunity to try new thing together with your partner. It could include role playing, enacting your most private fantasies, giving the man quickies and of course, oral sex.

Turn on your man - Tips
It doesn’t take much to turn on the man. But this doesn’t mean that you don’t make an effort turn him on. Here are a few pointers that can help you turn him on:

• Through communication. You need to be able to tell him what you need and what he wants
• Initiate a sexual adventure. Identify some exciting locations for having sex surprise him by seducing him, when he least expects it
• Men will definitely be turned on by a woman masturbating for him
• Sexy apparel, especially lingerie is a surefire turn on for a man
• Initiate an erotic conversation with him. If he likes talking dirty, talk dirty for him

It’s a process
Infusing variety in a relationship is a process. It’s not necessary that a man will appreciate it the first time that you try it. He might or might not like it. Patience is the key here, as a bit of trial and error will help you get the perfect mix of variety.

My erspective:
I enjoy writing, I do it all day long at work, well maybe not this exciting, but I do. Now, as I think about my topics i also do quite a bit of research and see what other's think about it, and believe me when I say there is a lot of people out there thinking the same way I do. So I find these articles and think to myself, self, why not share these since they represent a bit of what I think. Now, I do not want to change them, common courtesy, so I need to give my perspective at the end and cover the areas I think hit closes to me.

Anyhow, I might sound like a broken record, but I am always on the whole subject of communication, but you know, I thought that this article hit an area I honestly believe needs to be kept up in any relationship. Need to keep the "Spice", need to keep it interesting. Yah some of us loose interest, but you know, if you just open up your mind and allow your self to let loose and imagine the things that would turn you on, then do it; I am sure that your love one will be more than happy to oblige. Now, keep it within reason and before doing anything crazy, make sure you BOTH talk about it before adventuring out and doing it, OK. Surprises are fun, but if one really doesn't like it, then it more than likely will flop, so keep those open lines of communication between the two of you.

Thanks for reading, till next time Latino Man signing off.

How Soon is Too Soon to Have Sex?
Editor by Liz Brody, Shine Staff, on Wed Apr 14, 2010 4:29pm PDT

"Benefits" used to mean life insurance and 401Ks. Now it means sex.

And, yes, Friends With Benefits is so much more fun than actuaries. But here's the question: If he's a friend, and you're, the benefit—or visa versa, or either way—will it go anywhere? I guess what I mean is, if you like him, will you ruin things by being just a benefit rather than the investment? When Elaine tried it back in the Seinfeld days with Jerry, the whole thing was a big nada, nada, nada.

Anthony Paik, PhD, a sociologist at the University of Iowa, set out to answer that question in his new study. Using 1995 data on 783 adults ages 18 to 60, Paik found that one out of five had gotten together with their most recent partner via friends-with-benefits or hook-up sex. He also found that these weren't particularly faithful couplings. "For women, if you start with casual sex, there's a 44 percent higher chance you'll end up in a non-exclusive relationship in comparison to those who start out in a serious relationship," says Paik. By that he means that you'll have multiple lovers; your partner is even more likely (48 percent) to cat around. Jumping into bed within the first week of meeting a guy similarly predicted a non-monogamous future.

Mind you, this is data from 1995. Today, supposedly, FWBs and hookups are even more rampant. And if drive-through sex is not the best route to the altar, as Paik's study suggests, you can just see the writing on the spreadsheet.... husbands going the way of pay phones, Father Knows Best returns as The Orgy Bunch, the whole, sad, "demise of dating," as one New York Times op-ed put it...

"I don't agree."
Hello? That's Helen Fisher, PhD, on the line. One of the best-known love scientists around (and a biological anthropologist at Rutgers), she's written five books on the subject, the last of which is called Why Him? Why Her?

So why, then, doesn't she agree?

THE WHOLE HOOKUP HYSTERIA: It's ridiculous, Fisher sighs. First of all, people have been hooking up for millions of years as a way of starting long-term relationships. "I'm doing a research project myself now with a graduate student at SUNY, Binghamton," she says, "and he has asked 551 college students why they initiated a hookup. Half of the women and 52 percent of the men said they went into it hoping to trigger a longer relationship. And one third of them succeeded."

THE ONE NIGHT STAND: Fisher explains that any kind of sexual stimulation drives up dopamine in the brain. And dopamine is associated with feelings of romantic love. On top of that, orgasm releases hormones that cause attachment. And then there's the learning curve, or curves as the case may be: "You learn a HUGE amount about somebody when you to sleep with him—just a kiss activates 5 of the 12 cranial nerves," she says referring to the senses. "You see his body, feel his rhythms, discover whether he cares enough for you to listen to your needs."

AN IMPORTANT ASIDE: Condoms, ladies.

BACK TO COURTSHIP: "Basically," Fisher says, "there are two ways to get the boy. Either you bed him right away and try to jump-start these brain systems for romantic love and attachment. Or you spend you spend a lot of time getting to know him and hope you can trigger those systems in other ways; then sleep with him. Each one works."

BOTTOM LINE: As a scientist and girlfriend, what does she suggest? "I've tried both," she tells me, laughing, pointing out that in a FWB situation one partner is probably wishing it will turn into something. "You really have to go with your gut. But personally, I think it's wise to wait a few dates. Get to know him a little. Make sure he won't just dump you. And make sure you actually like him. Something happens in the brain when you sleep with someone. Having sex is playing with fire. You could fall in love."

My Perspective:
This is interesting, you see I could definitely give you my opinion and it may sound exactly like a "Guy", but you know, I think if you are two adults, that understand each other completely, are smart, and keep the communication lines open, mutual encounters aren't so bad, because in the end, if the communication is there, then the sex will only be the icing on the cake, and come on...how many of you out there honestly can't say that once you reach orgasm with that someone...it doesn't feel out of this world. I am only saying, it may not be right, it feels right, but as along as the communication is there...there is nothing wrong as far as I could see.

Latino Man signing off, till next time...thanks for reading till next time.